January 6th, 2021


I have been struggling to find the words regarding yesterday’s horrific events.  The incitement to violence and treason by a sitting president, the storming of the capitol (something that has not happened since the War of 1812), the endangerment of our lawmakers, the absolute attack on our democratic process itself – these events leave me stunned and heartbroken.

There are so many issues to unpack here, but the biggest one, the most glaring, is this:

What if those protesters were Black?

If the BLM movements of this past summer are any indication –  the peaceful protests that resulted in tear gas and mass arrests and rubber bullets – it’s safe to say that armed Black men scaling the walls and breaking the windows of the Capitol building would NOT have been met with open doors and a few selfies with on-duty cops.

For those of you who have ever questioned whiteness-as-privilege…this is your proof.

For those of you who are comparing what happened yesterday to the peaceful BLM protests of this summer, I’d like to remind you that peacefully protesting is a constitutional right.  Attempting to overthrow the government because you don’t like election results is not.  

One was a protest for basic human rights.  This? Was treason. 

We sat, last night, watching the news unfold with the boys.  They were both upset, correctly reading the room both here and the newsroom on TV.  I am amazed – and thankful – by how our boys seemed to fundamentally grasp that one of the issues at play was the glaring white supremacy.  And that they – as white males – have a role to play in dismantling that system.  It is important, to both Mike and I, that we raise two white boys who understand the privilege they are awarded, through no feat of their own.  Through no merit of their own.  It is important, to Mike and I, that our boys understand that while they are special to us, they are not special on a human scale. 

“You are not special,” we tell them.  

If ever there was a time for white America to take a long, hard look at themselves, it is now.  We, us white people, we are not special.  We have not been put into this place of privilege through any merit of our own.  We got here through the systematic oppression and violence against other human beings. 

When we take a long, hard look back, we see that this racism – our racism – has always existed.  That we started this country with racist laws, and we have persisted in our own white superiority complex for hundreds of years.

I hope that this event – this year – when we look back years from now, will be seen as the catalyst that moves us forward.

One of my very first stops – whenever I’m searching for clarity on a major issue – is Brittany Packnett Cunningham’s IG feed. Her latest MSNBC interview by Brian Williams on yesterday’s events is so precise, eloquent and exactly right – it’s 110% worth a watch (and even a little hopeful). I love her.

I was also struck by @sarahromontoya’s latest IG, where, in the wake of yesterday’s events, she managed to do some soul searching, and came out with this list of commitments (reprinted with permission):

  • I’m going to talk with my children about yesterday’s events in age appropriate ways
  • I’m going to work on my own racism so that I can teach them to be anti-racist, even when they find that racism within themselves.
  • I’m going to keep volunteering for candidates that share my values.
  • I’m going to speak factually, accurately, and compassionately about people I disagree with.
  • I’m going to do everything in my power to give them tools to love themselves deeply so that they are empowered to walk away from toxic belief systems.
  • I’m going to keep educating myself so I can better understand my role in creating the world I want for all children.
  • I’m going to model repentance and forgiveness, while demanding justice.
  • I’m going to do my best and I’m going to mess up and I’m going to apologize.

The Mom Edit remains committed to a community of equality and justice.  We are committed to continue our actively anti-racist work.  We are committed to continuing to diversify our platform, and uplift Black and Brown voices and businesses.

Hang in there, Gang.



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  1. Yesterday was 100% wrong. But if you think the rioting, looting, and setting businesses on fire this summer were peaceful that is totally delusional.

  2. I was waiting to see your response. Thanks so much for voicing what so many of us are feeling, hoping, and working towards.

  3. Thank you so much for this. I love the list of commitments. There is so much to unpack to move forward and I have often become lost at how to start…especially when talking to my kids. I especially love the ones about giving our children tools to love themselves enough to walk away from toxic belief systems and to try hard, mess up and apologize. Teaching my girls to listen to their inner “knowing” and to not be afraid of their true voice is so important to me. As is going for it as hard as you can and being brave enough to know that you may come up short, you might not get it quite right and it is ok to acknowledge those things and learn from them. Thank you, team TME. Keep up the hard work, go rest, and then do it again ❤️

  4. “If the BLM movements of this past summer are any indication – the peaceful protests”
    My home town got smashed up, looted and boarded up. The protests in my area were not peaceful.
    I hear you, I am listening.
    Please try and equally represent the May, June, July events. Many were riots. Not peaceful. Maybe Philadelphia was not smashed and looted and boarded up. I drove through my hometown of 50 years with a broom, shovel, bucket to clean up the damage. Black lives do matter. This is no justification to loot and riot.
    I want change, I want equality. It wasn’t great in May, June or July or August. It is horrific in January of 2021. All bad behavior should be condemned.
    The divide in America is so great I do not think the incoming President can unite our broken nation.

  5. Seriously Hugh? Are you actually saying that there was NOT rioting, looting or arson in some form or variation occurring in various cities during the BLM protests this summer? I believe the author of this very blog even wrote in an article this past summer “let that shit burn” in reference to the BLM protests.

    As others have commented, yesterday was completely wrong. And so was the violence of this past summers’ protests. Violence is violence. Please stop the bias, call it for what it is and not ‘justify’ or excuse it because you support the ideology behind it.

  6. ABC News August 27, 2020: Seventy-four people are now facing federal charges related to protests that have rocked Portland, Oregon, for three months since George Floyd was killed, the local U.S. attorney announced Thursday. The misdemeanor and felony charges include assaults on federal officers, arson and damaging federal property. “Violent agitators have hijacked any semblance of First Amendment protected activity, engaging in violent criminal acts and destruction of public safety,” Billy Williams, the U.S. attorney for Oregon, said in a statement. Portland has been gripped by nightly protests since the police killing of Floyd in Minneapolis. The demonstrations, often violent, usually target police buildings and federal buildings. Some protesters have called for reductions in police budgets while the city’s mayor and some in the Black community have decried the violence, saying it’s counterproductive.

    Shana: please help me understand how you can characterize this as an example of a “peaceful BLM protest of this summer”? You must have a different interpretation of the word ‘peaceful’….

  7. Thank you, Shana, for continuing to use your platform to reflect on the issues that shape the ways we raise our kids. Jan. 6, 2021 was a dismal day in American history.

  8. SHANA : You are mixing issues, this was a protest and violence ensued. I am in no way a fan of violence of any type and believe in freedom and equality for all Americans no matter what color but ….. you wrongfully spun this into a BLM / white privilege event. Stick to the fashion & sales that’s what your followers are here for.

    • MJ, watch the MSNBC interview. The fact that you think that I invented this white supremacy angle is flattering, but totally wrong.

  9. Thank you Shana for sharing your heart with your readers. This is one of the ways that we can move forward. Keep it up❤️

  10. Thank you for not shying away from the discussion. Although I don’t always agree with you, I appreciate the fact that you make me stop and think in ways that I have not before.

  11. MJ is exactly right. Your response, Shana–i.e., that we are supposed to listen to MSNBC to inform how we think–is misguided and intellectually shallow. If you’re going to wade into these issues (rather than sticking to which boots go with which jeans, which is why the majority of us are here), please do it with a little more insight than this. Your conclusion that we should examine our own inherent racism for this to get better is simplistic and, frankly, just silly. Also, where does Antifa fit in your narrative? They, and the vast majority of BLM protestors in my hometown were white.

    • EPB – I think you should be listening to the interview on MSNBC I linked to…an interview with Brittany Packnett Cunningham. She’s a fellow at the Harvard Institute of Politics and speaks from personal experience at Black Lives Matter protests, dating back to 2014.

  12. The protests earlier this year were not entirely peaceful. There was some violence and property destruction. The government reaction to that was immediate and forceful. Although it is illegal and morally wrong, looting a target is not comparable to what we saw in the Capitol. These people were trying to overthrow government. It excited them and, according to reports from White House advisors, it excited the president.

    Shana is right, if the rioters on Wednesday were not the president’s supporters, if they were not white, they would have been shot at and tear gassed immediately. These people broke into the seat of our democracy, caused a huge amount of damage, stole mail and artifacts, and were allowed to walk away. How anyone can look past that white privilege is incomprehensible to most people in this country.

  13. For those who are claiming that this was not a white privilege / racial issue, many of the rioters were wearing Nazi shirts and waiving Confederate flags. They erected a lynching noose on a wooden platform on the West side of the Capitol. To those claiming this was not a white privilege / white power riot, by armed white insurrectionists trying to overpower the will of the multiracial coalition that lawfully elected the next president, you are failing to see what is plainly visible.

