January 20, 2017

Good Luck This Weekend….

downloadable graphic:  the wild unknown

Well.  Here we are, on the eve of Trump’s inauguration.  I’ve spent the last few months waffling back and forth between ignoring the inevitable and drowning myself in articles on our post-Trump future.

It’s terrifying.

To those of you who voted for Trump, who continue to feel (hope, perhaps?) that he’ll be The Best President Ever….I sincerely hope you are right.  I hope that he surprises us all with measured, thoughtful, just leadership.

In the meantime, I’ll be marching.  Because human rights – for all genders, races, and religions – goes far beyond politics.  I believe in a future that values diversity – diversity of culture, diversity of race, diversity of thought.  And this is a future worth fighting for.

When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty.    -Thomas Jefferson

Here’s an interactive graphic of all women’s marches across the US (and Worldwide!).  I’m headed to the sister march in Philadelphia tomorrow, and yes, my boys are coming with me.

Need a sign?  Here’s a list of 150 possible slogans, with statements ranging from “in diversity is strength” to “Pussy Power:  it’ll grab ya”.

Or just download the gorgeous Diversity is Reality sign from The Wild Unknown.  (Kim, you rock.)

What Else?

I like this old Intercept article, Donald Trump Will Be President.  This is What We Do Next.  In addition to some concrete steps, he offers a bit of hope.

5 Ways To Get Involved, a Cup of Jo article that came out after the election, is still worth a read.  I especially love the point that we can use literature to help us understand the perspective of those outside of our bubble. I’d love if the book lovers among us would weigh in with recommendations.  Perhaps we could work together to come up with a must-read list for cultivating empathy, understanding, and acceptance in 2017?

All The Wonder has already created the kid version.  Check out their list of 35 Picture Books for Little Activists.

Lastly, a little perspective:  In 2022, scientists are predicting that two stars will collide, creating a red nova (and temporarily becoming one of the brightest things in the sky).  How’s that for making us all feel small?

 

This weekend I’ll be marching forward with my feet, into a scary, uncertain future.  But when I look down into the eyes of my little guys, I’ll be sure to get way down, down to their level, where I can face them eye-to-eye. Where I can pause for a moment, and listen.  Because they are our future.  And now more than ever before, our children need to know – each and every one, regardless of race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation  – that they are valuable.  They are worthwhile.  They are powerful.

xo,

S

 

 

 

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  • Dana
    January 20, 2017

    Thank you for your thoughts!! It is so great that you are speaking out. I appreciate the resources as well.

    • Mel
      January 22, 2017

      Shana, has the blog considered #grabyourwallet?

  • Keri
    January 20, 2017

    Shana, thank you for the post. I’m just trying to get through my work-day today. It has been pouring for weeks, which seems appropriate. Tomorrow I’ll be marching with my 9 year old daughter at a Sister March in Albany, California. She’ll be wearing pink (women) and purple (anti-bullying). Mama will be wearing jeans, black sweater and Hunters because I have no colored clothes. Unfortunately my 12 year old sons have other commitments. Next weekend I’ll be taking all 3 kids to see Hidden Figures. Our superintendent of schools sent out a call last night voicing support for our students; we live in an incredibly diverse area.

  • Meg
    January 20, 2017

    Headed to DC with my sister and friends. I was looking up your layering articles last night when packing- I hadn’t counted on weather in the upper 50s in January!

  • Cara
    January 20, 2017

    Love this and love you guys!

  • MJ
    January 20, 2017

    I’m marching in Toronto with my daughter because even though he truly is not my president, the US has a huge impact on my physically large, population small nation. And I want my daughter (and son who can’t make the march) to know that diversity is reality (which may just become our sign) to go along with the pussyhat I knit.

  • Marnie
    January 20, 2017

    This is so good, thank you! As co-President of our local Planned Parenthood, I am marching in Ottawa, Canada’s solidarity march with my almost 3-year old – who loves rainbows! I was feeling uninspired in terms of a sign to carry – but thanks to you, I now have a plan. Tonight we shall craft a 2-sided sign – this gorgeous “diversity is reality” on one side – and “march like a girl” on the other! Yesss!

