July 10, 2013

Brave Mama – Shana’s Surgery Was a Success!

Great news, Mamas!  Shana is out of surgery and in recovery.  She underwent a double mastectomy this morning and everything went as well as these things can.  S's doctors tested a number of lymph nodes and they believe, with 90-95 percent accuracy, that the cancer has not spread.  A full biopsy of the removed tissue is necessary, but what this means is that she will probably (hopefully!) be spared a grueling round of chemotherapy.  Please send her your thoughts, prayers and good vibes for a speedy recovery.

Over the past several weeks, it has been difficult to know what to do or say.  But as I spoke to S. yesterday afternoon, sounding more blue than I have ever heard her, I was once again (and it's happened a lot) humbled by her ability to be present, patient and positive with her babies no matter what.

Between snipets of conversation about the surgery, ANMJ and other news, I listened to Pax's high pitched howls of distress as Shana narrated his temper tantrum.  "Pax is mad," she soothed.  "You got frustrated with your train, and now you're mad because it's broken.  Let's put it back together."  As the howls subsided, I thought about how I might have handled the situation differently–less patiently, probably much less successfully, and definitely with less grace. 

We returned to our fractured conversation.  Two moms.  With tired, unreasonable little ones, digging out from under a laundry pile after long summer vacations.  One with a life changing surgery just hours away and all the time in the world to walk her toddler son through his emotions.  And me, reminded once again by Shana's example, of how blessed I am and how easy–and wrongheaded–it is to take this precious time for granted.

Thank you, Ms. S., for being the amazing woman, wonderful mom and incredible friend that you are.  You are brave and strong and beautiful, and we are all cheering for you as you put this part of your life back together. 

xo,

M.

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  • Laura R
    July 10, 2013

    That’s excellent news! Yay Shana!

  • Kate L.
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you so much for this update, M. I know we’ve all been thinking about Shana today.

  • Seanna
    July 10, 2013

    Glad to hear there is good news… xo Wishing you the best during your recovery, Shana.
    Thank you for the story of being patient and present with Pax – an amazing feat of bravery and love. This will stay with me always. Thank you.

  • Crunchy Con Mom
    July 10, 2013

    Hurray Shana!!

  • Stephanie
    July 10, 2013

    Wonderful news!! Have had you and your family in my heart!
    xo Stephanie

  • Dee
    July 10, 2013

    She has been in my thoughts. Best wishes!

  • Law Mama Liz
    July 10, 2013

    Thanks for keeping us posted! Definitely sending love and light to Shana!

  • Kate
    July 10, 2013

    This whole thing made me cry. I’ve been thinking about Shana all day, and I don’t even know her. Thanks, M… beautiful update.

  • Lacey
    July 10, 2013

    Shana,
    I am praying for your recovery and health. God bless you, your husband, and precious children.
    With love, Lacey

  • candicepatterson@yahoo.com
    July 10, 2013

    So happy to hear everything went well!! I have definitely been thinking about you, fellow Michigander ;) You’re strong and I hope you recover quickly. Un Abrazo, from Mexico :)

  • cindy
    July 10, 2013

    thanks for the update. praying praying!!

  • Naomi
    July 10, 2013

    Excellent news! Keep us updated.

  • Amanda
    July 10, 2013

    Yes, thank you so much for posting this update. My thoughts are with Shana today.

  • sarah goodman
    July 10, 2013

    thank you for updating us. weve all been praying for her!
    xxo

  • heather
    July 10, 2013

    So so so so glad. I’ve been thinking of her and her precious family all day today. Stay strong Shana! Hopefully the worst is behind you and it’s all healing and recovery from here.

  • kilee
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you for keeping us posted! Thinking of her and her family- she really is amazing!

  • Sara
    July 10, 2013

    Way to go! Strong mama!

  • Jen
    July 10, 2013

    Wishing you a speedy recovery! Stay Strong.

  • Sarah
    July 10, 2013

    GO MAMA.

  • pemora
    July 10, 2013

    thank you so much for keeping us posted. despite not knowing nor ever meeting her, i thought about her all day. i’m sending lots of positive thoughts and vibes her way. thanks, again.

  • Beth
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you so much for the update. I have had her and her family on my mind today. Such good news to hear. The positive thoughts and healing wishes are still being sent her way along with lots of love and support.
    Shana- you are truly an inspiration for so many, many reasons.
    xoxo

  • Cortney
    July 10, 2013

    Great news. My thoughts were with her today.

  • MAF
    July 10, 2013

    Wonderful news!

  • Amber
    July 10, 2013

    This post brought tears to my eyes. So happy to hear the positive outcome and sending all good wishes for a speedy recovery.

  • kim
    July 10, 2013

    she’s been on my mind all day – this brought tears to my eyes

  • Lyn
    July 10, 2013

    Wahoo!!!!

  • Heather
    July 10, 2013

    Such good news. I have been thinking about her today. Let her know there are mamas all over the world sending her love.

  • S
    July 10, 2013

    I’ve been thinking of you today, Shana. I’m glad to hear that it went well. Please rest and take care of yourself. I will continue to send positive thoughts and prayers your way.