  14. Shana, thank you. I came to the site yesterday thinking you’d have something about these events, and when I didn’t see it, I knew you must be doing some heavy reflection. I think silence does send a message that everything’s pretty much okay. And it’s not. A group of people were encouraged by the President, elected representatives, certain news outlets, and online forums to believe that they could change the results of an election yesterday. Many were armed and at least one planted bombs. Our elected officials were hunkering in a basement somewhere to avoid being harmed. And Capitol Police chose not to (or were not allowed to) stop them. I’m a longtime reader, and obviously fashion is a fun and welcome distraction. But thank you for not “sticking to matching boots with jeans” or whatever condescending commenters might say. Keep up the good work.

  15. Shana, thank you for this post. I appreciate that this is the MOM edit. Here, I expect to see the world through the lens of caring about each other’s babies and of raising our children to be good people. The motivations behind this summer’s protests and the seditious riot we saw this week are drastically different. The police and military reactions we saw for each event are chillingly, dangerously different as well. It is lazy at best to claim otherwise. Please continue to “stay in your lane”: that of a mother and a parent who cares about the next generation she is raising.

  16. I am baffled by those that attempt to draw false equivalence between the BLM protests and what we saw Wednesday. While we must disagree that the two events are similar, certainly we can agree that the treatment of blm protestors was very different from this mob. The commenter above mentioned all of the individuals facing charges following the summer protests. We’ll see if any if these confederate flag-carrying, Camp Auschwitz and ‘6MWNE’ (6 million was not enough) T-shirt wearing bigots faces any sort of accountability.

    I come for the clothes, but I stay for the from-the-heart sharing of experiences and points of view.

  17. As a white mother living in Minneapolis that witnessed first-hand the intensity of the summer, I could not agree with you more. I dislike the idea that TME followers would see these posts by Shana and team and just leave, rather than staying to discuss and reflect with the community. I am continually frustrated by the fact that we are all looking at the same events through different lenses and seeing different things, without the presence of mind to challenge those beliefs about “what you think you see” there will be no change.

    Thank you Shana and the TME team for continuing to help us work through these difficult issues with grace, clarity, good advice, and a powerful community of women who all just want the same thing…to make this world a little more peaceful and just, raise our kiddos to be good and kind people, and to look good while doing it 🙂

  18. Posted from a friend:
    Story time. I got some things to say.

    This summer, as I was coming back from a run just before 7am, I saw a bunch of serious-looking guys in brown suits milling around halfway up the block. When I got closer, I noticed the front porch of the house crammed with uniform cops, ATF agents, and assorted personnel in protective gear.

    It was an FBI raid. During the wee hours, over a dozen agents swarmed a residential home, banged on the door, and broke it down with a battering ram. The agents were there to arrest my neighbor, Lore Elisabeth Blumenthal, who allegedly set two police cars on fire during the George Floyd protests in late May. Her housemates – don’t know them well, but nice folks in their 20s, always dress up and give out good candy on Halloween – stood outside the apartments up the block, huddling together, crying and in shock. They’d been awakened out of dead sleep.

    As of New Years Eve, Lore is still in federal prison. She contracted COVID-19 in October, as did many other detainees. She faces up to 80 years in jail. The mandatory minimum is seven years.

    Do you know how they caught her?

    Lore’s face was obscured in images taken during the Philadelphia protests. But a tattoo on her arm was visible, and she was wearing a distinctive t-shirt. Agents followed a trail of social media breadcrumbs through her Etsy profile, online shopping patterns, and LinkedIn until it led them to our quiet cobble-stoned block. They staked out her home for days and then stormed it. They led her away in a phalanx of heavily armed agents because her crimes were political in nature, and she was identified as a danger to the community and a potential flight risk.

    You know where I’m going with this, don’t you.

    There were a few dozen people arrested yesterday following the attack on the U.S. Capitol. The vast majority strolled out of the building on their own power after smashing windows, breaking down doors, terrorizing members of staff, looting the place, and threatening violence. I watched a police officer wearing riot gear lend a female rioter his arm and help her down the stairs as if she were someone’s frail and rattled grandma.

