June 16, 2017

Nursing-Friendly Summer Dresses

Dear nursing mamas…if you search ‘nursing-friendly dresses’ online…wow. Very difficult to find cute and interesting options. I polled the TME team and got some great suggestions as to what style dresses worked for us for nursing and did a little round-up.

Dresses are by far the coolest thing to wear in the heat! These styles should get you through everyday, date nights and summer events.

Above, left to right: colorblock | stripe | dotfloral

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April 29, 2012

Shop Your Closet: Layer a Short Dress Over a Maxi

Mamas, I have to give credit where credit is due, and this idea came primarily from Stylemint, whose stylists paired the Broadway Dress over a long maxi:

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(photo credit: Stylemint Broadway Dress)

I saw this and thought, well, hunh.  Interesting.

Interesting, because I have a problem dress.  It's a t-shirt style dress, and happens to be a maxi-length.  It also happens to look, according to Raines, like a nightgown.  And once that thought is in your head, there's no turning back.  

Buh-bye dress.  Right?

Except…this damn dress is comfortable, I can nurse, and it sorta obscures any poochiness….so I find myself rescuing it from the donate box and re-hanging it in my closet.  Only to try it back on, realize that it is best accessorized with slippers and a teddy (as in bear) and fling it, annoyed, back into the donate box.  Repeat…49857343094872093 times.

I mostly hate this dress.

Unfortunately for me, this dress' fate is now sealed.  I now love it under my little Target shift dress, which can be too short for some mom-life situations (not riding a scooter, mind you). 


(wearing: Jason Wu for Target jersey dress, J.Crew Factory Striped Maxi dress – here's a much cuter one, Jessica Simpson gold sandals – similar, bracelet c/o LOFT – similar)

Now whenever I'm in the middle of a crazed closet-purge, I won't be able to part with this truly stupid dress.  Instead I'll remember this outfit and be all like, "oh wait!  I have that one outfit I can wear this nightgown with!  Yessssssssss….success."

But seriously!  This trick is a good one!  It's basically an easy (and comfy) way to make a shorter, sexier dress a bit more manageable.

One final example: 


(wearing: Velvet Harden Knit Mini dress, Target maxi skirt, Salt sunnies)


Almost looks like loungewear, right?  Yup.  Feels like it too.  And what do we say when we find a respectable outfit that feels like sweats?

C'mon Mamas, say it with me:  Yesssssssssss…..success.



DISCLAIMER:  Mamas, if you own (and love) that striped J. Crew factory dress, I have no doubt that it looks much better on you than it does on me.  On me, there's just something about the way it falls that screams take-me-to-bed-in-a-purely-platonic-way!!!  

August 31, 2011

Reader Question: Hiding a Post-Partum Pooch During the Last Hot Days of Summer

Despite the consistently hot temps, I'm mentally transitioning to Fall.  I've been working on articles about Fall trends, some reader questions about the best Fall work wardrobes and shoes, gleefully browsing through the Sept issue of magazines (holy moly – have you picked up the Sept Vogue?  It's almost as heavy as Pax!)…when this reader question came across our email:

HI from hotlanta!

since finding your site (yesterday), i have spent hours reading, looking, absorbing- i. love. it.
i found your blog when i did a google search for "how to hide baby pooch"…that in itself should tell you the state of my union. sadie, my precious third (and LAST) girl arrived a month before my 35th bday. and, much to my dismay, the weight is in no hurry to leave this uncomfortable body. i know i will be back to a version of my old self in the near future-but until then i have to find a way to dress myself that doesn't lead to tears EVERY time i walk out the door. the heat here makes it impossible to "hide" without a heat stroke. please, oh pullleeease, give me one "uniform" idea for this miserably hot weather. i am still about 20-25 lbs OVER where i need to be- think 5ish weeks postpartum. yep, de-pressing. i am desperate to feel somewhat put together as i conquer the last of the poooooooch.
hope you are all settled in from your move!


 I think the "find a way to dress myself that doesn't lead to tears" is what got me.  'Cause I have BEEN THERE.

Sunni, the post-partum pooch sucks.  It just sucks.  Mine is still decently big and hard (I have that diastatis thing going on where the muscles split).  And hiding the pooch in hot weather is almost impossible.  Once the temps cool, you can turn to a poncho (I loved mine) or those huge pooch-hiding sweaters that we covered last winter….but for now?  Ugh.  It's tough.

That said, first and foremost, try a shaper cami.  You can check out our favorites and our pictoral evidence on the value of the shaper cami here.  Shaper camis made the biggest difference to my post-partum self, and the best ones are made of micro-fiber.  Shaper camis may be hot, though, so may not quite be the silver bullet you are looking for.

Next, either find a top that hides (really truly hides) the pooch and pair it with a pair of shorts for maximum summer cool.

I've talked about my favorite pooch-hiding top before, and YUP.  I'm STILL WEARIN' IT.  Boring?  Perhaps.  But this top hides everything.  Even on a full stomach.  I call it my Eatin' top.