  • jkuebbing
    January 20, 2017

    It really is a shame that not all women are welcome to March on Washington tomorrow.

    • Veve
      January 20, 2017

      What women are you talking about? Women as well as men are being encouraged to march. Inclusion is kind of the theme.

    • Sarah
      January 20, 2017

      Are you referring to he Pro-life feminist group being removed as a producing partner? The Women’s March has a pro-choice platform, and their politics disagreed with that platform. So, they won’t be a partner, which means they won’t have their logo appear on digital and printed materials or appear in media coverage. That group, and anyone sharing their philosophy, has not been prohibited in anyway from marching or even rallying like minded marchers at the March. In fact, that group literally said in interviews that they would be there and would be marching.

      Their philosophy simply doesn’t match the platform of the March and this makes them incompatible producing partners. Would a pro-life March welcome Planned Parenthood as a sponsor? Nope.

  • Ann
    January 20, 2017

    Driving up from Florida now! So glad to know you are marching too.

  • margotyoga
    January 20, 2017

    Right there with you…in solidarity, marching in Portland, Oregon tomorrow!

    • Laura Jansen
      January 20, 2017

      Me, too, Margot!

  • Sara Oppler
    January 20, 2017

    Thank you for this post. Marching in Seattle tomorrow.

  • Veve
    January 20, 2017

    Love this post and the encouraging words. Excited to be marching in DC tomorrow.

  • Joan
    January 20, 2017

    Please stick to being a fashion site and keep the politics out of it. No one is following this blog for your political commentary. I can’t believe people are bringing their children to march in support of abortion. Sad.

    • Sarah
      January 20, 2017

      I’m bringing my children to march for WOMEN’s RIGHTS–just like abortion or birth control or choosing not to have any children is my right as a woman. I sure as hell will bring my children and I sure as hell will keep marching these next 4 years. Because their future depends on the present. Thank you TME team–PLEASE keep posting political posts that remind us that now more than ever we need to rise up! And thank you to all the other women who commented–its the women’s march on DC tomorrow and all the other sister rally’s and marches that actually inspire and give me hope for the next 4 years!

      • Joan
        January 20, 2017

        A woman’s right to murder her child?

        • Sarah
          January 20, 2017

          A woman’s right to end an unwanted pregnancy–you bet! One more reason to support Planned Parenthood and the free or reduced price birth control! Welcome to 2017–where we as women can make choices that are what is right for ourselves and our family. Cheers!

        • Heather
          January 20, 2017

          Abortion isn’t murder. Murder is a crime. Crimes are defined by law. Abortion is legal. If you have a moral objection to abortion don’t have one.

          • Tina
            January 20, 2017

            The perfect example of when injustice is law.

    • Nicole
      January 20, 2017

      I follow THIS fashion blog EXPLICITLY because it recognizes that the personal is political, and that mothering is a radical act. Just as what we wear reps who we are, so too do our actions. Shana, sending you courage, strength and action!

      • Mary
        January 21, 2017

        YES.

      • Steph
        January 22, 2017

        The real radical act now is to speak blessing on Trump. Regardless of my feelings on it all, that’s how I’m moving forward.

      • NicoleA
        January 22, 2017

        So well stated–I couldn’t agree more. That’s what makes TME interesting and meaningful. I especially appreciate the resources for children’s books, etc.

    • Robyn
      January 21, 2017

      I can’t believe people support a President who doesn’t love all people. Sad.

    • MAF
      January 21, 2017

      There is a lot more that women are marching for today then just supporting abortion. Your take a very narrow view of women’s causes. I suggest you do some reading.

    • Mary
      January 21, 2017

      Reproductive Rights/Abortion is only one of the many issues that people are marching for. If that is the one and only issue that matters to you then I encourage you to open your eyes and perspective.

    • Lisa
      January 22, 2017

      Agree Joan

  • laurawbrown
    January 20, 2017

    Shana – I have read your blog for years, but have never commented. I want to tell you that I appreciate when you use your platform to speak out about what you believe in. Thank you. I will march tomorrow in San Francisco.

  • Tina
    January 20, 2017

    Hmmm…I wonder if Jefferson’s slaves felt it was their duty to resist?