    She probably is someone’s grandma. She is also potentially a domestic terrorist. And I guarantee you that today, no one is tracking her to her residence, ready to ambush her in the wee hours.

    Men who strode through the chamber and took selfies with cops and stole mail from the House Speaker’s office are giving swaggering interviews to major news outlets. Some of them even appear to be staying in the Willard Hotel, an expensive joint that’s famous for housing US Presidents, which seems kinda weird for people who are always complaining about their economic circumstances.

    So we should be asking ourselves why.

    Why was Bree Newsome taken into custody after she scaled a flagpole to remove the Confederate flag from the South Carolina state house, while a white man waving the same hateful banner AFTER BREAKING INTO THE UNITED STATES CAPITOL walked away scot-free?

    Why were 14,000 protestors arrested during the BLM protests, and only 30-45 people (news outlets currently disagree on the total) last night for what amounts to sedition?

    Why was the National Guard stationed outside a neighborhood library in Philly for weeks this summer, doing absolutely nothing, but hey, a corner-store ATM might suddenly find itself in danger — while they were nowhere to be found yesterday as thousands of political traitors swarmed the symbolic and literal heart of American democracy?

    Why was Lore Blumenthal tracked down with forensic precision over the course of a week, while people showing their whole faces (and their whole asses!) on national television are sleeping in comfort tonight and likely will be for the foreseeable future?

    I have a few guesses. They involve 500 years of white supremacy and a system that was designed to be broken. The call is coming from inside the house, guys. Bree Newsome Bass said it best in one of her tweets last night: “The Capitol is [still] not secure because the people leading the coup are still inside the building.”

    And these people were allowed to blather on about unity and healing not three hours after their colleagues were in hiding from terrorists, and being applauded for their moving changes of heart when they decided not to OBJECT TO THE RESULTS OF A DEMOCRATIC ELECTION after all.

    It’s disgusting. It’s a disgrace. It’s the way it’s always been.

    I just don’t know what else to say. The end of this story hasn’t been written. But don’t accept the narrative being pushed that this was a blip on the radar, and it’s over now, and we’re all going to live happily ever after. Not now, not yet. I don’t want to hear it.

    • Thank you for taking the time to write this. Gosh. I don’t know what else to say, either. I continue to be astounded at the lack of empathy and unwillingness to acknowledge what’s really going on. I am furious and heart-broken. Thank you again for sharing this.

  19. I respect your views – all violence in the last 12 months makes it difficult to understand how to navigate, especially as parents. In the name of BLM, rioters destroyed parts of our city busting windows, stealing millions in merchandise, leaving businesses to rebuild even months later…during a global pandemic when they were already struggling. WHY is this question even a question? It didn’t happen so why create an argument for “what if”…? All violence is WRONG. Racism is WRONG. Corrupt government is WRONG. But not all BLM protests were peaceful. Cities were burning across the country. Is there a difference in lack of social order for equality? For social justice? It’s ALL wrong regardless. Why are you only mentioning peaceful protests…choosing only the parts of the story that fit the narrative are so dangerous. Leave that to the media! The header of the email you sent says “fall trends, sustainable style…” so why engage in political discussions. It’s polarizing to read any of this content and if I want to engage in discussion, I’ll seek the information. I don’t want it from bloggers I follow because I appreciate their STYLE advice. This is a place to seek comfort, escape – a safe place away from the heartache.

  20. I appreciate your columns on this and social justice issues.Usually, when I follow a blog, it’s because I enjoy the writing in addition to the pretty pics. So if people don’t want to hear what you have to say. that tells me they are only interested in half of your worth, IMO.

    As a Jewish woman, I have a visceral reaction to seeing Nazi flags (admitting that I didn’t see any at this particliuar rally, but have seen at Trump rallies in the past) but DID see a man in a Camp Auschwitz t shirt. Allegedly it read ‘Staff’ on the back. I saw the pic of Viking Guy at a BLM rally and the insurrection, posted to ‘prove’ it was Atifa (lol) when the pic cropped out his Q sign (the man is a known Q supporter from AZ).

