I thought I’d follow up my ‘tucked underwear dress‘ from yesterday with another crowd pleaser:
HARNESS MWAH HA HA HA
When Goodnight Macaroon first reached out, I guess I was expecting an online children’s bookstore. Imagine my surprise and delight when I realized that Goodnight Macaroon is actually a very clever name for an online boutique specializing in of-the-minute clothing (at reasonable prices).
This jacket, for example, is just the thing to dress up a turtleneck/graphic tee situation. (See? I promised I’d work that turtleneck in somewhere.) And if you’ve been reading The Mom Edit closely over the last week, you may have already stumbled upon a few other Goodnight Macaroon pieces. (This Ramones tee is theirs as well. Raines picked it out for me – it’s his fav band.)[Side note: I’ve been getting several questions about photography – equipment, settings, etc. I’ll start including shot details with the last pic (the one that also has outfit deets). I’d also love to hear from you seasoned photographers with tips/tricks/improvements…..Thanks!!]
“Mom, why are you working so much? I don’t like that you’re working all of the time” said Raines, my oldest.
I sat there, stunned by his words. For most of his life, I had been a stay-at-home mom. From the minute he was born, Raines was my little buddy, my partner in crime, we were never, ever apart. We were attached, both metaphorically and (thanks to the Ergo) physically. With Raines, I had slowed down, discovered myself and found peace.
And then Pax was born. (I’m joking. Ha, ha….ha)
But life is different now. Not only have my kids changed and grown, but I’ve changed too. There’s been this sort of natural progression of letting go and moving on. I am no longer the only women in Raines’ life. His teachers have become increasingly important to him, as have friends. Our little bubble of existence – where the two of us so happily spent those first few months of his life – has expanded. I am still at the center, but now he is at the edges, pushing out, away from me.
I’ve heard other women, moms with more experience than I, talking about this seemingly inevitable shift. They’ll use words like “rediscovering” themselves, or as one friend said, “I’m just now getting myself back“.
I get it. From the depths of my soul, I get it. But at the same time, there’s another part of me rebelling at those words, “getting myself back,” and wanting to scream. Because the path of rediscovery implies a loss, right? In order to get yourself “back” or to rediscover your self, you first had to lose it.
I didn’t lose myself in motherhood; instead, I was found. So any journey I embark on now, from this point forward, has to honor that early experience, that truth.
I am now a working mom. Sure I work from home (with a really flexible schedule), but working nonetheless. And while part of me thrills to put on my high heels and take the train into the city to write, or discuss collaborations in a professional, adult voice, and I think “YES, there she is! There’s that girl I’ve been missing!”…perhaps it’s more accurate to simply say that I’m ready. I’m not rediscovering some former self, lost among the diapers and the spitup and the 2847364 incessant questions a day from two young boys, but it’s the woman that – along the way – I grew up to be. This woman who is ambition and drive and goals and forward-thinking…but who is also that new mom – will forever, irrevocably be that new mom. The new mom snuggled in bed with her newborn, the light slanting into the room as she kisses a fat thigh, her heart swelling to impossible proportions.
I am all of these things.
So when Raines asks why I work so much, I pause. I look up and see past his long limbs and crazy hair and remember that once-upon-a-time it was just him and I in the bubble; I was his whole world. Actually, I remember it better than he does. “I work because I want to, Baby” I say. “I work because I love it. We only get one chance, you know? One life to figure out what we love to do, to make a difference. I work because it helps me figure that out.” We stare at each other. He grins. “Okay” he says. And just like that, we are back in the center of our bubble.
Soooo…..as I get more embroiled into this working-mama-world, there are a few MVP items that have made my life so. much. easier. Especially for working on the go.
(all photography by Vafa-Coffman Photography – a seriously talented husband-and-wife team who splits time between Michigan and San Diego )
Sole Society asked me to take a peek at their latest footwear line. If you haven’t heard of Sole Society, they’re an online retailer of on-trend shoes, bags, and accessories at affordable prices. I was pumped to find a few different iterations of my latest boot obsession: the short, flat, gray-ish/greenish/dishwater-blondish boot (aka taupe).
