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March 21, 2017

Light-Wash Denim: The First (of many) Attempts To Find My New Favorite Jeans

It’s Spring Denim Month over here at TME.  Usually we just declare a theme week and be done with it, but we’re having a few issues with this one.

When I first brought up the concept of finding a go-to pair of lightwash denim for Spring, it was met with varying degrees of enthusiasm.  Laura was all I LOVE IT OBVIOUSLY MORE DENIM YES…..Cam piped up with ‘do shorts count cause it’s hot already’ (rub it in, Carolina, rub it in), Scotti couldn’t seem to grasp what constitutes light wash (Is this light wash?  No.  Is THIS light wash?  No.  Is thi- No.)….and I could see Amanda, sitting there in her black jeans, giving me side-eye through the screen.  (In hindsight those were probably leggings.)

I know, I know, I know.

Denim trends have been driving us all crazy for months now, and lightwash denim is no exception.  Actually, there’s so many more things that can go wrong with lightwash denim:  a too-flat, completely uniform wash that perfectly outlines each lump, bump and muscle….or distressing  that doesn’t quite hit in the right spot, creating a squeeze situation right above the knee, to name but a few possibilities.

Ugh.

So here’s our compromise:  Finding a perfect pair of lightwash denim for Spring is probably going to take a few attempts.  So in the interest of shopping helpfulness (it’s only enabling if it’s good)….we’re bringing it all to TME:  the good, the bad, and the ugly.  And we’re comparing our real-life pictures to the pics on retailers websites.  Why?  Because soooooo many retailers, where lightwash is concerned, have fallen into a really bad habit:  they’re grossly over-exposing the denim, and you end up with a pair that looks nothing like what is shown online.

So….here’s my first attempt.  I found some strong contenders, but not the lightwash denim of my dreams.  I’ll keep looking.  In the meantime….enjoy and good luck!

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March 19, 2017

These Are The Most Comfortable Sandals….EVER

 

I wore this outfit to school pick-up the other day.  Before the East Coast was hit with the big storm, obviously.  Actually, it may have been the exact day-before-the-storm but #nobodycares #movingon.

ANYWAY.

My friend Linzi came sauntering up, eyes sparkling.  “Shana….?” she started in a sing-song voice, “are you wearing comfort shoes????”

Um.  Maybe?  #that’sAYes

So here’s the thing:  I’ve been meaning to give Eileen Fisher sandals a try for a couple of years now.  The reviews are off-the-charts glowing, and the styling is sporty, which is a direction that feels really on-point right now.  And when paired with some edgier pieces (Rag and Bone, naturally, and OMG wait until you see this gorg little bag….) anyway, the resulting outfit was totally my jam.

And those darn reviews are right about these sandals.  We’re talking the most buttery-soft leather that has ever graced my body, and a squishy, supportive sole.  They are, without any exaggeration at all, more comfortable than sneakers.  Bold words, I know.  Yet TRUE.

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March 17, 2017

Weekend 3/17

 

I love this pic of Laura and her little – it warms my heart.  (And I’m taking St. Patrick’s Day style tips from little Miss Sienna from now on.  Sequin headband, done.)

Also, thank you guys for your insanely kind comments about my…..ummmm……mom bod on Wednesday’s ThirdLove post.  Truth be told, there was a moment of hesitation before including a few of them.  Soft stomaches, scars from my mastectomy (admittedly, I lightened one of them), and dimpling across my chest from the reconstruction (which no one has even noticed, despite the fact that I agonized over that photo)….yeah.  I paused.  And then I got a bit annoyed with myself.  I mean….it’s how I look.  I’m a forty year old mom of two kids and breast cancer survivor who has been working her butt off at Pilates and Yoga and skiing and this is how I look.   So the fact that these pics were met with so much support?  Just….wow.  Thank you for helping us all keep it real over here.

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March 17, 2017

Letters From A: Decorating With White

 

I hate decorating.  I hate picking paint colors, buying furniture, choosing fabrics (ha – I don’t actually know what one would do with fabrics but this seems to be a thing with interior people), and having too many….erm…decorative objects makes me break out in hives.  “TOO MANY THINGS TO DUST!” said my mother once and yes.  AGREED.