    The insurrection was primed by months of lies promulgated by Trump, Guilani and Senators and Representatives. This particular rally had Trump Jr, Eric and Guliani, along with Trump himself telling them to march down to the Capitol “I’ll be right there with you” as he returned to the WH to watch the violence on TV.

    I am sorry that people died believing in lies, but more sorry for the policeman who died doing his job.

    BTW, did you know that Trump posted an Executive Order last summer in response to BLM protests, that destruction of federal property is an automatic 10 yr sentence? F Around And Find Out, a lot of Trump supporters might be regretting their violence.

  21. There’s a pic, you can easily find it, of Guradsmen isn riot gear standing on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial to ‘protect’ it from BLM propterstors. Where was that show lof force at the Capital? Barr had BLM protestors tear gassed to move them out so Trump could have a photo op at a church. Where was the tear gas when the Trump supporters began breaching the Capitol?

    You can pretend all you want that the color of the protestors skin didn’t matter, photo evidence shows otherwise.

  22. I think you are totally right that the way law enforcement prepared for and responded to BLM protests vs this mob is spot in. One only need to look at the way protesters were violently tear gassed so Trump could walk across the street and hold a bible upside down for a photo op.

    However, I don’t think we should be calling Wednesday’s mob ‘protestors’ as it creates a false equivalency. They were INSURRECTIONISTS, incited by a sitting president to attack our system of government in an attempt to overthrow election results. That’s a far different and more dangerous thing. There is so much tangled up in this that we are going to need to work through and respond to as a country. Because if we don’t hold these people, including Trump and the senators and congressmen who fueled the conspiracy theories, responsible for this insidious attack on our democracy, then the next wannabe dictator is just going to learn that this is a line that can be crossed and they will push it farther. In countries that have suffered coups and dictators coming to power there are very often unsuccessful attempts before one succeeds. We need to learn from that and come together as Americans and truthfully name what happened and hold people accountable. There is so much disinformation and conspiracy theories out there and so I really think it’s really important for all of us and push back on it. So thanks for speaking up and creating this space, and sorry to have droned on but this is intense stuff!

  23. What I mostly don’t understand in all of this, is how there are SO many people unwilling to stop and look at things from a new & different perspective. I imagine it’s from fear. But how sad to live such a closed-off life, never learning about other people, what they’ve been through and only focusing on your own views and surrounding yourself with only people like you. How sad and isolating and devoid of beauty and richness of life.

  24. I cannot express how sick I am of the false equivalence people are trying to set up between the BLM protests and the insurrection we saw on the 6th. But I’m going to give it a shot anyway. For those who apparently need to hear this: yes, over the year+ of global BLM protests, there were some – a small minority – that turned violent and destructive. And yes, looting is wrong. That is functionally different from what happened at the Capitol.

    It is true that we’re talking about another protest during which a minority turned violent and destructive. But they turned violent and destructive *in order to overturn and destroy our democracy.* That’s not an opinion: those are their publicly stated goals. They wanted to stop the established, legal process of certifying a presidential election in order to install their preferred, unsuccessful candidate. This is not a case of anger spilling over, or trying to “send a message” through violent disruption. This violence had a cold, direct and pre-calculated purpose: an insurrection. They brought guns, bombs and molotov cocktails into the U.S. Capitol. They had zip ties. They posted their intent days in advance on social media. They had sweatshirts printed. They were seeking out elected officials, and we are really fucking lucky that they didn’t find them. They were misled and lied to. That doesn’t change what they did.

    There is a difference between looting a Target and storming the Capitol to stop a presidential election. Both are wrong. One is a full and actual assault on our democracy. The other is looting a Target.

    I am also similarly sick of the whole “stay in your lane” “boots n jeans” argument. You are, of course, welcome to wish this site was different than it is and always has been. I wish it was a site dedicated entirely to posting compliments about me and soliciting funds for me to buy fancy hats and bon bons. But it isn’t. TME is also clearly fine with giving you a forum to post those wishes. But please know two things: 1) it ain’t gonna happen, and 2) no one thinks that’s a clever hit. You sound ridiculous.

  25. Thanks, Shana. I love your weekly reflections, and I love the way you set up your site to have a little bit of everything. I come here for all of it.

    I live in Lansing, and last year our capital building was broken into by armed Trump supporters, and a plot to kidnap our governor by Trump supporters was stopped by the FBI. So what happened at the US capitol, to me, did not feel out of the blue.

