Shana brought up a good point in one of our meetings a few weeks ago. There are a TON of amazing off the shoulder and one shoulder blouses out there for summer but what about those times you need a good, old fashioned, ON the shoulder blouse. Sure, off the shoulder blouses are fabulous, but sometimes it’s not worth it to spend the entire day worrying about. Has anyone else ever passed a mirror at Target only to notice their off the shoulder blouse has been covering half of what it should, leaving the other half of your chest on display for who knows how long? Yeah, me neither…
We recently had a reader question about what to wear while pregnant in the summer. Greenlea was born in July, so I remember what it was like to be big, uncomfortable, and hot – SO hot in those last few weeks before she was born. I was always cold before becoming pregnant, but that summer Zack & I had a war over the AC (thank God we had it). He was freezing all the time and I was sweating all. The. Time. (I swear I still sweat way more now than I ever did before I got pregnant). Maternity shorts were NOT happening (hello, hot and uncomfortable maternity panels) and I found myself reaching for dresses over and over again. There were two types of dresses that I lived in: bodycon dresses and long flowy maternity dresses.
My friend Marty recently reached out. She and I were in a breastfeeding support group together after Raines was born. It was a fun group; after each session, a bunch of us would usually go out for beer. Our kiddos – well-nursed for prob the only time that week – would usually sleep for a good two hours. Sometimes? Three. That, my friends, is the true power of breastfeeding support groups, IMO. Beer chats and sleeping babies.
Anyway, Marty recently shot over an email – with pics! Not only does she now have four babies (her youngest is 8 months old), but she found a pretty great suit. She wrote:
I myself have been hunting for a nursing friendly swimsuit that stays in place and makes me feel comfortable both standing on the side of the pool, which is where I spend most of my time, and doing tricks off the diving board (the best way to torment my kids when it’s adult swim!). I’m also super lazy and hate returning things by mail, which I know is a terrible excuse considering how convenient they make it these days. So I took advantage of our neighborhood teenage babysitter the other afternoon and trotted over to Target to see what I could find. I lucked into a clearance rack suit, which is still available on the Target website, so I thought I would pass it along.
My body shape is small chested, even when nursing, and pear-shaped. And stubborn about getting back to pre-baby shape! Although I am not particularly wild about the pattern of the suit, I can live with it, and I really like how it keeps my chest covered and I don’t have to mess with pieces sliding out of place when kids grab on to me or I do those famous dives. 😉 The torso also has some shirring, which helps the pooch situation. All in all, it felt like a lucky find and a great solution for this summer’s swimsuit needs.
And here I am, under the oh-so-flattering dressing room lights. I took these pics to send to my husband to make sure the suit wasn’t terrible, but figured I can share them with you (and possibly the TME readers – yikes!). Had I anticipated sharing this, I would’ve at least brushed my hair. 😉
Hair brushing is over-rated. The suit is a fantastic find.
Keep reading to see more pics of Marty’s suit, as well as links to buy (it comes in four different patterns, too)….
Hey hey…comfy on-sale dress alert! This is going to be a perfect go-to allll summer. Comfy, soft, easy. I think all summer pieces should be that way, yes? And this one is easy to dress up or down, too, making it perfect for travel. It’s 40% off right now, also!
Moms and leggings can go together like salt and pepper, right?
Some wear them more than others but we can’t deny a pair of leggings is a necessity in a mom’s wardrobe.
I’m not really a leggings person. Cool joggers, YES! But leggings? HMMM. Years ago, if I was wearing leggings it meant that I was cleaning or running a super quick errand before showering, maybe working out? Fast forward a few years, add two kids into the picture and what am I wearing today? Leggings.
I won’t lie and tell you that I wear them all the time. The truth is that I probably have two or three pairs and still wear them for the things mentioned above. However, life with two kids is getting a little (lot) crazier, add to that, a husband, a house, creating blog content and my poor brain can’t handle getting dressed.
That’s why I’ve recently started to surrender to wearing them more. When I started, right after Ben’s birth, it was easy due to the cold temperatures. A nice bomber or leather jacket and leggings would take on another meaning. But with the temperatures rising a jacket is not possible anymore, so I’ve been trying to find a stylish way to wear them in summer – a way that I actually want to go out of the house in. At least on the cooler days.
Last weekend was Odunde, the largest African-American street festival in the county. Half a million people descend on South Philly to watch African and Caribbean dancers, musicians, etc. eat traditional foods (and soul food), and shop.
There’s a hip hop / breakdance dance crew that is REALLY good. And I especially love that the guys involved include their kids in the show.
Anyway, they happened to be in the middle of a dance battle when we walked up. Dance battles are Pax’s jam. We had just come home from his end-of-year hip-hop show which ended with one, so I wasn’t completely surprised when Pax stepped into the circle.