    • Lindsay
      January 23, 2017

      Preach. Thanks for marching and for blogging about it.

  • MeganW
    January 20, 2017

    My 11 year old daughter and I are on the train to D.C., as we speak! I only wish I had gotten my hands on some pink pussy hats. Thank you for speaking your mind.

  • Danielle
    January 20, 2017

    Thank you Shana! Marching tomorrow in Oakland.

  • Debbie
    January 20, 2017

    Style and brains, what a great combo you are Shana, I am glad to hear you speak your mind on your blog. I will be marching in LA tomorrow with my 13 yo daughter, the first political protest I have ever been motivated to participate in.

  • Kate
    January 20, 2017

    Girl Power! Thank you for this post.

  • Anonymous Mom for this
    January 20, 2017

    Thank you for marching. As a documented immigrant, I know such fear right now . AG nominee Sessions has spoken out against legal AND illegal immigrants. May we show support for each other through all the dark days ahead.

  • houseofboys
    January 20, 2017

    I will be marching tomorrow locally. I will be bringing all four boys by myself. I will be worried someone will punch someone else and all hell will break loose. But then, we can walk home if we have to.

    My heart is in DC with all the women I know and don’t know walking through the beautiful streets. Peace, love, hope and care to everyone marching and rallying tomorrow from Savannah. I am holding space for everyone that this may incite such activism and power of belief that we haven’t seen in a lifetime–no matter your beliefs.

    Rise up women!!

  • Kim Cavill
    January 20, 2017

    I understand that some people feel absolute opposition to abortion. I am very glad that in America, none of them are forced to have one. I also understand that this moral absolute sometimes feels transcendent of law, of politics, and of other people’s bodily autonomy. The truth is we all feel this transcendence about our deepest beliefs, independent of their objective moral authority. However, it is also true that we must also confront the world as it is, rather than what we think it should be. Abortion has been a part of the human story since the very beginning and no one would ever assert that the whole of humanity’s story is “good”. I am pro-choice because I believe in bodily autonomy and, if you push me to assign a hierarchy to the value of bodily autonomy in the dichotomy of mother or unborn child, then I place the mother above the unborn child. I say that as a mother, and a human being who believes in justice and love. You might see things differently and judge me reprehensible. Yet, we are both human beings and I insist that we have more in common than we do in difference. This march, for me, is about protecting the space for difference without threat of violence or personal liberty. I see no reason why those opposed to abortion cannot join the fight. If we all waited to around for someone to start the “perfect social justice movement that exactly agrees with our world-view”, then there would be no movements and no social justice. It is time to thicken our skins, protect our friends, and create light where darkness threatens.

    • Nicole
      January 20, 2017

      I am going to be borrowing from your eloquent statement many times in the next 4 years. So very well put. Thank you.

    • MeganW
      January 21, 2017

      Lovely.

    • Lindsey
      January 21, 2017

      beautifully said

    • christine w.
      January 24, 2017

      Beautifully stated, thank you!

  • Emily
    January 20, 2017

    Thank you for this post! Appreciate in particular the books for little activists. It is such a hard and scary time to be a mother so hearing from other mothers like you is helpful.

    • Emily
      January 20, 2017

      PS: 30 minutes after I read your post and commented, my sister and I decided we are going. This is important and we want to be there for the March in Philly! Thanks for the inspiration!

  • Francine
    January 20, 2017

    I applaud your post today and am heartened to read such supportive comments from like-minded women. I’ve been on a media embargo today – just can’t bear what’s happening.
    Hope to take my 12-year old son to march with me in LA. Unfortunately, it’s been raining buckets, so we’ll see. Cheers to all the nasty women!

    Btw, hilarious Insta post from @obviousbutamazing

    “…and will to the best of my ability, which is terrific ability by the way. Everyone agrees, I have fantastic ability. So there’s no problem with my ability, believe me….”

  • Rose
    January 20, 2017

    Thanks for this! After the initial shock of Nov 8 my attitude for the last few months has been: the time for action was on election day. So I’ve been completely checked out…can’t even watch the news. But I may just crawl out of my hole tomorrow and march. Almost all of the moms in my neighborhood and school are attending my city”s march tomorrow.

    Keep speaking out…don’t let the social media trolls silence and intimidate.

  • Nicole
    January 20, 2017

    My husband, son, daughter and my parents will be marching with me in Boston tomorrow! There’s even going to be a stroller brigade, organized by our local neighborhood moms group! Rock on mamas!

  • Nicole
    January 21, 2017

    I’m marching tomorrow in Seattle with my husband and three sons. As white boys in America, living life on easy mode (Scalzi reference) they need to understand the obligation they have to take care of those with less power-which is everyone else to some extent. I’m standing with Planned Patenthood. Thanks for this post and keep it up ladies!!!

  • Henrik
    January 21, 2017

    Love is in the air

  • Holly
    January 21, 2017

    Marching in Portland, ME today, thanks Shana!

  • AmyS
    January 21, 2017

    I wasn’t going to comment because I don’t want to just strike up opposition, but I am a strong, educated pro-life woman and the platform of these marches saddens me to my core. Abortion is murder, period. Babies have their own DNA, they are a separate body inside a woman’s body. Please make your choices before creating a new life, and please choose adoption over abortion, I beg you.
    Besides the very real possibiltiy of illegals being deported, can someone please explain what everyone is so “terrified” of? How do you think your lives will actually worsen? I pray this nation will see that God is love, love is not just letting everyone do what is right in their own sight, there is right and wrong in this world and the natural order that God created is out of love because it is for our best.

    • Beth
      January 21, 2017

      Amy, since you explicitly ask for someone to explain this to you, I will with the hope that you can hear me, even though I usually think replying to political discussions is pointless. I am also strongly pro-life, and that is why I strongly oppose Donald Trump.

      You want me to base my opposition on “how I think my life will actually worsen.” But the thing is, you’re asking the wrong question. Since I see you believe in a God who is love, I urge you to consider not just “your life” and the worsening or bettering of it. If God is love, and you ought to “love others as yourself,” then the concerns of immigrants, refugees, and any other groups without power and privilege ought to be just as much your concern as the lives of the un-born, or that of yourself. To only care about yourself, and whether YOUR life will actually worsen, flies in the face of a God of love.

      Being pro-life is not the same as being “pro-pregnancy,” and then not giving a hoot what happens afterward, so long as the baby gets out of the uterus alive. It makes no earthly sense to claim to be “pro-life,” but not care about refugees facing murder and pleading for help from a world that turns a deaf ear. You are “terrified” that the ongoing genocides are only going to get worse as we slam our nation’s doors to the most desperate people on the planet. If you’re not “terrified” about genocide, again, maybe stop referring to yourself as being “pro-life.”

      If you are pro-life you care about about “illegals being deported,” (note the dehumanizing phrase you used–not “people,” but “illegals”). These are LIVES. So be “pro-life,” I beg you, or stop referring to yourself that way.

      Finally, if you are pro-life, you care about services and help for women who DO NOT WANT to have abortions, but feel they have no other choice. If you think this president cares about helping women in any way, you have probably been living under a rock. And I’ll eat my hat if he makes a single move to protect the lives of the unborn, considering the blatant contempt Trump consistently displays for people without power, status or wealth.

      • I
        January 21, 2017

        Beautifully articulated, Beth!

      • AmyS
        January 21, 2017

        Beth, I do hear you. I won’t comment after this because I don’t want to keep going back and forth but I would just like to clarify that I do care about human lives after they are born just as much as defenseless unborn babies, and in fact I have been a social worker and regularly help those in need with my personal time and finances, including mission agencies that care for refugees and pregnancy centers that help women get care. I am not a fan of Trump, I just felt compelled to call into question how terrifying the future really will be because I still believe in our system of government and don’t believe everything media spins.

      • Laura
        January 21, 2017

        YES! THIS!

      • KS
        January 21, 2017

        I am terrified that hate crimes against Muslims will increase due to the perception that hatred against Muslims is ok/sanctioned.

        I am terrified that my LGBTQ friends will lose their right to get married and participate equally in our society.

        I am terrified that policies will be enacted that accelerate climate change and lead to natural disasters that kill thousands of people.

        I am terrified that we will be sucked into war due to blustering and egotism.

