Style vibes: Unexpected | Fresh | Effortless
5′ 3″ | No Curves | Long Legs | Jeans 26-27 | Size 2-4
Mama of two boys, a 14-year-old (teenager — gulp!) and an 11-year-old.
I founded The Mom Edit (Ain’t No Mom Jeans) in 2008. I live with the love of my life (his name’s Mike) and our two boys in downtown Philadelphia. I love a good styling challenge (my engineering side shows eventually), appreciate kindness, and usually pick scotch over wine, sneakers over stilettos, and shorts known as denim-underwear. I once described my personal style as ‘tomboy goes to Paris’ and that’s prob close enough.
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Let’s get the basics out of the way: where you live, how many kids, etc.
I live in Philadelphia with my husband, Mike, and my two boys, Raines (oldest) and Pax. Both boys were actually born in Denver, CO, but my husband and I moved to the East Coast shortly after Pax was born.
Three words to describe your personal style. Go.
Messy tomboy goes to Paris.
Who are your style icons? How do you integrate those tastes into your own wardrobe if at all?
I’m a ’90s girl, so Kate Moss has gotta be somewhere on this list. I also love French Vogue editor Emmanuelle Alt’s style, and am often inspired by blogger Julie Sarinana from Sincerely Jules.
How has your personal style changed since becoming a mom?
I know myself so much better now – I seriously love being in my 40’s, I’ve never been happier – so I think that my personal style has evolved simply as part of knowing who I am, what I like. And while I still have moments of, ‘maybe I’m THAT girl’ they’re fewer and far between because I’m better at listening to my gut instincts. That said….my personal style hasn’t changed that much since becoming a mom…what did change, however, was the way I express my personal style. That’s the trick, right? Taking all of the elements that make you swoon, and figuring out how to make them part of your real life, rather than your aspirational life. (Mine involved sneakers.)
What’s your most-worn piece? (If it’s sweatpants…we won’t tell.)
I recently realized that I basically only wear three tops: a black silk cami, white tee, graphic tee. They work with jeans, shorts, fancy skirts, sweatpants – everything. I may throw a sweater over top, or add a cool jacket, but my wardrobe became much easier to manage when I just leaned into what I’m actually wearing. My fav silk cami is by Cami NYC (I machine wash, lay flat to dry), my fav white tee is Rag & Bone, and my fav graphic tee is still one of those ubiquitous Anine Bing tees. They’re annoyingly good.
Sometimes it’s hard to gauge height from an Instagram or blog post — SO…how tall are you?
I’m just under 5’3″. As you can imagine, the air gets pretty thin up here.
Your top three beauty products?
Colleen Rothschild oil-based cleansing balm is life-changing, Biossance’s Rose Oil gives my skin bounce and the prettiest glow (without being greasy), and this LED Mask – when I use it religiously – totally works to smooth out wrinkles.
What drew you to blogging and when did you start?
There was a moment, after Raines was born, that I found myself sitting on the floor of my closet, wearing only a stained, stretched-out nursing bra and ill-fitting sweatpants (postpartum stomach flab on full display), and staring, despondently, at my wardrobe filled with pre-baby work blazers, backless tops, stilettos, and the tiniest little lacy bras…and I just started crying. It was such a strange time; I was both the happiest I’d ever been, and yet could barely recognize myself in the mirror. At that moment, I vowed to try and figure out how to be myself — but the newborn-appropriate version of myself — and after being horribly disappointed by magazines (so glossy! so pretty! nothing practical!!), this blog was born.
What does a typical day look like? How do you manage time with kids vs blogging (or work)?
When I first started this blog, I would work around nap schedules, around sleep schedules, and, once that didn’t work (does it ever actually work???), I’d pick one night a week where Mike would put Raines down so I could write. And a few times per month, I’d dedicate an entire Saturday. In those days, I could only publish 1-2 times per week. As the boys got older, and the blog started to grow into The Mom Edit, I had to hire a nanny. I started out with a part-time nanny, then eventually went to full-time. It wasn’t unusual for me to start blogging around 5AM, deal with kiddos, and then get back at it late into the night. In those days, we usually did photoshoots on weekends. Now The Mom Edit has grown into a full-fledged business, with a Philadelphia-based team and an office (still blows my mind), so my 9-5 is starting to look more like other 9-5 jobs. Except – like anyone else who owns their own business – I’m working all the time. I keep trying to find a good balance, but it’s been hard. I try to set aside time every day for dedicated family time, but I don’t always do this well. Mike and I are both ambitious people, so it feels like it comes in waves: some weeks we do a good job, other weeks are tough.
After the craziest, worst days we all find salvation in seeing our kids. What’s your favorite thing to do with them to decompress?
My favorite part of my day is at the very end, when we’re all snuggled in bed together. We cuddle, we talk about our days, we read books, listen to books on tape, or watch TV shows together. I can actually feel my muscles relax, my heart-rate slow just from snuggling my guys – even if Raines is now bigger than me. Our most serious heart-to-hearts have come during these delicious bedtime hours.
Mike and I also use weekends away – whether it’s for skiing, hiking, the shore etc to connect as a family. I live for these weekends – it’s like a reset.
If you could give only one piece of advice to a timid, new mom (we’ve been there), what would it be?
That all of my fears about “losing myself” were completely unfounded. And that part of the sheer, sweet joy of new motherhood is getting lost in it. And that the “losing yourself” is OK and temporary, because you will eventually find your way back. And when you do, it’ll be to a much better (and happier) version of yourself. And that it’s totally OK to follow your own unique path as a mother — in fact, you (your baby AND your partner) will be happier for it.
What did you dream of being when you were young?
I wanted to travel the world and have lots of adventures. Or be the first woman president. There was also an actress phase that I’m just going to gloss right over.
What’s one fashion risk you love to see on others but would NEVER take yourself?
I am a fearless fashion risk-taker. Bring it on. (But I do hate wearing matching earrings and necklaces; it feels too fancy. Does that count?)
Didn’t you have breast cancer?
Sure did. I was diagnosed in 2013, after finding a lump (which we all thought was leftover from nursing — I had literally just quit nursing Pax.) Initially my diagnosis was only Stage 0, but during my mastectomy they found another lump — one that had gone undetected by biopsies, mammograms and MRIs. This cancer was more aggressive, and I ended up needing chemo. Which, ya know, was super fun. Since my breast cancer experience, I have been blown away by both the amount of support I received from The Mom Edit community…and by how many of us have been directly affected by this disease. If you are trying to find information about my experience (I tried to write the articles I wish I had found when first diagnosed), check out the Breast Cancer section. And here are a few to get you started: