March 17, 2017

Weekend 3/17

 

I love this pic of Laura and her little – it warms my heart.  (And I’m taking St. Patrick’s Day style tips from little Miss Sienna from now on.  Sequin headband, done.)

Also, thank you guys for your insanely kind comments about my…..ummmm……mom bod on Wednesday’s ThirdLove post.  Truth be told, there was a moment of hesitation before including a few of them.  Soft stomaches, scars from my mastectomy (admittedly, I lightened one of them), and dimpling across my chest from the reconstruction (which no one has even noticed, despite the fact that I agonized over that photo)….yeah.  I paused.  And then I got a bit annoyed with myself.  I mean….it’s how I look.  I’m a forty year old mom of two kids and breast cancer survivor who has been working her butt off at Pilates and Yoga and skiing and this is how I look.   So the fact that these pics were met with so much support?  Just….wow.  Thank you for helping us all keep it real over here.

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March 10, 2017

Weekend 3/10

 

Obviously we’ll be skiing this weekend.  I mean….it’s snowing.  And I’m pretty sure it’s the first – no wait – the second snow of the year.  If I can manage to get my shizz together, we may even leave tonight.

BWAH HA HA HA!

Good one, S. [wipes tears from eyes] My shizz will never, in fact, ever be described as “together”.

But we may still leave tonight.

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We’re kicking off Spring Denim Month!  Throughout the month, look for Dressing Room Selfie articles as we all attempt to find the lightwash denim of our dreams.  I’m still in the thick of “research” but these are the most comfortable pair of high-rise jeans I’ve ever had the pleasure of trying on.  High-rise denim meets pajamas.  True Story.

What to wear under racerback tops?  Check out this gorgeousness by ThirdLove.  More soon.

OMG THE TAUPE BOOTIES ARE BACK.  Remember my nude Lucky Brand boots from last year?  I just found them back in stock.  They’ve been rebranded as “Kamby” and the color I have is sesame.  These are still one of my all-time best purchases. (Also available at Amazon or Nordstrom.)

Patio Game Strong.  Crate and Barrel has 20% off all outdoor furniture this weekend.  All I want is that dark blue sofa.

LOFT has 40% off Spring styles….including one of my favorite sweater jackets and this freaking adorable tankini top.  Hunh.

 

ALSO, THIS

In honor of International Women’s Day last week, here are a few gems we loved:

#MOREWOMEN.  ElleUK edited the men out of photos of people of power and influence, showing exactly how few women are truly represented worldwide.  We are 37% of MBA graduates….but only 4.6% of Fortune 500 CEOs.  (Thanks for the find, Scotti!)

It’s 2:38PM, time to go home!  On International Women’s Day, Iceland announced that it would officially require gender pay equality.  The Icelandic women have been peacefully protesting since 1999 about under-representation…and, more recently, this past October, many women left their offices at 2:38PM each day (due to the gender pay gap, any hours worked after that were unpaid).  Well done, Iceland.

Three women-run businesses that I love:  Shop Buru, a online boutique that caters to the post-partum and nursing mamas….Tuxe Bodywear, created and owned by women (and a fervent supporter of ambitious women)…..and Colleen Rothschild, the beauty company whose cleansing balm I can’t live without.

Once upon a time…I just bought Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls for my two little guys. It’s a beautiful book about the real-life accomplishments of women throughout history – both ancient and modern.  Each write-up includes a portrait that was commissioned especially for the book, all done by women artists.  It’s almost an art piece, yet the writing is engaging.  Both of my boys love it – the stories are human stories (hardship, sacrifice, loss, perseverance) – and the fact that they are exclusively about women is, to them, no big surprise.  Why wouldn’t the stories be about women?  Raines did wonder about the title….he wanted to know why this book was only for girls – “I like these stories, too, Mom.”   I perhaps wish the authors had called it “Good Night Stories About Rebel Girls”…but it did prompt a discussion of women’s rights throughout history, so perhaps the more provocative title was a smart move.   In any case, whether you have little rebel girls or little rebel guys….this is a fantastic book.  (And will most likely become my go-to birthday gift for all of our friend’s kids.)

 

The best thing I read on International Women’s Day…..So often, in a missguided attempt at support, we still resort to labels.  Women are STRONG!!  Women are FEMININE!!  Women are INTUITIVE!!  I mean….ok, none of those things are bad, but labels, even good ones, are so limiting.  Sure, some women are strong (sometimes), some women are feminine (sometimes) and some women are  intuitive (sometimes)….but the ones that aren’t?  They’re no less womanly….they’re no less woman.  Which is why, on our IG account (@themomedit) we simply posted the quote by Coco Chanel:  “A woman should be two things:  exactly who and what she wants.”