Couple my….lack of passion for the topic with the very real fact that I am Not Very Good At This and you end up with a house full of Stuff That Does Not Go, coupled with a few large pieces of Stuff That Doesn’t Fit, usually co-located with at least one Piece From a Wishful Thinking Phase, and rounded out nicely with Stuff I Had in College.

Happily, I also have…an A.  (You may remember her from here:  Am I Too Old or Too Short For These Jeans?)

My dear friend A is one of those magical creatures who seems to need no sleep, has boundless energy, and can see 3-D scale models in her head of any room she designs. She’s the kind of friend who, on a Friday night, if you happen to say, “I wonder if I should move the couch over he–” is already on her feet, moving the couch, chair, bookshelf, and swapping out the rug for one she happens to remember seeing once in your basement.  And somehow…despite no shortage of initial arguing (usually by me)….it always looks a million times better when A is done.

She’s like a fairy godmother of home design.

No, scratch that.  She’s like the…..Energizer Bunny of home design.  A fairy godmother would just wave a magic wand and POOF.  Done.  She wouldn’t text you at odd hours of the night telling you that she found THE EXACT NIGHTSTAND for your bedroom and oh-by-the-way 5 new lighting fixtures were added to the Pinterest board she created for your playroom and when you (finally) log on to Pinterest to look…you realize that she’s also created Pinterest boards for alllll of your friends who she is also simultaneously helping.  With all of their rooms.  In all of their houses.

(If you guys want to follow A on Pinterest, you are in for a treat.  She finds killer stuff. )

But one of the many reasons I love A so dearly, is not for her mad home design skills.  It’s for her general outlook on life, her ability to…shine, so brightly -even through all of life’s shit (and she has more than her fair share), yet somehow expand that glow to everyone around her.  She’s the kind of girl who truly lights up a room, and the whole world is better because A is in it.

One of A’s pet projects lately is helping Mike and I finish our renovations.  This has involved many bottles of wine, Pinterest board after Pinterest board, and, when I’m being more stubborn than usual……A’s shenanigans.  She’s held one-act plays in my living room over coffee tables, written an Ode To My Powder Room, and…..the weekly emails.  Which are actually my favorite part.

Almost every week, A has started writing letters about whatever topic we’ve been discussing, filled with all kinds of fun home decor inspiration, but also a little dose of real life.  Of her.  Of her indefatigable optimism, her charm, her East-Coast, Philly-girl nonsense.

I’ve been getting so much joy out of these letters that I asked A if I could share them with you.

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March 15, 2017

ThirdLove’s Gorgeous New Line of Bras Are Perfect For Spring

 

Anyone need a good racerback bra for summer?

Put your hand up, Mama.  Based on the number of comments and emails we get alllll summer long, ‘What bra do you wear with ____???” I’d say everyone is due.

But racerbacks can be tricky – the band really needs to fit correctly, or you’ll be dealing with a back-fat squeeze situation, which….um….is the last thing you want while rocking summer’s strappy little tanks.

Happily, ThirdLove has a seriously smart answer:  a racerback with an adjustable back…and loads of pretty lace.  (Truthfully, I’m not sure which part I like better. #probablylace)

Keep reading to see my two personal favorites from their new Spring line….

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March 12, 2017

Styled, Three Ways: Free People’s Oversized, Floral Sweatshirt

 

A reader (Hi, Monica!) left a comment on a recent post, saying that she had bought this oversized, floral sweatshirt by Free People, but needed a little help styling it.

First of all, I can see why.  The slightly nuts print is everything.  It’s ‘florals for Spring’ done in a completely unfussy way, and I love it.

Anyway, Monica bought the black, so I did too, but I the blush color is also fantastic.  The blush will read a little more romantic, a little less eccentric.  The darker floral rocks that ‘grandma’s curtains’ vibe hard.

I’m totally digging that vibe.   Here’s how I styled mine….

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March 10, 2017

Weekend 3/10

 

Obviously we’ll be skiing this weekend.  I mean….it’s snowing.  And I’m pretty sure it’s the first – no wait – the second snow of the year.  If I can manage to get my shizz together, we may even leave tonight.

BWAH HA HA HA!

Good one, S. [wipes tears from eyes] My shizz will never, in fact, ever be described as “together”.

But we may still leave tonight.