I love throwing on boots with my summer standards (Hello, cut-offs) as a way of easing visually into Fall. For this purpose, short boots work best. And besides, there’s just something so cool about short boots + bare legs, you know? It has a relaxed, end-of-summer vibe that I dig. (And the oh-so-soft-suede that won’t rub annoyingly on my legs is much appreciated, Sole Society. Keep it up.)
jacket: Everlane Swing Trench
shirt: Elizabeth and James (old)…Madewell has a short-sleeve button-down with a similar vibe
shorts: Abercrombie (ugh, sorry)…but I like the slightly longer length of Minkpink’s Tomboy shorts (on sale for $40)
boots: Sole Society Natasha boots in army
But the other seriously awesome thing about taupe boots?
They’re rockstars with white.
White jeans, cream cords, all of those pale pants that are so tricky to style come winter? Yup. Taupe boots.
scarf: my sister’s…but Nordstrom’s tissue weight cashmere wrap is on sale, and I can’t stop thinking about the blue posiedon color. I mean.
sweater: Marc Jacobs sweater
jeans: Levi 535 white jeans (order at least one size up)
bag: Makr Farm Rucksack
boots: Sole Society Natasha boots in army
Even better, taupe boots will pair just as nicely with black pants as they do with denim. Taupe. The neutral of all neutrals.
If you’re interested, Sole Society has a bunch of seriously cool, everyday boots in taupe. Now….my definition of taupe is pretty loose. Sometimes taupe is a bit green (like the pair I’m wearing), sometimes it’s gray. And sometimes taupe skews a bit warm….almost to camel. I don’t think it matters – the styling works regardless of the exact shade of taupe. Just find one you love. Here are my favorites:
And because I’m still messing around with which widgets work best, here’s a traditional Shop The Post (I threw in some bags, baubles and scarves just for funsies – Sole Society has some really great ones):
A huge thank you to Sole Society for sponsoring this post!! As always, all thoughts, opinions, product choices and taupe obsessions are my own.
I swear. Only in Michigan.
The sun does warm things up….eventually. Nothing like hot sand on skin to really feel like summer, right?
sweater: Marc Jacobs James Sweater (size XS/S)
shorts: Ugh. Abercrombie, simply because I’m still searching for a good low-rise pair. Some readers have recommended the Dolphin shorts by Free People, actually. (A bit longer than their shark bite hem shorts.) May still be too high-rise for the pair I’m looking for.
bikini: J.Crew Neon bikini in Neon Papaya (currently 40% off with code DEPTOFSALE.) If you’ve got a small bum I actually prefer the Neon Shrunken Lowrider bikini…and while my bikini top is gone, the Neon papaya ruched french top is pretty cute (or a classic halter).
shoes: Soludos Sand Lace Up in woven sand (on sale for $43 at Zappos) – I love the oxford vibe of this canvas shoe.
backpack: Makr Farm Rucksack.
Ok, first of all, J.Crew is having a sale that *I think* ends today. It’s 40% off all sale items, AND 40% off a selection of full price items with code DEPTOFSALE. Which brings me to my next point:
I created a sale shop. Whenever I find something fabulous that’s currently marked down, I’ll add it to the shop. Currently, there are some pieces in the shop from the J.Crew sale, and few from Nordstom, and – so exciting – Shopbop has a ton of expensive t-shirts marked down. You know how I love an expensive tee. See the shop for my picks.
I loved this NPR segment on the link between play and brain development. “Countries where they actually have more recess tend to have higher academic performance than countries where recess is less.”
Are you reading Mother Mag? You should be – they’re fabulous. I’m now contemplating Mommy-and-Me outfits (no seriously – check ’em out I’m tempted!!), loved their round-up of cool sneaks and their fresh take on a mom-uniform.
Courtney emailed to let me know that Elle Macpherson has a lower-priced line at JCPenny. Cute stuff!
Kim emailed about Rent the Runway’s new Pro subscription. For $30/year, you can add additional dresses to each order for free (and get free shipping). It looks like they’re also offering a new Unlimited subscription which basically works like Netflix DVDs, but with designer clothes. Oooooooo…..I think I should try it. In the name of “research” of course.
As you can probably guess from the pics, we are up in Michigan enjoying my sister’s new baby and having WAY too much fun with old friends and family. Lots of summer bliss happening, for sure. Hope your August has been relaxing!
ps. A thank you all SO much for your amazing ideas on yesterday’s play post. I’m now trying to figure out how to get a big pile of dirt, PVC pipes, and tree stumps into my yard. 🙂
For the 4th of July last year I wore a pretty white dress. It was a small act of rebellion, wearing a white dress on a day that would involve dirty curbs and candy-stained fingers. We even went to the beach.