It took a few minutes for the crew to realize that he was serious – as Pax stood there, clenching and unclenching his little fists to get ready – and then, they gave him the floor. The street? Anyway. Pax was on.
(Note everyone’s expressions – that’s my fav part.)
I wish I knew the name of this crew, but I do know we’ve seen them at Odunde for a couple of years running. Not only are they SO fun to watch, but they were so amazingly kind and encouraging with Pax.
Guys, you seriously made a little boy’s whole entire day.
Now, onto the normal weekend stuff….
Gimme all the pretty dresses. Anthro has 20% off dresses right now, and I’m debating between a dramatic maxi like this one (or oooo…this one)…this cute little flounced dress…or my friend Linzi’s fav. I also keep going back to this Shoshanna dress with a retro vibe because I think it would look especially good with flat sandals or white sneaks…..so obviously, I’m no help narrowing things down.
So I did eventually try Glossier….and yes, I’m obsessed. The phase 2 set is everything. I like ‘cake’ for the lipcolor, but just ordered the coral….and Boy Brow works much better than Benefit’s brow-whiz. IMO.
Up to 40% off swim….at Saks Fifth Avenue. Which means that many of my favs (Mara Hoffman, especially) are on sale.
We heart beach pants!!! I just found out that Amazon carries the motherload of my very favorite beach pants, Roxy’s Oceanside Soft Pants. Scotti and I both swear by these. I wore mine in Barcelona, she styled them up last summer.
“Where was this kind of quality stuff when I was a teenager?” said Laura, when she forwarded Teen Vogue’s How To Masturbate When You Have a Vagina. Positive sex-ed. Yes.
It starts now, at home. 5 Everyday Ways to Teach Your Kids About Consent is the best article I’ve ever read on the topic of sexual consent and kids. Thanks for the find, Scotti.
Did you know that rates of suicide in kids ages 10-14 have gone up 200%? That statistic is horrifying. My friend Tysie shared an article on Facebook from an occupational therapist who thinks that the problem (for some) stem from a combination of today’s omnipresent digital environment + overly indulgent parenting styles. Personally, I found the writing style of the author slightly annoying, but it’s one of those articles I can’t stop thinking about. And her suggestions at the end are concrete, do-able, and are helping me set the course for our summer…..so I had to share. I’d love to know what you guys think. The article is rather dramatically titled, “The Silent Tragedy Affecting Today’s Children“.
Enjoy your Father’s Day weekend!
Although I usually pick dark solid colors for my own swimsuits, I’m starting to rethink that plan in light of the coolest, brightest swimwear for kids I’m seeing lately. Just looking at all the FUN styles puts a smile on my face. It’s easy to go a little crazy with color in summer, and what better place than on the beach? The good news is that most of this year’s brand new swim styles are already on sale, just in time to kick off summer break! Want to see our favorite swimsuits and coverup sales for kids?
Dear nursing mamas…if you search ‘nursing-friendly dresses’ online…wow. Very difficult to find cute and interesting options. I polled the TME team and got some great suggestions as to what style dresses worked for us for nursing and did a little round-up.
Dresses are by far the coolest thing to wear in the heat! These styles should get you through everyday, date nights and summer events.
One could argue the jeans. It was hot, it was humid, and I may have been better served in denim of the shorter variety. But there were a few forces working against my usual denim underwear, namely, ONE – we were going to be inside watching the kids’ hip-hop concert, so, hello, air-conditioning….and TWO – Pax and I had the following conversation the previous day:[S at stove, cooking something, her pale bare legs clad in denim underwear. Pax walks in.]
Pax: “Mom? What are those things on your legs? Those….lines back here?”
S: “They’re spider veins, Pax. Know where I got those from? FROM YOU!” [she tickles Pax, who squirms away]
Pax: [comes closer, traces one with finger] “From me…” [quiet, musing voice] “…did I draw them on?”
I have this tendency to stick with a front-mirror-check and call it good. The back view can be problematic, and what we can’t see won’t upset us, sooooo….
But after the conversation with Pax I did a rare rear check in the mirror to confirm and YES. Denim underwear this early in the summer may not be my best option. You just can’t unsee some things.
So this weekend, my choices were spray tan or jeans, and given all of the other shenanigans involved (three shows between the two kids, just call me Dance Mom)…I went with jeans. My Summertime Jeans, actually. Boyfriend-y, skinny-ish, and I hear they’re decent on the bum. (I’d look myself, but have already used up my monthly allotment of rear-views.)
Anyway, I wanted to wear jeans, I wanted to be comfortable….and feel a little bit fancy. #dancemom
So I came up with an accessory combo that was kinda perfect for day: walkable, comfortable….yet fancy enough when the day bled into night. Best of all? It dresses up my fav combo: a simple white tank and denim.