What a freaking week. We’re back at the shore this weekend (safely back in our little bubble of privilege, says the cynical voice inside my head), and I see that it’s supposed to rain all weekend. Somehow, I find this comforting. Which is both irrelevant and stupid – whether or not it rains on my weekend parade does absolutely nothing to even begin to write the wrongs we’ve watched unfold. I did call my congressmen, donated to RAICES, and yet, as I type this, there are still two thousand kids crying for their parents.
I know, I know, it’s not new. And that’s part of the problem, I suppose. I’m a pretty well-educated, empathic, caring kind of girl. And yet I find myself surprised by this turn of events. Not just by this administration, but I’m surprised at how much my own worldview is changing. I’m surprised by the rosy lens through which I viewed our country for so long. And, if I’m being completely honest here, I’m embarassed. Ultimately I’m embarassed by my own surprise. Because it shows – exactly – how little I knew. It shows my own ignorance. And ugh. That’s such an ugly word.
I keep going back to this Instagram post from @undocumedia. It says, “please stop saying things like ‘this is not the America I know!’ when you see Trump locking refugees in cages. Yes it is. Trail of Tears, slavery, Chinese Exclusion Acts, Japanese internment, segregation. Welcome to the America that non-white people have known for centuries.”
Awful, isn’t it? Both our history and my own willingness to see past it…without properly acknowledging it. I remember getting into an arguement several years ago with my brother and his wife (both Canadians) about how America WAS the greatest country in the world. It was obvious, right? That we were? We’re so powerful, we have so many freedoms, we’re always trying to do the right thing…and maybe, well, maybe sometimes we slip up, but really….we’re still the best. EVERYBODY thinks so, yeah? No. No they did not. They did not agree at all, and I remember being flummoxed by the whole conversation. Ultimately this discussion is not about America the brave and the beautiful (and we are both of those things), it’s really about an America who accurately remembers. And, at a minimum, doesn’t repeat our past mistakes.
So we’re going to be talking more, from time-to-time, about these issues here on TME. We have an interview with an immigration lawyer coming out soon (this topic is so complex, and we just had so many questions we were struggling to find answers to), as well as some advice on how to talk to your kids about what has been happening at the border. Personally, I’ve been on a mission this last year to try and diversity our own personal library – reading books is the quickest way to bridge any gaps between people, I think – and having books about all different sorts of life experiences is more important than ever. I’m happy to start sharing our finds, but I’d love to hear what your favorites are, too.
Alright. That’s where my head has been all week. Now, if you’ve called your congressmen, and donated to RAICES (if you can) and just need a few minutes of light distraction….here’s what else I’ve got for you this weekend.
I mean…approximately like that. Me, determinedly heading to the bookstore for multi-cultural children’s books.
YOU’RE WELCOME. Icelandic soccer player Rurik Gislason played in the world cup for 30 min last Saturday and his IG followers went up 330K (and still rising). Why? To quote Sportsbible, “Imagine being so bloody good looking that your follower count goes from 30,000 to 362,000 after playing just half an hour of football at the World Cup. Even my girlfriend dropped the bloke a follow, for god sake.” Oh ha-ay…..
Good. Die mad about it. I’m obsessed with @meghantonjes and her hysterical, badass,and very real IG post about wearing a bikini even though she’s plus-sized. For some reason, she gets a ton of hate for her self-love post. “I’m gonna be sitting out on the beach…getting a real tan, feeling real good and feeling the breeze…because life is too short to not.” Hells yeah.
Blame it on Juicy Tracksuits of yesteryear. In times of crisis, some people turn to comfort food, I, however, turn to comfort clothes. Inexplicably that has meant shopping for…sweatsuits? I can’t explain it either. Why must it match? No clue, but it must. I’m currently wearing this one (with matching shorts)….and am also loving this one (with matching shorts). Actually, Bloomindales has a ton of sweatsuits on sale…so I added my favs to TME’s Weekly Sale Report if you’d like to check that out.
Solid upgrades. Remember my Rebecca Minkoff sandals from a few years ago? (See them in action, here.) They’re back, with a few upgrades: the leather is softer, the footbed more padded. I bought them in tan this go-around, and LOVE them. They’re available at Amazon and Nordstrom.
Un-boring basic tanks? I’ve been hunting for not-boring basic white tank tops…and I found a few good ones. My favs are this slashed/twisted muscle tee…or this ruffled one (opposites, I know). Is this worth a round-up? Anyone else on the hunt?
The most gorgeous dress I own right now. I stopped by local designer Amy Voloshin’s studio yesterday…and walked out with this dress. I don’t want to overstate things, but it may be the most gorgeous thing I’ve ever put on my body. Packing for the shore? Done. Packing for Berlin? Done. Packing for the rest of my life? Done. Pics coming soon, but it’s SO freaking good I had to share immediately.
I’m packing this $9 gadget on all trips. I’m totally intrigued by The Kitchn’s list of kitchen items to make any Air-bnb stay (or even hotel room stay) better.
Food porn for salad lovers. All I want for the rest of the summer is eat off this list of 67 Summer Salad Recipes (with the season’s best ingredients) from Bon Appetit. Balances out my seasonal ice-cream dependancy nicely, I think.
What’s in the newsletter this week? Last week it was pretty white tops (this one caught my eye) and this week? (Stylish) rash guards. We had to do some serious digging here but I think you’ll like what we came up with. You can sign up for our newsletter here.
Lastly, I can’t not talk about the jacket. While I’d love to give Melania the benefit of the doubt (maybe she did just grab a random jacket?)….it doesn’t hold up against anything we’ve seen from her before. I’m afraid @feministabulous may be right: “Please don’t be fooled. This is 100% bait. It’s an effective strategy to get the media to criticize her wardrobe so that the government can criticize the media for criticizing her wardrobe and delegitimize us as fake news….don’t underestimate this regime. Calling this administration dumb is dumb. We made that mistake in 2016. Let’s not make that mistake again.” And now, reading Trump’s actual comment on the jacket…..food for thought, for sure.
Happy weekend, everyone.