        I am terrified that millions of people in our country won’t have access to healthcare and will suffer unduly and die earlier than they should.

        I am terrified that our public schools will be gutted, and our country will slide towards ignorance not education (which has a host of social and economic repercussions).

      • Michelle
        January 22, 2017

        A lot of judgement and assumptions in this reply.

      • Elisabeth
        January 22, 2017

        YES, Beth. Thank you. And thanks to Shana and the TME team for using this platform to support other women.

    • Andrea
      January 21, 2017

      I am terrified that our president does not care for or believe in global warming, which will spell disaster for not only human beings but all other creatures on earth. I am terrified that funding for science and arts will be cut down. I am terrified that public schools will not get the support they need or deserve. I am terrified that immigrants, legal or illegal, women, other minorities will be treated as “others”, and this is the America my child will experience. I am terrified that guns will be allowed at schools, and my child will be under this threat every day. I am terrified that the tone of intolerance set by our president will reverbate through our streets, schools, workplaces and lives such that we will not feel equal or free. And yes, I am terrified that the government will find it appropriate to tell me how to live my life, which religion will govern me, and whose rights or wrongs I will have to abide. Clearly there is a very real threat that these might happen. I am not sure why you make this only about abortion. The issue is so much bigger here. And I applaud all these women standing for all of our rights. Thank you Shana for your support.

    • Carly
      January 23, 2017

      I agree with you about abortion. Even though it is one of many concerns, let’s teach women to respect their bodies and make good decisions. Abortion is an emotional and physical procedure. Stop treating it like a drive through.

  • JAL
    January 21, 2017

    We were there in Philly today too!

  • Christy Hartman
    January 21, 2017

    I was at the Houston march. It was the largest protest Houston has ever had. It was amazing. I’m so glad I went. It was the first political action (other than voting) I’ve ever taken. And it won’t be the last.

    I marched because I’m a mother. A mother who is scared for her children. And when a mother gets scared she gets fierce! So look out Washington, THE MOTHERS ARE COMING!

    • Rachel
      January 21, 2017

      I marched in Houston today too! It felt great to exercise my right to free speech and see so many people who will fight for human rights right alongside me.

  • laura
    January 21, 2017

    Shana! I’m a book reviewer for ReadersLane.com and I would LOVE to start a book list like you suggested — books about hope and empathy and HUMANITY. I recently finished one that is a perfect jewel of a memoir (I’ll be posting an official review for it later this week): You Will Not Have My Hate by Antoine Leiris. Leiris lost his wife in the terrorist attacks on Paris in November 2015, and he wrote a Facebook post to the terrorists which went viral — then he went on to write and publish his book, all within the year following his wife’s death. The memoir is slim but exceedingly powerful (I read it in one sitting), and it is breathtaking (Leiris writes how he cannot forgive or forget, but he will not let the terrorists have his hate). And did I mention he has a 17-month-old son who doesn’t understand why his Mama isn’t coming home?… (Brutal.) Anyhow, Leiris’ words are raw and inspiring, and this book couldn’t be more timely for us, living in the very scary and hate-filled world we are living in. If Leiris can put one foot in front of the other and try to make some sense of the madness, anyone can. I highly recommend.
    Love and light to all you beautiful mamas and marchers out there —
    xx
    laura

  • Pam
    January 22, 2017

    Given this is a fashion blog, I would have loved to see some coverage of inaugural fashions! So much to talk about there, and no one dares, it would seem. A shame. We can’t even say how amazing Melania and Mrs. Pence looked? Or if one did or did not like their fashion, to say so becomes a political point? We readers really couldn’t handle this kind of fashion commentary? I wish TME would have the courage to write it, and we readers the graciousness to read it.