    Trump incites hatred and division and extremism. The mob that infiltrated the capitol for the purpose of attacking our democratic system and halting our election was fundamentally different in nature than the BLM protests. Looting a Target store, as someone said above, is so beyond different to what Trump’s group did at the capitol that the two really cannot be compared. It’s like comparing the race riots of the 60s that led up to the Voting Rights Act with the lynchings in this country in the 1930s. Yep, there were violent acts at both. But one had a purpose, a fight for fundamental human rights. The other was disgusting racism. They are really, really not comparable. Neither are the BLM protests with the riot that happened this week.

  26. Shana, thank you, as always, for speaking up and for using your platform to attempt to educate while setting a clear boundary: Racist, bigoted ideology is not to be tolerated. I appreciate that you’re willing to deal with all the white folks who refuse to see the rampant racism in this country (and their part in it).

  27. Looting a Target isn’t the same as storming the Capitol to overthrow the government and overturn the will of the voters. Stop with the false equivalency.

  28. Thank you for not “Staying in your lane” we need to talk about this. We need to move forward in a kind and thoughtful way. Anyone who says “Stay in your lane” is okay with the way things are and let me be clear in saying THINGS ARE NOT OKAY THE WAY THEY ARE.

  29. I’m so tired of “whataboutism.” But I will say this: when BLM or Antifa looted or caused property damage or harmed or killed anyone, the consequences were swift and harsh. Justice will be served for anyone who harmed anyone at a BLM protest, you can bet on it. (Lots of other people who were beaten, gassed, or arrested on spurious charges will likely have those charges dropped, but will live with the trauma they endured at the hands of agents of the state, so that’s something to never lose sight of, as well). The utter LACK of repercussions (not to mention the lack of preparation, likely deliberate, if the videos showing Capitol Police opening barricades and letting the crowd through are any indication) is what is particularly upsetting here, and it’s why what happened on 1/6 is, in fact, an illustration of white supremacy in action.

    This is before we even get to the difference between BLM protesting police murders and denying the results of a democratic election while trying to FORCE an end to the congressional session certifying the votes. One is dissent. The other is sedition. And if you bring sedition to the US Capitol, you had better be ready to face the consequences. The fact that these terrorists were so smug in their assurance that they wouldn’t face those consequences, and the fact that, so far, the iron fist of the police has NOT crushed them with the ferocity it (apparently) reserves for BIPOC, is heartbreaking, infuriating, and a very clear indication that these white nationalist thugs believe this country belongs to them and them alone, democracy be damned. I hope to heaven they are proven wrong, and we, for once, do the right thing and shut them down, arrest them, and punish them in accordance with our laws. So far, I am not confident that will happen, and it makes me ill.

  30. Your watching the wrong news stations if you think the protests this summer we’re peaceful. I’ve seen the damage these “peaceful” protests have cause close to where I live. What happened on Jan. 6th was wrong. Here’s the thing, not everyone in that crowd was rioting. Every movement has people that go to far. Same with BLM. Also there are people that don’t care about whatever these groups are protesting and just simply want to create chaos.
    While it is important that people talk to each and that everyone should take time to listen to each other no matter what their views are I didn’t sign up for this email newsletter to hear your opinions on issues. This is not the platform for that. Especially since you can’t be fair and unbiased.

  31. Thank you for this. And thank you for consistently using your platform to speak out on injustice; for having the courage and honesty to engage in true self-examination regarding issues of racism and white privilege (and for suggesting resources to others who are willing to do the same); and for not cowing to people who suggest that protests against police brutality are somehow comparable to violent insurrection by people who cannot accept that their candidate lost a fair and free election.

  32. Shana: Several months ago, as another commented, you openly and freely acknowledged the violence in the BLM protests (“let that shit burn”). Yet, you apparently have forgotten that sentiment- or at least what you wrote- as you now describe those protests as “peaceful”. So what were they Shana? Peaceful or not?There was obviously more than one BLM protest over the span of many weeks this past summer, and, as even you indicated, not all were peaceful. And, many involved more than just “looting a Target”. Your convenient flip-flop in opinion/written word wholly lacks integrity and honesty, and is also a prime example of the hypocrisy and double standard so rampant in our media.

  33. Please consider that a protest after Black people are brutalized and murdered by police is in no way comparable to a mob attempting to stop the process of finalizing the results of an election that represents the will of the majority of people. Black people who live in this country have, for far too long, been unprotected and unfairly treated, by the powers that be, by neighbors and now by people in the comments here. Please do not talk about looting of Target without facing the reality of the looting this country is responsible for when it comes to the lives of our Black and Brown neighbors. Yes, I mean slavery and Jim Crow laws. I mean lynchings and kids in cages at the boarder. You must talk about this atrocities with more outrage than you do the lives of our neighbors if you want to be taken seriously. Things can be replaced. People ought to be treated with dignity and respect. If you don’t want to hear from Shana you don’t need to visit her space. Don’t you tell her to “stay in her lane.” She, too, is human and lives here. She can be honored for her whole self. People are more important than things.

  34. Thank you Tricia. I wanted to write something along these lines, but you posted first and did so beautifully. NOTHING that happened this summer compares to the looting of the seat of our democracy – a site many of us were raised to revere – on the basis of lies that have been proven false time and time again. I come to this blog for style, yes, but I also come for Shana’s book recommendations and take on current issues. I appreciate it ALL.

  35. So looting and destruction of innocent people’s property- or businesses- is acceptable when done in response (or retaliation?) for the years of slavery, lynchings, and atrocities suffered by the black community? While I do not disagree with your assessment and sentiment of how the black community has historically been, and continues to be, treated in this country, is that what you are really saying?

    Can you honestly say that you would feel the same way if it was your business, or your child’s or parent’s business or home, that was vandalized and destroyed- because, after all, it’s not a big deal because ‘things can be replaced’? Really? Violence in any form is unacceptable and looting and the destruction of property is NOT treating people with dignity and respect- not the other day at the Capital, and not last summer either.

    Your response- like many others on this post- is essentially justifying and excusing the destructive events of this past summer because the black community has been wronged for so long. So two wrongs make it right Tricia- or at least socially acceptable? The same can be asked of the group that became violent at the Capital. Violence and destruction is never the answer and most certainly not justifiable. The future of our society, of our country, is in trouble indeed if that is the thought process.

  36. Mom Edit: Please DO NOT stay in your lane. I have been disappointed by blogs I follow posting recipes instead of reactions, and I applaud you for being on the right side of history. Everyone saying “what about the looting in the summer” is definitely not.

  37. So if you feel the violence of last summer was disturbing and not okay you are on the “wrong” side of history Leah? That’s some seriously irresponsible and dangerous logic (or at minimum a very poor choice of words). When you start to condone or minimize violence in the name of being on the ‘right side of history’, you are no different then the ones you criticize and “can’t understand”. Violence is simply never acceptable.

    It is truly dumbfounding that many in this TME Community, including its founder, cannot see the blatant double standard at play here: Violent acts are acceptable when it’s for what I believe is right/for social justice/whatever agenda I have, but not when I don’t. Violence is NEVER acceptable. When our country and society is not any further ahead in 1, 2, 5, or 20 years, you can thank- among many factors- this kind of self righteous mindset that alienates and divides.

  38. It’s amazing to me, though ever predictable, to hear claims that all “violence” is the same – regardless of the numbers hurt, how deadly the results, what the provocations were, the power/privilege held by the instigators, and what the ultimate goal is – and even – who (which side) actually committed the acts (which is very much in question in some of the BLM cases – and were exceptions to generally peaceful demonstrations.) It’s as if you could judge a situation based on one cursory similarity when there are 1000s of differences – then self-righteously declare them identical – and finally cast anyone who doesn’t agree as a hypocrite. Thank g-d there are millions who can evaluate events with more accuracy.

    As for “staying in your lane”, gee, why does that sound so much like the “shut up and dribble” of this past summer, when right-wing white newscasters tried to silence and delegitimize black athletes who dared have an opinion about the violent racial oppression and murder waged against their people…. To blacks: ‘shut up and perform for my entertainment’ To women: ‘shut up and look pretty’. Thanks for the reminder that these attitudes are joined at the root.

    Thank you Shana and TME for doing the hard and right thing, again.

