January 23, 2017

The Women’s March – Next Steps

We had quite a weekend.  Mike and I brought the boys to the Women’s March taking place in Philadelphia.  March organizers expected the crowd to be only around 20,000 (we’re so close to D.C. that many headed down to the main event)…but at last estimate, more than 50,000 people marched in Philly!  (And thanks to those of you who stopped to say hi – so fun meeting you!)

The energy of the march was incredible – people from all over the world, joining together in peaceful protest.  It was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before, and prompted so many interesting discussions with my boys.  They each made their own posters (Pax picked Love = Power, and Raines picked Wild Feminist – I suspect because his Dad has that tshirt), and we talked about what it means to be a feminist (equal rights for all).  They seemed surprised to hear that it’s a thing.  “Of course women should get paid as much as men, Mom.  You do EVERYTHING around here!” says Raines.  (BWAH HA HA – score one for mom.)

But we also talked about ‘Black Lives Matter’ and ‘We are all Nasty Women’ and ‘The Future is Female’  and the nuances of what these slogans are really about, and the important historical context that goes with each one.  As a parent, it was so rewarding to see the light of understanding dawn in their eyes, and then to see them resolutely march forward.

Here are some of our favorite pictures from the march in Philly….

 

Laura marched in the rain in Portland (naturally)….

 

….and Scotti marched in our tiny hometown of Marquette, MI.  (A huge thank you to Et-images for sharing these gorgeous shots.)

 

Were you as inspired by your marching experience as I was?  It was hopeful, but sobering as well.  What will our next steps be?  Locally, I’ll be looking out for Pennsylvania’s public schools – Salsa Wired For Change is creating a grassroots organization to ensure that all children in PA have access to quality public schools. At a national level, the Woman’s March is kicking off a 10 actions, 100 days campaign which seems like a decent place to start.

But the biggest change I’ll be making is to actively reach out to the people I know personally who have a different opinion than mine.  Not to change them, necessarily, but to listen.   I was really inspired by something Scotti posted on Facebook:

For years I never wanted to discuss politics for fear it would alienate those who were close to me…but now I realize I’ve been doing us all a disservice in NOT discussing politics. Let’s talk! Openly and honestly. With love and respect for one another. “Changing someone’s opinion isn’t the point of discussion. It is to broaden your perspective and realize that the world is bigger than the bubble that you live in. Discussion fuels progress. When we don’t have discussion, like a fire, progress dies. My final message to you: Talk about politics.”

(Scotti’s quote originally came from this article – I don’t love the whole article, but her final point, the above quote, is spot on.)

For more pictures of the Women’s March in Washington, Paris, and other places around the world…check out A Cup of Jo’s article on the topic.

Happy Monday.

xo,

S

 

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  • Liz
    January 23, 2017

    I went to the march in Oakland and it was so positive. I almost didn’t go because of my anxiety about crowds but I am so glad I did. It feels like the beginning of something important.

  • Jamie
    January 23, 2017

    Thank you for posting something that is meaningful to you. As you said, discussion is really important. We cannot stay quiet because of fear of rocking the boat.

  • Cara
    January 23, 2017

    Great work! And thanks for sharing. We were up bright and early making posters over here. My girls chose “Be Kind to Others” and “Love Everyone” and I made a “Boys Will Be Boys (cross out word “boys”) Good Humans” for my son. Definitely invigorating but a long road ahead. I really respect your willingness to share on your blog. I love the fashion, but I love the “you” and the substance that you share here most of all.

  • amycake76
    January 23, 2017

    I never comment, Shana, but I want you to know how happy I am that you were a part of this (not something I doubted) and that you’re speaking up about it here on The Mom Edit. Thank you for taking that stand. The first step was exhilarating but now we need endurance.

  • Deborah
    January 23, 2017

    Thank you for not being afraid to talk about this for fear of alienating any of your readers. I marched in my hometown of Seattle (we had 150,000!!!) and it was glorious. It’s just the beginning.

  • Christy Hartman
    January 23, 2017

    Oh my goodness. So much to say. First, I marched in Houston. It was amazing. Yesterday I did the first of the 10 actions in 100 days. I sent a postcard to my senator. It was quick, easy, and free using the Ink app. This is what I wrote, “I am a formally lazy liberal. The current administration has woken me up. The Women’s March was my first political action (other than presidential voting) and it won’t be my last. I marched because I’m a mother who is scared for her children and when mothers become scared they become fierce. So look out Washington, THE MOTHERS ARE COMING!”

    The quote Scotti posted hit close to home. I needed to hear that and I need to work on it. It will be hard.

    Shana, I admire that you’re using your platform to say what you believe, even if it costs you some readers/revenue. Please keep it up and keep us accountable to keep going past the initial excitement.

    • Karen
      January 23, 2017

      Love What you said on your postcard!

