As soon as you announce your pregnancy to your loved ones and the world, hot of on the heels of joyful congratulations comes unsolicited advice. Enough of my friends are now mothers that this onslaught of information was not completely unexpected. I realize that within people’s love for us and excitement for the changes coming in our lives comes their natural urge to help in some way. And sharing stories, tips, warnings and encouragement is one way of providing that help before the baby arrives, when there isn’t much tangible to do. I am a firm believer in the wisdom than can come with experience, so I have taken many of these offerings to heart. I’m no fool.
I was reading a back issue of the “Grandma Says” newsletter (published by the Growing Child folks – read more about how much I love them here)…and I came across this poem, published in 1972. Apparently, this poem used to be posted everywhere: schools, doctor’s offices, daycares, etc. Ask your mom about it – I’ll bet she recognizes it. (mine did!)
If ever there were words for parents to live by, this is it.
…this is simply a newsletter that started in 1971, and will, very patiently, explain to us newbie mums why manners are still important (hint: it’s all about “caring and consideration”), and what you can and cannot expect from your 2-year-5-month-old in terms of manners. This is a newsletter that teaches parents specific language and behaviors to make us more effective parents (Say, “Hitting hurts Peter” rather than “Don’t Hit”). This is a newsletter that encourages parents to focus on what’s important: helping your child develop courage and independence, empathy, imagination.
At a ladies night out recently, we lighted on the topic of accidental abandonment. People whose babies crawl out of the house and into the road to the amazement of stunned school bus drivers, who forget their children at gas stations, at daycare, at stores, or worse, in the car. Of the six women present, there was a split between those of us who could understand how these things may happen and those who just couldn’t. That is, until one pointed out that all of these circumstances seem to arise from the anecdotally well-documented affliction of mom brain–being too harried and too tired–plus, the kicker, deviating from routine. Somberly, heads nodding with the heaviness of being up past 10 PM, a bit too much Sangria, and with an eye to hedging our bets with fate, we all agreed it could certainly happen to anyone. I’m glad to say I was on the side of understanding from the get-go, because after today, I’d have to eat my hat.
Each summer, I begin a quest that ultimately leaves me frustrated and my lips dry: the quest for a lip gloss with SPF. Yes, you can find lipsticks with SPF, or chapstick types with SPF. But gloss? Good luck.
However, this summer, spurred on by the EWG’s latest sunscreen report (and the fact that I’m pregnant), I started my quest up again. This time, I think I’ve found a near-perfect combo…
My mother hates it when I use the word “pissed”. But sometimes it’s the only word for the job. And after reading through the EWG’s 2010 report on sunscreen, I was pissed. According to the EWG’s latest study, the vast majority of sunscreens on the market are at best ineffective, and at worst, harmful. In fact, the EWG only recommended 8% of the sunscreens they studied. And the worst of the bunch? Yup – sunscreens marketed for use on babies and children. For shame.
…but what struck me as new was the additional (self-imposed) “requirement” that girls now also be sexually sophisticated. Not just active, mind you, but sophisticated. Sophisticated in a way that really isn’t achievable by anyone still in their teens. So what we’ve ended up with are high schools full of girls who look and act the part…but who still have no idea how to orgasm. The bottom line? These girls aren’t enjoying it. Like porn stars, they are pretending.
I was pleased to find that as a Mother’s Day special, Who What Wear Daily covered celeb moms in their versions of “mom style”. While not all outfits are easily pulled off, they do provide a healthy dose of inspiration.
It doesn’t seem like fashion trends could get any mom-friendlier right now. What happened? Was it the celebrity baby boom of 2008/2009? I mean, rock hard abs are a distant memory, the hottest footwear out there right now are cork wedges and flat sandals and muffin top is actually in. But it’s true ladies, the gettin’ has gotten even better. Now we have fabulous, mom/baby-friendly neck gear to boot.
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