When I was first married, I made it a rule to always wear sexy little nighties to bed. After several months of this nonsense (in my defense I was only 23), I crashed into bed after working late wearing an old ratty t-shirt of my husband's. He immediately rolled over, eyed me up and said, "Oooo…what's this little number?" without a trace of sarcasm. Or irony. Needless to say, the sexy little nighties were relegated to the back of the closet.
The morale of this story? Don't underestimate the power of change. Something different, something novel can be very, very sexy. Even if it's a ratty old t-shirt. It's the frequency that matters.
I suspect, however, that most of us spend more time than we'd like to admit in a ratty old t-shirt. So clearly, I'm not going to advise any mom to show up this Valentine's Day by wearing – surprise!!! – the ratty, spit-up stained t-shirt and sweatpants your man has been looking at for months. Unless you want to whip them off right then and there and do a burning-of-the-sweatpants ritual that involves lots of naked sweaty dancing. Cause if that's what you had in mind then yeah, go ahead. He'll love it.
But for the rest of us, if you want to try and have a special Valentine's Day (it is on a weekend, after all), but don't want to spend the rest of this week dragging a toddler into Victoria's Secret dressing rooms (and you've already missed the online ordering cut-off)….let me offer an easy alternative:
Gilligan & O’Malley® Ultimate 1-pc. Cami : Target, $9.08
Women's shoes/bags: Michael Antonio Torrance – Black, $25
The wear-everywhere push-up bra, $32
NEW! Peek-a-boo ribbon cheeky satin panty, $26
Consider this set a DIY version of lingerie. Find some cute, sexy panties (you probably already have some, but if not you can easily find them anywhere from Target to Neimans), pair with a little cami and add your flirtiest pair of high heels.
Saggy chest? Add a push-up bra.
Poochy stomach? Use a swing-y tank.
Cellulite on your bum? Don't look in the mirror. It's all about attitude anyway.
You can even use your old nursing cami, if necessary. Between the sexy panties, the high heels, and the sheer novelty of Holy Crap! No sweatpants! you are guaranteeing yourself an, "Oooo…what's this little number?"