    • Elizabeth Cusack
      January 24, 2017

      I love “The mothers are coming” 🙂 I may steal that for my postcard 🙂

      • Christy Hartman
        January 24, 2017

        I think it applies to most people whether or not you have biological children. We “mother” our friends, nieces, nephews, parents, co-marchers, etc.

        I am a big introvert who hates crowds so much I won’t even take my kids to a parade. But I forced myself to march and I was so surprised at how wonderful a crowd of passionate women was. They were kind, and polite, and so, so nurturing (and they smelled nice!). We were parting the crowd for strollers, helping children stand on structures so they could see, taking pictures for each other. Everyone there was “mothering” each other in a time of need and it just resonated with me.

  • Rachel
    January 23, 2017

    I marched in Houston. I’ve never been politically active or even all that interested in politics (I’ve only been able to vote in the last 2 presidential elections) but in the last year I’ve become very interested. This march was the first time I actually got up and did something. I also sent the postcards from the 100 days of action. It’s so great to see what we can accomplish when we all come together. Love will win.

  • Karen
    January 23, 2017

    Rock On! I sat here in SC realizing I never protested for anything in this way and wishing I was in DC. I did watch the DC Speakers/March via feed though… Quite powerful all around!

  • heatheredmcpherson
    January 24, 2017

    Rock on Moms of the Mom Edit. I was marching in the rain with Laura in Portland. My family had 13 people marching together – everyone from my 9 month old nephew to my 63 year old father. It was one of the first times I’ve felt a little bit of hope in the last few months.

    I’m also inspired by what Scotti wrote. We owe it to ourselves, our friends, our leaders and our children to have learn how to have honest, thoughtful, respectful discussions about political and social issues. I believe we can do it – and it won’t be nearly as painful as not having the conversations has been.

  • Nicole
    January 24, 2017

    Thanks to TME for talking about this. Scotti’s comments definitely resonate with me, as a progressive mental health professional in a very (very!) red state. I definitely need to put myself out there more–silence certainly doesn’t lead to change! Plus, what does it teach my children when I don’t speak out?

  • Nicole
    January 24, 2017

    Thank you! I marched in Seattle with my friends and family-17 of us from age 4 to 64! My boys carried signs: Knowing Stuff Matters and Role Model for President 2020. I rocked my Don’t Tread on Me uterus t-shirt. It was such a great wonderful day, giving me hope after such a period of hopelessness.
    I’m hanks for this post. Scott I nailed it with her quote. More discussion and speaking out.

  • Amy Wilson
    January 24, 2017

    YES!! I am so happy to see you post about the March! We had a carload of Nasty Women who drove up from SC to DC and it was such an amazing experience.

  • JenW
    January 24, 2017

    I love seeing your photos and hearing about your experience. I marched in San Jose which also had crowds much higher than anticipated at 25,000. It was wonderful to walk with so many people supporting diverse causes. I’m doing the 10 in 100 challenge and also using Daily Action on Facebook to stay active in my participation. I was very politically active before kids, and it feels wonderful to get back involved.

  • BKD
    January 24, 2017

    Yea! I marched in Springfield, MO. It was a great experience, and one I’ll never forget. Glad to know my favorite bloggers are the total badass feminists I thought they were! 😉

  • Christi Conti-Holloway
    January 24, 2017

    I live in Georgia and marched in DC! Like Laura, I was marching in hopes that my own daughters won’t have to. I’m so happy (but not at all surprised) to see this post! I love the great community at TheMomEdit and I’m so thankful there’s a positive place on the internet for me to visit daily and feel connected to like-minded women!

  • Chrissi
    January 24, 2017

    Shana, Thanking you for marching and thank you for posting about this! I have been following your posts for a few months and I love your style and I love the vibe that’s here! It’s really appreciated by this mom of 2 teenagers!

  • Terri
    January 24, 2017

    Pardon me for interrupting this hearty circle jerk but if I owned a business, I would never put up a sign identifying, or belittling my opponent’s, political persuasion. Surely you must know you are not inviting a real “discussion” when you post pictures of such derogatory Trump signs? It is disingenuous and I expect more from you. Peace (but still xoxo).

    • Shana
      January 24, 2017

      Duuuude. It is only because of my deep and abiding love for you that I am going to respond (‘circle jerk’ struck me as a bit much, no?). But seriously, Chick, you and I have been through so much together online (haha – not sure how to better describe our relationship without sounding weird and creepy)….that when you speak up, I listen.

      So here’s my question – and I ask this genuinely and honestly: what struck the nerve? I went back through the pictures, multiple times, and nothing struck me as particularly derogatory or offensive. I have some suspicions, so if you’ll indulge me for a sec I’ll try and explain myself in advance (and if i’m totally off, let me know).

      1. The tiny hands pinned to the sweater? Ok, fine. We should never make fun of someone for a physical attribute they can’t control…especially when we’re preaching kindness. I guess in this instance I found it funny, especially since the man in question made fun of the reporter for a physical handicap. But yeah – I get that it’s hypocritical.

      2. Trump’s lies matter? But they do, they really, really do. I’ll stand by this one. Especially in light of the very terrifying “alternate fact” bullshit. No. Not ok. Alternate facts are simply lies, and the fact that the office of the president is using that term is terrifying.

      3. The Putin sign? Ok….maybe. In the interest of open and honest discussion that may have been a low blow. But I have real concerns about Russia’s role in the recent election, and I don’t feel like these concerns are being addressed by the current administration.

      Terri, what am I missing here? I have friends on both sides of the aisle….and not one of them is a Trump fan (even those that voted for him). His sexual assault of women, his making fun of the handicapped reporter, his racist remarks…these words and actions are reprehensible – I thought that was one point where we all – dems, republicans, independents – can agree?

      • Terri
        January 24, 2017

        Well, heyyyy there, Shana. Thank you for your comment. I used ‘circle jerk’ because ‘echo chamber’ has been so overused this election season. I’m also more of a visual person (wiiiiink) so that analogy is better suited to my sensibilities.

        Are you surprised that 18 comments were made and your call for a discussion hasn’t gotten any lift-off? Your pictures of Trump were/are why. This is not how you start a political discussion, it’s how you form an…..echo chamber.

        We do have a lovely online relationship (still creepy-sounding, there’s really no getting around it) and I feel compelled to write you only because of that reason. I would love (!) a venue for some honest and thoughtful female:female discussion but I’m starting to fear that it is just not possible right now.

        All that being said, I still adore you. I respect you. We are still friends (I hope).

      • Deb
        January 25, 2017

        “His sexual assault of women…”

        Hi Shana. Could you please clarify something for me? I might be missing some information, but has Donald Trump ever actually assaulted any woman? My impression is that he is “all talk” and “no action.” Granted, I don’t like the talk, but the action is important because sexual assault is a crime.

        On the other hand, Bill Clinton and Bill Cosby have been accused numerous times of actual physical assault. There are so many horrifying stories in connection with these two individuals, and I don’t get why this gets ignored. Any thoughts?

  • Elizabeth Cusack
    January 24, 2017

    I was at Boston’s march. It was a wonderful experience. Originally, they were expecting 25,000 people, then the day before we were hearing 80,000. Final tally ended up at 175,000. What struck me was the diversity of the marchers. There were elderly men and women in wheelchairs, teenagers, parents with young children. I ended up running into my son’s 2nd grade teacher, who was there with her daughters. It felt so good to be connecting physically because with everything that has been happening, I was beginning to feel like it was just MY house that were thinking these things. My friends that were feeling these things. To have such an organic outpouring was inspiring. I’m ready to work.

  • Amanda
    January 24, 2017

    Good work!

  • Laura
    January 25, 2017

    If this is an echo chamber that encourages women to stand up, take action, and not give up fighting for basic human rights, I am all for it and I appreciate Shana and team for using this platform to help women stay motivated and engaged in this troubling time.

  • Kristine Cooper
    January 25, 2017

    I was in Detroit AND Lansing. Such a great day! And congratulations on a peaceful day, Ladies! The police were standing around casually, greeting people, etc. But if you noticed, DT, surrounded by all white, male legislators, on MONDAY signed an executive order cutting off funding for overseas health care institutions that provide abortions. And yesterday? Well, the Dakota pipeline, in which he has a financial interest (!) is back! Send those postcards, make those phone calls–our work has just begun. (I’m saying this to myself as well…)

  • Kris
    January 25, 2017

    I was at the D.C. March! Was an amazing, peaceful, life-affecting experience.

  • Clare
    January 26, 2017

    I never comment. I want to say I (respectfully) agree that this is an echo chamber….and that’s ok! Just let’s be real and not say it’s an open discussion. I would have probably marched had certain women’s groups (pro-life) not been excluded – told NOT to come by organizers. Not a pro woman march in my eyes in that case. I love that people did this and felt good about it though. That is our right as Americans! Just not something I found inspiration in. There were also a lot of nasty and vulgar comments and garb that came out of some areas….found it weird that we are condemning Trump for his derogatory statements but then it is ok for others to talk that way?! Just adding some perspective….love the blog and adore your writing and fashion perspective! Thanks for speaking out. I admire you for that.

  • tara
    January 28, 2017

    I marched in Sacramento with my 8-month-old twins!! Thank you so much for sharing your story and for writing about this! I was wondering if you were going to post about this (or anything related) after your amazing Instagram post. Love you Shana!!

  • Melissa
    January 28, 2017

    I have loved this site for your fashion and mom tips (and because I am in Green Bay and non one believes that Midwestern girls can be fashionable), but now I love you all for your values, beliefs and honesty. Keep it up ladies!

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