  • Belinda
    July 10, 2013

    THANK YOU! YAY!! for the update!! Please keep us posted….we don’t know each other but I feel like we do..I can’t stop thinking about her and her family…

  • Maggie
    July 10, 2013

    Prayers for continuing good news. As always, you’re an inspiration, S.

  • Michael E Draugelis
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you for these beautiful words, wishes, and prayers. I’m sitting here, next to a sleeping Shana, overwhelmed by the love from our friends and family. It humbles me to know that our friends include 1000s of beautiful mothers around the world that are all connected through this blog.
    With much love and gratitude,
    Mike D.

  • Sunny
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you for the update (and such a great parenting example). I’m so glad to hear good news. Fingers crossed for no chemo needed!! Lots and lots of healing love!

  • Janice
    July 10, 2013

    Praying for no chemo!!!

  • Jean
    July 10, 2013

    Best wishes and prayers for S and family!

  • Hannah Avery
    July 10, 2013

    Happy to hear Shanna is ok. I will keep praying for you!
    -Hannah

  • Julie Bellina
    July 10, 2013

    Thanks for the update, have been thinking about Shana all day. Big hugs to Shana and her family.

  • kim
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you for letting us know!!! Sending good vibes and hugs from Ontario. xoox

  • Candice
    July 10, 2013

    I’ve been waiting to hear all day…have been thinking about her and worrying like she’s my BFF. It’s amazing how you can connect with someone you’ve never met xoxo

  • Chez
    July 10, 2013

    So glad you’re doing well Shana. I’ll be praying for a quick recovery with minimal pain and an extra measure of cuteness from your littles.

  • K
    July 10, 2013

    Thinking of you

  • Mary
    July 10, 2013

    So well said. Sending all the best…

  • Kat
    July 10, 2013

    Tearing up reading this. Great news for S. If there’s anything I (as another blogger)/we as readers can do to help, let us know.

  • Rebecca
    July 10, 2013

    So happy the surgery was a success. I am thinking of you and your family.

  • Elena
    July 10, 2013

    This is good news. Thank you for passing on such a sweet story of a wonderful momma.

  • Mel
    July 10, 2013

    Keep going S! You rock :)

  • Jennifer
    July 10, 2013

    Thanks so much for the update. I am so glad for her. Keep on rocking.

  • Melissa
    July 10, 2013

    Thank you for the update. Shana- Sending positive thoughts your way and wishing you a speedy recovery.

  • Laura
    July 10, 2013

    Go Shana go! You touch a lot of people who are all rooting for you.

  • Lori
    July 10, 2013

    Sending love and wishes xxx

  • Laura
    July 10, 2013

    I’m thinking of you, Shana– you are an inspiration in so many ways, and I hope all the good energy you’ve shared with so many through this blog and elsewhere is returning to you now to bring you comfort, strength, and healing. So glad to hear the surgery went well!

  • RL
    July 11, 2013

    Bravo, Shana! So humbling and emotional – you are a great example to us all.

  • Vera
    July 11, 2013

    You go, Shana! Best wishes! x

  • jpj
    July 11, 2013

    Praising God for your successful surgery, Shana. Here’s a link to the blog of a friend who is also fighting cancer (www.thekennedycrew.blogspot.com). She is going through chemo and it sounds like (thankfully) you won’t have to, but she is nonetheless a kindred spirit who understands the dark times. Blessings to you!

  • JAL
    July 11, 2013

    Yay Shana! Sending good vibes your way for a smooth recovery!
    Through the time I’ve been following your blog, I’ve loved how you are both stylish and smart, and how you also model a loving, child-centered mothering style, while still being real and honest about all the crazy situations we find ourselves in as mothers.
    ((hugs))

  • niliu
    July 11, 2013

    yeah, shana…great news…wishing you a speedy recovery..you go girl!!

  • Ginny
    July 11, 2013

    Fighting back tears. So happy to hear Shana is doing well.

  • Sara
    July 11, 2013

    Tears.
    And what a wonderful friend you are to narrate such a challenging situation so well.
    Love & Prayers to Shana.

  • Jess Z.
    July 11, 2013

    Makes me want to be a better listener and more patient with my kids…thank you for the update, love to Shana :)

  • Ana
    July 11, 2013

    Beautiful words and a great lesson. Sending healing thoughts and love to Shana and her family.

  • Brenda
    July 11, 2013

    Beautiful words for a beautiful mama! Good luck, Shanna!

  • Lois
    July 11, 2013

    Hooray! So glad to hear this! And what beautiful words:) All the best to Shana and her family.

  • Bethany
    July 11, 2013

    Thank you for updating us all! And yay for successful surgery! What high praise for Shana and such a humble attitude as we are all reminded to be thankful for lives, our little ones, and the little things in life. We are all there with you in spirit as you recover!

  • Irina
    July 11, 2013

    Sending love and support to Shana!

  • Kate
    July 11, 2013

    Thanks for the update! Sending prayers and healing Shana’s way…

  • Holly
    July 11, 2013

    What a beautiful person you are, Shana. Thinking of you and sending healing thoughts!