Yes.

And then, later that day, I received this in an email from Lululemon, who managed to put into words alllll the things I was feeling.  In short, they nailed it.  I hope it speaks to you as much as it did to me.

For you,

If you feel strong, or fragile, or strong and fragile. If you sometimes laugh at your mistakes and sometimes cry at them. Whether you are loud, or quiet, or are sometimes loud and sometimes quiet. If you are a mother, not yet a mother, a stepmother, will never be a mother, or never want to be a mother. If some days you battle the feelings of being infinitely worthless, and some days you recognize your infinite worth. If you take a stand for what you believe in, or don’t know what to believe in. Whether you are full of love, or fear, or sometimes love and sometimes fear. If you feel most beautiful in high heels and dark lips surrounded by bright lights, or most beautiful with a naked face gazing up at bright stars. If some days you refuse to give up, and other days you have nothing left to give. Whether you feel lost, are searching, or have found yourself. If you take a step forward, or a step back, but no matter what, you keep stepping. 


Wherever you are, in all that you are, we honour you.


Namaste

 

Happy weekend.

xo,

S

 

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March 4, 2017

Weekend 3/3

Pax had a tough night.  He was up at 2AM crying, with a runny nose, a suuuuper sore throat, and achy ears.  So color me surprised when I woke up this morning to find his big blue eyes staring at me, his freckled nose inches from my own, a big smile on his face.   He was cradling my face with both hands. “I can’t feel my face when I’m with you…” he crooned.

OMG.  Take notes, Mike.  I’d like to be woken up exactly like this every. day.  (Plus coffee.)

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Shopping for swim??  An early look at our 2017 Swim Guide is available now…(with more to come!)

Shopbop’s huge sale ends Sunday.  We rounded up a bunch of our favorite pieces from the sale, here.  And then most of the tops I chose sold out.  Boo.  So I updated my section with new finds (many of which I ordered – selfies are posted to IG, @shanachristine).

Guess what’s (FINALLY) back in stock??  The Colleen Rothschild miracle cleanser that’s got us all addicted. 20% off with code BEST20!

Show those pearly whites.  Gwen just bought Keeko Oil Pulling Sachets  – a 14 day supply. What are our thoughts about this? Supposedly there are a ton of great benefits to oil pulling (including a whiter smile). Would anyone be interested in a review?

Also, this…

Do you like us like this?  The TME team has started recording videos at our weekly meetings to discuss new trends, cool beauty tricks, and, eventually, reader questions.  We’re calling these segments “Nap Chats” because we’re all trying to squeeze them in during naptime.  In our first segment we talk about clogs – you can watch it here.  Are there any questions you’d like us to address in an upcoming segment?  We’re open to any topics.  (And we’re also playing around with format – would Facebook live be better?  Then you can ask questions in real time…..?) Let us know your thoughts!

Wanna walk the runway?  If Dolce & Gabbana’s latest show is any indication, perhaps you can.  Slow clap, you guys.  MORE OF THIS.  (Thanks for the head’s up, A! xo)

See Jane describe feminism.  In Net-a-Porter’s recent interview with Jane Fonda, I don’t know what’s more badass….Jane rocking the heck out of a leather jacket (wrinkles and all), or the discussion about how “people pleasing” is a disease.  BAM.

One more reason DACA matters.  This Berkely student grew up in the US, and only found out he was undocumented when it was time to apply to college.  Reading his story – written in his own words – is truly eye-opening.

Cue the tears.  Scotti sent over this video of a baby hearing for the first time….and it’s EVERYTHING.

 

Happy weekend!
xo,
S

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February 25, 2017

Weekend 2/25

 

Well.  This weekend is the last weekend of my boys’ ski team.  We’re all bummed – especially Raines.  “At least I have surf camp coming up,” he said.  “When does that start back up again?”  Sorry, Kid.  Not for five more months.  To Raines, this might as well be forever – he literally collapsed at my feet as the realization set in.

I mean….we’ll keep skiing as long as we can, but with 70+ degrees and rain this weekend, I don’t know how much longer the slopes will be open.

Am I the only one still hoping for a big storm?

As I type this, Gwen has just waltzed in with box of doughnuts, damn her.

And oh!  Before I forget:  Huge thank you to everyone tagging their photos with #TheMomEditStyle on IG!  Watch @themomedit on Monday – we’ll be featuring some fun reader style….