It was fun, though, being all dressed up. There were sparklers and too much booze and too much candy and fireworks. Or rain? Maybe there was rain; I honestly don't remember.
I do remember feeling rather pretty and sort of glamorous, which is always a nice (rare) feeling. The power of a white dress!
Do you stick to red-white-and-blue on the 4th? I don't typically endorse holiday attire in a literal sense…but the 4th highlights my three favorite colors: white, white and white.
Just kidding. I like navy, too.
I like taking the 4th of July in a festive, dressier direction. It's…fun.
Of course, once we were finished with our highly professional "photoshoot" at the playground….I was all, "Boys! Time to go home!" and Pax was all, "not on your life, Mom".
How are three-year-olds this strong? They're THREE.
And then we all went walking home where Raines pushed Pax off the curb and Pax retaliated with a punch and YES: GLAMOUR ABOUNDS.
top: Bradamant Bodysuit – the Insider (it's a thong style and really comfortable!)
shorts: old Gap….try Gap 1969 Maddie Denim Shorts (currently on sale)
pumps: old Aerosoles…but am dying over these sex-pot red sandals by Schutz, or these bright-red Gramercy pumps by Nine West look similar to mine, but good 'ol TOMS wedges (in red!) are the most comfortable option.
bag: old J.Crew….similar gold glitter clutch
lips: Tarte Lipsurgence Matte Lip Tint in Fiery
Guess what's happening shortly after the 4th? I'll give you a hint: It starts with an "N" and rhymes with "mew website". Yesssss….it's coming……
A month or so ago, I was contacted by the folks over at I-Ella, asking if I'd like to try out The List, a monthly gift bag subscription filled with a selection of hand-picked designer goodies and free stuff.
It sounded good, but I'm leery of letting someone else do the picking. Because, well…picking stuff…that's my thing, right? And I'm always annoyed when some website thinks they know what's best for me based on an online quiz and static formula (and I'm talking about you, BeautyMint).
But The List was different. First of all, The List is associated with i-Ella, an eBay-like shopping site for serious fashionistas…with a twist. If you sign on to become a member (and membership is free), you can either buy, sell, or borrow clothes from other members. i-Ella takes a 15% commission on each sale…but 10% of the commission is donated to a charity chosen by the buyer.
Current offerings on i-Ella range from a $6 J.Crew top to a $6000 Hermes bag. But I'm most excited about the vast selection of mid-range designers (Joie, Marc Jacobs, DVF, Tracy Reese, Chloe, etc.) – these pieces tend to go for under $150.
Secondly, The List gift bag items are brand new, current season pieces that are hand-picked based on your style profile, picture, etc.
Once a month, our network of stylists, fashion insiders, fiercely cool friends and of course, the I-ELLA girls will hand pick the perfect accessory, shoes, handbag and/or apparel to enhance your wardrobe. Whether you're uptown or downtown, California cool or Brooklyn chic, you will receive an amazing gift bag tailored to suit your unique style.
So I said yes to The List. Banking on the fact that the whole company sounded amazing, how bad could their picks be? So I filled out my profile, uploaded a pic….and a few weeks later, recieved my first gift box.
And, uh, holy sh*t.
The List handpicked, for moi, the most amazing slouchy-fabulous leather shorts….
…a perfect, full-sized lipgloss, vintage recipe cards, and a delicately spiky Gorjana ring, made especially for this gift box.
While I was home in June, my sister and I had a discussion about crop tops. She was pro, I was…meh. Until I remembered that I had one. (It was on clearance for $4.99 at Ann Taylor. Reason enough, right?)
And actually, I do like this top. You've seen it before here with a high-waisted maxi skirt….and a high-waist something, I think, is the key.
(The high waist helps tame a squishy belly. Really. It's like Spanx.)
STOP THE PRESS I LEFT THE HOUSE
And, mind you, this was a real outing. There were no doctor's appointments, it wasn't a 15 minute errand that anyone drove me to (just to save sanity), it was a real, honest-to-goodness, family outing.
For this momentous occasion, we went to my fav, Sister Cities Park. This park, this genius of a park, has an awesome coffee shop/patio that are located next to a (heavily chlorinated) wading pool….