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July 26, 2011

What To Wear To Meet An Ex-Boyfriend for Lunch

Reader Question:

I am a work-from-home mom with 2 small kids (2.5 years and 10 months).  Like everyone else, my bod ain’t what it used to be, especially my tummy.  And I did multiple rounds of IVF before getting pregnant and gained weight from that too.  Ah well – small price to pay for great kids and I am working at getting it back slowly.  Anyway, I have to be in New York in July and I am meeting a former boyfriend, who I have not seen for 6 years, for lunch.  He’s since married and has 2 kids of his own so it’s 100% platonic, but I really want to look great-but-not-trying-too-hard.

Any Ideas?



Oh, D.  Such a tricky styling situation.  You don't want to go to extremes here (extremes being a prom dress or – god forbid – white) yet…it's your Ex.  You hardly want him walking away thinking, "Whew!  I dodged a bullet!"   Sooo…you need something that looks easy, effortless….but crazy-hot.  


In these situations, I swear by the following formula:

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July 18, 2011

Summer Hat Picks for Moms (Wear them Now & into Fall)

P7123957 My bangs have looked weird lately.  Adrienne, my dear friend (and hair stylist*) pointed out all the new baby hairs along my hairline.  "You had a baby.  Eventually all of your fab pregnancy hair falls out..and then some" she said.  "But it's now starting to grow back in!"


So hello, hats.  It's funny, a year ago a reader wrote in asking for summer hat suggestions, and M and I played hot potato with her email.

You want to do hats?

I could…but it was your idea.

No.  No it really wasn't.  It was a reader's.


You want to do hats?

I could….but you seem more excited about it.

No really, I'm not.




You want to do hats?

and on and on and on….

Suffice to say, neither of us were really feeling hat-ty last summer.  But between my weird post-partum bangs and the fact that oh, I don't know, HATS ROCK….(seriously M, what was our problem last year?)…I'm hooked on hats.

There are a ton of cute styles to choose from, and really, just grab the one you like best…but I have my eye on two styles in particular:  the fedora and the floppy 70's hat.  

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May 9, 2011

Wanting That Which I Cannot Have: Halston Heritage

Screen shot 2011-05-09 at 9.29.49 PM I've been compulsively obsessing dreaming about this dress.  For…months now.  And I'm tempted, people.  TEMPTED.  However….there's this little problem of need vs. want vs. budget.  Normally I can creatively figure a way around these types of problems, but the darn thing is $895.  And totally unpractical for this mom's lifestyle.  The PPW (price-per-wear) calculation is just not good.

Still.  Gorgeous, no?  It gives me heart palpitations.  I want to wear it and twirl around and feel like the most glamorous girl in the world.

Now before I get readers throwing things and accusing me of deviating from our mom-friendly niche…let's try to translate this little bit of eye candy into something that less insane moms would actually wear.

(me being the more insane type of mom)

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May 18, 2009

Maxi Dresses For Nursing Moms

Nursing moms need support (for heavy, milk-filled boobs) and easy
access (for starving, wailing babes).  I haven't been able to find any on-trend nursing dresses. 
Ugh.  We should invent some.  In the meantime, with a little
creativity…here are a few options for nursing moms:

Strapless layered over a Wide-strap Tank Top

a tank top with wide straps – wide enough to hide the straps of a
nursing bra, and layer it under a strapless maxi dress for a cute,
summery look.  If you've managed to find a nursing bra with cute
straps, letting them peek out is OK too.  (I have a list of these kinds
of nursing bras – will do a post soon).

Below left is Forever 21's Tie Dye Print Maxi Tube Dress, $28. Layer this dress over any white (or brown) tank top for an easy, slightly boho look.  I'm showing Target's Mossimo Scoop Tank in white, $9.

Forever21 Target Mossimo Scoop Tank

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May 18, 2009

Maxi Dresses for Moms with Saggy Boobs

If your post-pregnancy or – even
worse – post-nursing boobs reduce you to tears….turn away from the
mirror.  We just need to do a little camouflage.   Most post-preggo/nursing
boobs can be supported with a good bra (even if it's strapless).  So
make sure you have a good strapless bra that fits.  The problem then becomes
the cleavage.  It's the cleavage that gives away the sag.  So avoid
maxi dresses with deep v-necks (I know, I know – that rules out most of
them) and try a couple of different options:

Halter Neck Maxi Dresses

halter neck maxi, when worn with a good strapless bra will easily hide
any sagging boob problems.  Below left is Manambe Dress, $168 from
anthropologie.com.  It's silk, so not great for running around (but
perfect for a wedding), it's pretty, and the shape is perfect.  Look
for one like this.  

Below right is a yellow tie-dyed Grecian Goddess Maxi Dress, $61, from Boutiquetoyou.com.  Notice how high the neck is – no saggy cleavage will peak out.

 Silkhalter    Grecianhalter

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