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J Brand brought back my favs:  Lovestory flares!!  I still have (and wear) my old pair.  (Also at Nordstrom.)

Walk or Lyft?  Thanks to these peep-toe booties, I have determined that my perfect date night heel is a block heel, 3 1/4 inches high.  Anything more, I’m in trouble.

How much would you pay for sneakers?  At our team meeting this week, we ended up debating Golden Goose sneakers.  I’ve been SWOONING over them for years, but they’re insanely pricey.  However….if sneakers are literally allll you wear, are they worth it?  Cost per wear and all things considered??  Hmmmm.   Anyone have a pair?

I love cheap thrills.  We found a $49 version of the cutest-ever sweatshirt, a dead ringer for one I bought years ago at Revolve (for over $100).  You can see the two compared on our IG account (@themomedit).  Even better?  The $49 one hides bra straps better than the original.

 

ALSO, THIS….

I used this crap on Raines.  FDA reports from 2006- 2016 show hundreds of adverse effects in babies after using Hyland’s teething tablets.  Adverse effects like…seizures, turning blue (no breathing) and, in eight tragic cases, death. It’s a good reminder that “natural” doesn’t mean “safer”.  Something my organic-loving heart often forgets.

Yay, Science.  Have you heard of 3D printing?  This one made it onto our STEM guide this year, but researchers are taking things to a whole new level.  This article in The Atlantic about the potential use of 3D printing for prosthetic limbs – especially in impoverished countries – was so encouraging.  Yay indeed.

Are you rude? This article, The Age of Rudeness is brutally honest, a little chilling, and…heartbreakingly real and sad.  Yet one of the best things I’ve read in a while.  (Thanks, Julie)

I struggled with this one….Darling Magazine ran an article titled, “Real Perspectives From The March For Life in Washington.”  As a pro-choice supporter, I started to read with a nauseous feeling in the pit of my stomach, waiting for the frusteration to build.  And then I read this:

The current climate surrounding the “Two Marches” feels similar to the kind of destruction and fury that war brings. Words are not well tempered these days; opinions are either “ridiculous” or “perfect,” with no space in between. We cut one another out of conversation threads and unfriend those we cannot understand because “we can’t stand to know you.”

And then, this:

Here’s the pill we don’t seem to want to swallow: There were pro-life women marching against sexism on January 22nd, and anti-Trump women marching against abortion on January 28th. So here’s to the hope that we cease to view this as “two sides of a war” because that makes the “other” the enemy.

Instead, may we begin to speak rationally, lovingly, and even hopefully around the table of open discourse and thoughtful debate, celebrating our common conviction in the power and necessity of protest in democracy.

 

Yes.  This.

 

Happy weekend….

xo,

S

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February 10, 2017

Weekend 2/10

 

Anyone have special plans for the pre-Valentine weekend?  We’ll be doing our usual ski thing up at Blue Mountain.  I’ll bring a bottle of Cava to make it extra special, because nothing spells ROMANCE like one tiny hotel room, hubs, and….

…two young boys screaming about screen time. #winningatromance

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One of my friends, who happens to be an almost-insufferable Barney’s snob (HA!), has recently become addicted to LOFT.  She bought this sweatshirt, this other sweatshirt (swingy shape + cool tassel detail), and this fuzzy sweater (on sale). (“Lou and Gray?  Who are these guys?”  OMG.)

A few of you were asking about moto jackets for longer torsos…we recommend Express’ classic moto jacket (now on sale – thanks, Laura!), or try this one (comes in a bunch of colors), or this sweater -moto hybrid, or this pale pink one or even Madewell’s leather moto might work, since it’s longer in front than in back.  (Thanks, Amanda!)

Um.  This pretty collar necklace is on sale for under $20, and would be perfect with a simple tshirt.  By Rebecca Minkoff. HOLLA

I’m obsessed with Gwen’s Individual Wine Wipes.  She says, “I can vouch for these things – I’m always self conscious about my teeth + red wine (anyone else?) and these are the EASIEST to stash in all of my bags and wallets. Such a cool product.”  Ordering.  Now.

 

Also, This…

Anyone else looking for killer class-valentine ideas?  Like….the real, actually achievable, yet still worthy of points-for-creativity kind?  The unicorns of class valentines, if you will?   Liz from SayYesBlog blew my mind with 5 ideas from the dollar store.  Obviously she’s a genius.

Cam found a way to Make Valentine’s Day Special for a child in the hospital.  And it only takes a minute or two.

Laura found this guy who looks and dresses like his dog.  Instagram gold, I tell ya.

Amanda’s #kidgoals:


 

And if you’ve ever wondered what Disney Characters would look like in Real Life….Scotti found it.

Happy weekend!

xo,

S

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January 28, 2017

Hey Hey Weekend

 

As I write this, Mike and I are in Brooklyn for a much-needed weekend away.  We’re so excited.  Over the holidays he surprised me with tickets to Then She Fell, an immersive theater production (only 15 people per night, and you are part of the show), based on Alice in Wonderland.  We’re staying at the Wythe Hotel in Williamsburg – any recommendations for a birthday brunch tomorrow morning? 😉

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Hello, Dark Angel.  You guys have been asking for date-worthy tops for Valentine’s Day, and I’ve got alllll the feels for dark and moody.  Something like this or this.  I’ll do a roundup later this week.

Speaking of ….I just discovered the online boutique And Other Stories and have become obsessed.

You looking at me?  This cheeky pj set is seriously sexy on.  I have it in an xs for reference.

Tiny pops of color. Sorels with bright, contrast laces.  Alway yes.

ALSO, THIS

Hey, Pretty. 25 Famous women on what it means to feel pretty.  (Thanks, UKH!)

Laura is going to make these healthy strawberry chocolate bars.  Think coconut, dried strawberries and dark chocolate.  (So pretty for Valentine’s Day, too.)

From Amanda:  Listening to the powerful song “I Can’t Keep Quiet” performed by a guerilla choir @ the women’s march in DC led me to this amazing charity called Step Up that partners professional women with inner city teen girls in mentorship programs. You can donate, mentor, attend fun events (like this one at the Coach store in NYC). Also, this One Woman Riot tee is freaking awesome, 20% of proceeds go to Step Up’s LA branch.

Cam discovered The Cuddler Program at Jefferson Hospital where you can volunteer to cuddle opioid-addicted babies.  This program is in Philly, but you can try calling your local hospital to see if there is a similar program. SOB!

Midwesterners, remember Prairie Home Companion?  Leave it to Garrison Keillor to call hooey and horse hockey when he sees it.  *cough*Trump*cough*

 

Enjoy your weekend!

xo,

S

 

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January 23, 2017

The Women’s March – Next Steps

 

We had quite a weekend.  Mike and I brought the boys to the Women’s March taking place in Philadelphia.  March organizers expected the crowd to be only around 20,000 (we’re so close to D.C. that many headed down to the main event)…but at last estimate, more than 50,000 people marched in Philly!  (And thanks to those of you who stopped to say hi – so fun meeting you!)

The energy of the march was incredible – people from all over the world, joining together in peaceful protest.  It was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before, and prompted so many interesting discussions with my boys.  They each made their own posters (Pax picked Love = Power, and Raines picked Wild Feminist – I suspect because his Dad has that tshirt), and we talked about what it means to be a feminist (equal rights for all).  They seemed surprised to hear that it’s a thing.  “Of course women should get paid as much as men, Mom.  You do EVERYTHING around here!” says Raines.  (BWAH HA HA – score one for mom.)

But we also talked about ‘Black Lives Matter’ and ‘We are all Nasty Women’ and ‘The Future is Female’  and the nuances of what these slogans are really about, and the important historical context that goes with each one.  As a parent, it was so rewarding to see the light of understanding dawn in their eyes, and then to see them resolutely march forward.

Here are some of our favorite pictures from the march in Philly….

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January 20, 2017

Good Luck This Weekend….

downloadable graphic:  the wild unknown

Well.  Here we are, on the eve of Trump’s inauguration.  I’ve spent the last few months waffling back and forth between ignoring the inevitable and drowning myself in articles on our post-Trump future.

It’s terrifying.

To those of you who voted for Trump, who continue to feel (hope, perhaps?) that he’ll be The Best President Ever….I sincerely hope you are right.  I hope that he surprises us all with measured, thoughtful, just leadership.

In the meantime, I’ll be marching.  Because human rights – for all genders, races, and religions – goes far beyond politics.  I believe in a future that values diversity – diversity of culture, diversity of race, diversity of thought.  And this is a future worth fighting for.

When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty.    -Thomas Jefferson

Here’s an interactive graphic of all women’s marches across the US (and Worldwide!).  I’m headed to the sister march in Philadelphia tomorrow, and yes, my boys are coming with me.

Need a sign?  Here’s a list of 150 possible slogans, with statements ranging from “in diversity is strength” to “Pussy Power:  it’ll grab ya”.

Or just download the gorgeous Diversity is Reality sign from The Wild Unknown.  (Kim, you rock.)