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We’re kicking off Spring Denim Month!  Throughout the month, look for Dressing Room Selfie articles as we all attempt to find the lightwash denim of our dreams.  I’m still in the thick of “research” but these are the most comfortable pair of high-rise jeans I’ve ever had the pleasure of trying on.  High-rise denim meets pajamas.  True Story.

What to wear under racerback tops?  Check out this gorgeousness by ThirdLove.  More soon.

OMG THE TAUPE BOOTIES ARE BACK.  Remember my nude Lucky Brand boots from last year?  I just found them back in stock.  They’ve been rebranded as “Kamby” and the color I have is sesame.  These are still one of my all-time best purchases. (Also available at Amazon or Nordstrom.)

Patio Game Strong.  Crate and Barrel has 20% off all outdoor furniture this weekend.  All I want is that dark blue sofa.

LOFT has 40% off Spring styles….including one of my favorite sweater jackets and this freaking adorable tankini top.  Hunh.

 

ALSO, THIS

In honor of International Women’s Day last week, here are a few gems we loved:

#MOREWOMEN.  ElleUK edited the men out of photos of people of power and influence, showing exactly how few women are truly represented worldwide.  We are 37% of MBA graduates….but only 4.6% of Fortune 500 CEOs.  (Thanks for the find, Scotti!)

It’s 2:38PM, time to go home!  On International Women’s Day, Iceland announced that it would officially require gender pay equality.  The Icelandic women have been peacefully protesting since 1999 about under-representation…and, more recently, this past October, many women left their offices at 2:38PM each day (due to the gender pay gap, any hours worked after that were unpaid).  Well done, Iceland.

Three women-run businesses that I love:  Shop Buru, a online boutique that caters to the post-partum and nursing mamas….Tuxe Bodywear, created and owned by women (and a fervent supporter of ambitious women)…..and Colleen Rothschild, the beauty company whose cleansing balm I can’t live without.

Once upon a time…I just bought Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls for my two little guys. It’s a beautiful book about the real-life accomplishments of women throughout history – both ancient and modern.  Each write-up includes a portrait that was commissioned especially for the book, all done by women artists.  It’s almost an art piece, yet the writing is engaging.  Both of my boys love it – the stories are human stories (hardship, sacrifice, loss, perseverance) – and the fact that they are exclusively about women is, to them, no big surprise.  Why wouldn’t the stories be about women?  Raines did wonder about the title….he wanted to know why this book was only for girls – “I like these stories, too, Mom.”   I perhaps wish the authors had called it “Good Night Stories About Rebel Girls”…but it did prompt a discussion of women’s rights throughout history, so perhaps the more provocative title was a smart move.   In any case, whether you have little rebel girls or little rebel guys….this is a fantastic book.  (And will most likely become my go-to birthday gift for all of our friend’s kids.)

 

The best thing I read on International Women’s Day…..So often, in a missguided attempt at support, we still resort to labels.  Women are STRONG!!  Women are FEMININE!!  Women are INTUITIVE!!  I mean….ok, none of those things are bad, but labels, even good ones, are so limiting.  Sure, some women are strong (sometimes), some women are feminine (sometimes) and some women are  intuitive (sometimes)….but the ones that aren’t?  They’re no less womanly….they’re no less woman.  Which is why, on our IG account (@themomedit) we simply posted the quote by Coco Chanel:  “A woman should be two things:  exactly who and what she wants.”

Yes.

And then, later that day, I received this in an email from Lululemon, who managed to put into words alllll the things I was feeling.  In short, they nailed it.  I hope it speaks to you as much as it did to me.

For you,

If you feel strong, or fragile, or strong and fragile. If you sometimes laugh at your mistakes and sometimes cry at them. Whether you are loud, or quiet, or are sometimes loud and sometimes quiet. If you are a mother, not yet a mother, a stepmother, will never be a mother, or never want to be a mother. If some days you battle the feelings of being infinitely worthless, and some days you recognize your infinite worth. If you take a stand for what you believe in, or don’t know what to believe in. Whether you are full of love, or fear, or sometimes love and sometimes fear. If you feel most beautiful in high heels and dark lips surrounded by bright lights, or most beautiful with a naked face gazing up at bright stars. If some days you refuse to give up, and other days you have nothing left to give. Whether you feel lost, are searching, or have found yourself. If you take a step forward, or a step back, but no matter what, you keep stepping. 


Wherever you are, in all that you are, we honour you.


Namaste

 

Happy weekend.

xo,

S

 

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March 7, 2017

Layering Gold: Ribbed Knit Turtlenecks

Any long-time reader can attest to the fact that I have a slight turtleneck dependency.  I spend pretty much alllll winter in cozy turtleneck sweaters, and I’ll even admit to wearing them on the beach.  Like this.  (In my defense, it was Spring.)  So when this ribbed turtleneck sweater popped up at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale (two years ago!!), obviously, I snapped it up.

What I didn’t expect, however, is that this simple sweater would end up being a sort of sartorial glue – holding many an outfit together.  It basically acts as a chic baselayer for everyday winter outfits, and thanks to the thicker ribbing, I can wear it on it’s own.  The ribbing camouflages lumps and bumps nicely, allowing me to take layers on/off without fear.  I’ve always been a JCrew tissue turtleneck girl, but I’ve found that the ribbed knit is a decided upgrade.

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March 4, 2017

Weekend 3/3

Pax had a tough night.  He was up at 2AM crying, with a runny nose, a suuuuper sore throat, and achy ears.  So color me surprised when I woke up this morning to find his big blue eyes staring at me, his freckled nose inches from my own, a big smile on his face.   He was cradling my face with both hands. “I can’t feel my face when I’m with you…” he crooned.

OMG.  Take notes, Mike.  I’d like to be woken up exactly like this every. day.  (Plus coffee.)

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Shopping for swim??  An early look at our 2017 Swim Guide is available now…(with more to come!)

Shopbop’s huge sale ends Sunday.  We rounded up a bunch of our favorite pieces from the sale, here.  And then most of the tops I chose sold out.  Boo.  So I updated my section with new finds (many of which I ordered – selfies are posted to IG, @shanachristine).

Guess what’s (FINALLY) back in stock??  The Colleen Rothschild miracle cleanser that’s got us all addicted. 20% off with code BEST20!

Show those pearly whites.  Gwen just bought Keeko Oil Pulling Sachets  – a 14 day supply. What are our thoughts about this? Supposedly there are a ton of great benefits to oil pulling (including a whiter smile). Would anyone be interested in a review?

Also, this…

Do you like us like this?  The TME team has started recording videos at our weekly meetings to discuss new trends, cool beauty tricks, and, eventually, reader questions.  We’re calling these segments “Nap Chats” because we’re all trying to squeeze them in during naptime.  In our first segment we talk about clogs – you can watch it here.  Are there any questions you’d like us to address in an upcoming segment?  We’re open to any topics.  (And we’re also playing around with format – would Facebook live be better?  Then you can ask questions in real time…..?) Let us know your thoughts!

Wanna walk the runway?  If Dolce & Gabbana’s latest show is any indication, perhaps you can.  Slow clap, you guys.  MORE OF THIS.  (Thanks for the head’s up, A! xo)

See Jane describe feminism.  In Net-a-Porter’s recent interview with Jane Fonda, I don’t know what’s more badass….Jane rocking the heck out of a leather jacket (wrinkles and all), or the discussion about how “people pleasing” is a disease.  BAM.

One more reason DACA matters.  This Berkely student grew up in the US, and only found out he was undocumented when it was time to apply to college.  Reading his story – written in his own words – is truly eye-opening.

Cue the tears.  Scotti sent over this video of a baby hearing for the first time….and it’s EVERYTHING.

 

Happy weekend!
xo,
S

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February 28, 2017

The Spring Shoe + Bag Pairing I Love (it doesn’t quite match)

 

I’m always looking for unexpected-yet-foolproof color combinations (especially ones that fit into my preferred comfort zone of neutral), and this Spring I’m loving camel + blush.

One could wear them….together….on their body.  One could.   In fact, a blush silk blouse + camel trousers would be a refreshing way to update a work wardrobe.  But that’s a wee bit more color than this girl wears in February (hi Gray, have you met my best friend Black?), so let’s not go crazy here.  No need to LEAP out of our comfort zones – at least not until 2020.  (har har)

Anyway.

I am loving the camel + blush pairing for shoes and bags.  The combo goes well together, without being perfectly matched.   Personally, I really like it if the camel is nice and orangey and the blush is nice and cool, just for a strange sort of juxtaposition….but one that I’ll gladly bypass when I find a pair of heels that are three and one quarter inches of block heel high, making them both high and walkable.

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