    • Em
      January 22, 2017

      I actually keep coming back to TME because it’s NOT one of the fashion blogs that regularly includes reviews of outfits worn by celebrities at galas, balls, and awards shows. That fashion may be fun to look at for some spectators, but it’s just not relatable to most moms living regular lives out here, and has nothing to do with our day-to-day. But here’s my take: Melania, a professional model, looked predictably stunning in every outfit. Mrs. Pence also looked very, very pretty and I congratulate her. Hillary Clinton, dressed in white for the suffragettes, was impeccable. Michelle, as usual, slayed. They all have more money than I ever will. There, how’s that? 😉

    • Nicole
      January 22, 2017

      TME never talks about celebrities (political or otherwise) and their clothes, and I am grateful…I’ve stopped reading other blogs that do solely that because they have no relevance to my life. Rather, TME covers clothes that I can and sometimes do actually buy. For better or worse, there are no ball gowns in my future! Melania looked lovely, of course; no courage required to say that.

      • Pam
        January 22, 2017

        TME does talk about designers and fashion and makeup trends, which are surely to follow this historic event. That’s what I’d like to hear from Shana etc.

        Arguably most of the items Shana posts are unattainable for most of the population, ball gowns or not. If you can afford such purchases, that’s great, but you can be sure you’re in the minority. Most of us make due with consignment, Old Navy imitations and TJ Max scores.

  • Shannon
    January 22, 2017

    I marched in Philly! For everyone who marched or who supported the march efforts worldwide, here is your next action step: swing the House in 2 years! https://swingleft.org

  • Erin
    January 22, 2017

    Thank you, Shana, for courageously speaking about your political beliefs on this platform. I marched in Montana with ten thousand others. I applaud the Women’s March and its statement about intersectionality: we are more than just women, more than pro-life, pro-choice…We are all of the things that define us, and all must be addressed. I loved hearing from Catholic nuns who were marching BECAUSE of the value they place on human life, and from college students who were marching BECAUSE of the value they place on choice. How dynamic we all are, and how multi-faceted. As another woman said so wisely in these comments, mothering is a radical act.

  • Laura Flanagan
    January 22, 2017

    Thank you Shana! I for one appreciate you sharing your heart as well as you’re fashion.

  • Carly
    January 22, 2017

    I think it was wonderful for people to come together on something that they obviously feel so strongly about, however I find the language that was floating around on various signs tasteless, classless, and vulgar. We as women should be better than that! How anyone can subject their children to that language is beyond me.

    • Stephanie
      January 23, 2017

      Because making the world a better place and teaching your kids what’s right is more important than worrying about your kid seeing objectionable language. Aren’t all you Trump folks the ones who aren’t so concerned about what he says? Then no problem putting his own words on a sign, now is there?

  • Maggie
    January 22, 2017

    Amen to the above comment. For a supposed revolution of love and acceptance there was a lot of hate being spewed around. Can adults not agree to disagree without being disgusting? A peaceful March was a great idea, what happened was not.

    • JS
      January 23, 2017

      Carly and Maggie, the march was actually one of the most peaceful and positive in history. No arrests were made in DC, trash was disposed of appropriately (even when the trash cans were full to overflowing)…what hate and vulgarity were you referring to? It’s not the word “vagina” is it? Or pussy? Because treating vaginas as tasteless, classless and vulgar was what sparked the need for a march in the first place.

      • Christy Hartman
        January 23, 2017

        Good point!

    • Stephanie
      January 23, 2017

      Zero arrests and millions peacefully and joyously protesting. Only closeted Trump voters are horrified.

      • Kim
        January 23, 2017

        Trump voters are closeted? And they’re horrified?

        Assumptions and generalizations. Not exactly peaceful and fair characterizations.

  • laura
    January 23, 2017

    From USATODAY.COM about Ashley Judd and her speech in DC:

    “I got it from the president of the United States,” she said of the provocative wording, specifically the use of the P word, famously uttered by President Trump in a 2005 video that caught him bragging about grabbing women by their genitalia. “I’m just quoting him. And I am really more entitled to the word because I’ve actually got one.”

  • Maggie
    January 23, 2017

    I don’t want to start a whole argument here, but I assure you I have no problem with the word vagina nor did I vote for Trump. But it is illogical to proclaim to support love and acceptance for all, but then speak of blowing up those who don’t agree with you, is it not? If people don’t like the new presidents policies, they should say so. Eg.” I disagree with you about ABC and here’s why. I think we should XWZ instead.” To descend to profanity and death threats and accusations of incest is beyond immature and cuts off any possibility of actual discussion about the issue.

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