What Else?

I like this old Intercept article, Donald Trump Will Be President.  This is What We Do Next.  In addition to some concrete steps, he offers a bit of hope.

5 Ways To Get Involved, a Cup of Jo article that came out after the election, is still worth a read.  I especially love the point that we can use literature to help us understand the perspective of those outside of our bubble. I’d love if the book lovers among us would weigh in with recommendations.  Perhaps we could work together to come up with a must-read list for cultivating empathy, understanding, and acceptance in 2017?

All The Wonder has already created the kid version.  Check out their list of 35 Picture Books for Little Activists.

Lastly, a little perspective:  In 2022, scientists are predicting that two stars will collide, creating a red nova (and temporarily becoming one of the brightest things in the sky).  How’s that for making us all feel small?

 

This weekend I’ll be marching forward with my feet, into a scary, uncertain future.  But when I look down into the eyes of my little guys, I’ll be sure to get way down, down to their level, where I can face them eye-to-eye. Where I can pause for a moment, and listen.  Because they are our future.  And now more than ever before, our children need to know – each and every one, regardless of race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation  – that they are valuable.  They are worthwhile.  They are powerful.

xo,

S

 

 

 

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January 14, 2017

Weekend

 

This picture seems like an odd choice for January….but it’s pretty representative of the bizarro weather we’ve been having over here on the East Coast.  Also, the shirt is by of my very favorite designers and it’s on sale.  So there’s that.

Ironically, we’re kicking off Winter Boot week on Sunday.  About half the team is up to their eyeballs in snow (Laura, over in Portland, has been dealing with EIGHT consecutive days of NO SCHOOL OMG)….and the other half are are wearing seasonally inappropriate clothing.

We don’t do birthday parties for the kids every year (it’s just too much), but we did have Raines’ party last night.  It was a massive, Parents Vs. Kids Lazer Tag Battle, and it was so freaking fun that the adults are thinking of turning it into a yearly thing.  If you are a Philly local, we drove out to Ultrazone.  Worth it. (Even the anti-gun pacifists totally got into it.  It feels more like tag than killing.  Also, the pizza was pretty good.)

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Scotti thinks cobalt blue is going to be huge for Spring – like this cute LOFT sweater.  She also updated her Editor Picks Boutique.

Two of my favorite anti-aging products are on sale:  I swear by this Vitamin C treatment in the morning, and this gentle Retinol at night.

Bloomingdales is having a huge sale.  Amanda threw top picks from the sale into her Editor Picks Boutique.  She’s got me eyeing these jeans.

ALSO, THIS….

Pasta-free mac and cheese?  Smitten Kitchen has a recipe for a super cheesy pasta-like bake where she swaps the pasta for cauliflower and farro.  YUM.  (If someone can make this dairy free, I’m all ears.)

Rebecca Wolf is writing a movie.  I couldn’t be more thrilled.

Remember The Style Hour Podcast?  We’re thinking of doing it again.  Any issues you’d like us to address?

 

Now I gotta run – we’re skiing this weekend.  In what little snow is left.

Hope you guys are snuggled up with a good cup of coffee and some dark chocolate!  #morningchocolate #itsathing

xo,

S

 

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January 4, 2017

The Best of TME 2016

 

It’s been quite a year.  Data nerd that I am, I thought it might be fun to take a quick look back at 2016 and see what our most popular content was, as determined by pure numbers.  But I was also inspired by Anne from The Modern Mrs. Darcy – she did both the ’10 Most Popular Posts of 2016′  and her 11 Favorite Posts of 2016.

I totally get that.  Many of the articles I’m the most proud of are not necessarily the most popular in terms of sheer numbers, they’re just the most meaningful to me.  For example, The Comfort of Breasts, an article I wrote for Sapien Magazine last year is easily the writing highlight of my year.  It took some tears, some rewrites, and was one of the best emotional releases I’ve had surrounding my cancer to date.

So.  I asked each member of The Mom Edit team to choose their favorite article from the last year – the one that they had the most fun writing, the one they were the most proud of, and highlighted both our favorites…and each author’s top post.

Before we get started, our top post, over and above everything else was my Nordstrom Anniversary Sale – What to Buy (#DressingRoomSelfies Edition).  You guys read this one, shared this one, and pinned this one like crazy.  Thank you thank you thank you.  It’s so appreciated (and I’ll be sure to do it again next year).

But old sale posts makes for a rather booring yearly roundup, so I removed these from the list.

The last note?  My old article, Ten Tips For Flying Alone With Kids is still holding strong, almost five years later.

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