  • Victoria
    July 11, 2013

    Wishing you a speedy recovery, Shana! So sorry that you are having to go through this. I love your posts and your fashion. Hugs to you and your family.

  • Michelle
    July 11, 2013

    Tearing up as I read this. Shana is such a good mom and a good person. So glad her surgery went well. Sending prayers and good thoughts! OXOX

  • Lizz
    July 11, 2013

    I never comment, but I read and I’ve been praying.

  • Polina
    July 11, 2013

    I am so moved and inspired by Shana’s spirit. She is truly amazing. For as long as i have followed this blog i wished i had a friend like her in real life. I wish her speedy recovery and complete healing, mind body and soul with all my heart!

  • Polina
    July 11, 2013

    I am so moved and inspired by Shana’s spirit. She is truly amazing. For as long as i have followed this blog i wished i had a friend like her in real life. I wish her speedy recovery and complete healing, mind body and soul with all my heart!

  • Kay
    July 11, 2013

    Thanks for letting us know how things went, M.
    I have been thinking of you, Shana, and I continue to send love, strength and peace to you and your family.

  • Emilie
    July 11, 2013

    Sending good vibes To Shana, cheers to her fabulous courage and vitality!

  • Heather
    July 11, 2013

    It’s amazing to feel connected to someone via this blog that I’ve never met but feel deeply for your situation. I pray for your healing and that you will feel God’s presence as you recover.

  • Elizabeth
    July 11, 2013

    Lurker who never comments, but reads the blog daily:
    Shana, you are such an inspiring, powerful woman, and we are all rooting for you. So pleased to hear that the surgery went well!

  • Becky & Meara
    July 11, 2013

    We love you. So much! Xoxo

  • Jennifer
    July 11, 2013

    Good vibes coming your way. :)

  • Alicia
    July 11, 2013

    First – SO glad all went as well as could be hoped! M, this is a beautiful post.
    Shana, I’ve been trying to find the right words for you since your first post on your diagnosis. In so many situations words can do powerful important things. The right words can shift the tide. They can even appease a sweet toddler’s tantrum! So it is REALLY annoying when words cannot do what you want them to do, ya know?
    I finally acquiesced to the fact that this is just one of those crap moments where words fail. Damn. But in this odd cyber world, words, it seems, are all there is to offer. So, along with so many others, I am (and have been) sending you and your family lots of virtual hugs, love, and strength and wishing I could do more.
    You are an awesome, inspiring mama. And how cool is it that you have love and good wishes coming to you from all over the world! That is some serious mom power coming at you. Rock on, strong mama! Hoping you will be home snuggling with your babies very soon. xo

  • stephanie m.
    July 11, 2013

    S, I hope with all my heart you recover quickly and are back on your feet in no time! I know this couldn’t be easy and I’m among the throngs of mamas pulling for you. And thank you for the beautiful post and update, M. And for reminding me to handle my little rugrats’ freak-outs and tantrums with a little more grace as well. :)

  • Anda
    July 11, 2013

    All the best to you awesome mama! You’re my inspiration with your humor, wit and perseverance, not to mention fabulous style! Sending positive vibes your way for a swift recovery and many many more years enjoying your kids, future grand kids, and future great grandkids.

  • Jennifer F
    July 11, 2013

    Tearing up as I read these beautiful words to describe an AMAZING person who is so much to so many. Best wishes for a speedy recovery and fingers crossed for good news to come!

  • angelablackwell72@gmail.com
    July 12, 2013

    So glad for YOU and your family that the surgury went so well. :) I love this blog and I thought the very least I could do in return for the (enjoyment/relateableness/entertainment/fashion tips you provide….)was to reach out and say “yay! yay! yay!” :) So relieved for you! I hope you recover quickly and everything is smooth sailing from here!
    xoxoxo’s,
    Angela, 2 yr old George and soon to be baby brother!

  • Vanessa
    July 12, 2013

    Shana amazes me! Saying prayers for her and her family for a quick recovery and a beautiful life for them.

  • marjorie
    July 12, 2013

    Thinking of you Shana and wish you lots of strength! You’ll be just fine! :)

  • Erin
    July 12, 2013

    So glad to hear it went well. Praying for a speedy recovery.

  • Lindsey
    July 12, 2013

    Such good news, Shana! Was waiting for this update, thinking of you, my internet friend. Still praying for you, don’t be afraid to take the pain meds!! Thanks for the update, M!

  • Emily
    July 12, 2013

    wishing strength and patience and comfort through the recovery. I’ve been down this road myself, and I’m cheering you on. one medicated night at a time!

  • connie
    July 15, 2013

    So glad to hear the positive news–sending my wishes for a smooth and speedy recovery!

  • Val
    July 15, 2013

    Man..she is one strong lady I must say. Prayers, hugs and many thoughts go her way. I have 2 little ones and can not imagine how hard this journey is.

  • Holly Hester
    July 16, 2013

    Shana, I have been thinking about you! I hope everything is going well and please know you have so much support from women everywhere!

  • Wendi H
    July 20, 2013

    Amazed by you Shana. Sending well wishes for your recovery, health and family.

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