  39. Thanks Gilad for a most predictable TME response: Analyze and differentiate violent acts- because there are “thousands” of differences between and behind them- and then you can adequately compare which ones are more valid? Looting is looting Gilad. Breaking windows is breaking windows. Destruction of property and harm to another is just that. So, to follow your line of thinking, there is a violence ‘scoreboard’ where we should be evaluating and comparing violent acts to determine which ones are more valid or justified? Are more points assigned if innocent people die? More points for validity if the violence occurs at the hands of a minority group? Depending on the target of property damage, is it less points if it’s a person’s home or building or more if it’s a government building?

    A solid effort, Gilad, to minimize the violent acts that occurred in some of the BLM protests and basically imply that they weren’t really all that violent or bad compared to what- the protest at the Capital the other day? So since more people died in September 11th, does that mean the victims of the Oklahoma City bombings suffered any less? I’m fairly certain you would not be so self righteous if it was your business, your property or your family member that was hurt in EITHER protest(s) of this week or last summer. Human suffering is across the board Gilad. My hope is even self righteous hypocrites can acknowledge that. Keep staying in your “right” lane as you are not in a place to even see other lanes exist.

    • Yes YP, there is, 100%, a “violence scoreboard”. Just check out any court of law: 1st degree murder, 2nd degree murder, self-defense – just as a start. I’m not sure why people keep arguing about BLM violence vs capitol violence – why does it matter? The point we’re trying to make is that BLM protests are SAVING our democracy (granting equal rights to all, a fundamental tenet of democracy) while the attempted coup is trying to DESTROY our democracy (overturn an election, hang the VP).

  40. Wow Shana. Violence in the name of “saving” democracy? You are actually sanctioning and excusing and validating the violent acts committed by some during the BLM protests. But, people (who you clearly detest because they support a President you obviously abhor) protesting the election results that ALSO resulted in violent acts by some is now “destroying” democracy (btw- “attempted coup”- that’s a bit of stretch, but then again overly dramatic and exaggerated verbage is your prose). So are you now admitting that the BLM protests were violent? Because your original post above that started this all said they were “peaceful”. Words do matter Shana, and you’ve already demonstrated that yours shift.

    The point you are really making is violence and human suffering is ultimately justified. And, it never is. Apparently in your corner of the world, the ends justify the means. If you or your loved ones ever suffered harm as a result of a violent act in a protest, I seriously question you would feel the same way. But, by all means, keep “saving democracy” even if it means people get hurt. Peace out.

  41. Thank you, Shana. This was a much needed and important message. Our democracy is so fragile right now and it’s terrifying. It’s time to take a stand against this violent coup attempt by right-wing domestic terrorists and fight against the racism that fueled it. Again, thank you so much for using your platform to help make this point. I love your site for your takes on fashion and trends, but I very much appreciate your depth and heart on matters like this as well.

  42. Shana, thank you for this post. I am 100% with you and yet I have so much more to learn.

    My kids are in high school. And one shared a tweet from Dr. Charles McKinney, Director of Africana Studies at Rhodes College, “Whiteness is knowing 30,000 angry, violent white people are coming to DC and not being prepared for them because what is the worst that could happen? Watch. Whiteness. Work.” It lead to a discussion about so much, given that my kids are white males. We watched the interview and have an ongoing list of audio books on rotation in our kitchen. And even that feels like not enough. But, I keep feeling that having these discussions, allowing ourselves to sit in our own discomfort as we examine our own lives, that is where the growth and change happen.

    Your final paragraph is why I am still here…and will remain. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

  43. Shana, I addressed it because it’s part of the both-sides obfuscation.
    And, hey YP – my family had a business in the heart of the Watts “riots” of the 1960’s, which had a huge impact on all of us, and I’ve been thinking (and acting) on these issues in the many decades since.

  44. Of course you do, Shana. You think that everyone who does not agree with you is an inherent racist and in denial of “bummer” news. If you would take the time to talk to someone like me instead of lecture me in a pious and condescending manner you might learn something besides reflexively placing people like us (75 million of them) on Team Turquoise.

  45. I’m going to have another go at this: my first reaction and comment was only in regard to ‘peaceful protests’ even after you,Shana, said burn that sh*t down. Crap, I waded in up to the ankles and the water just kept rising. I feel like I can’t say anything or have a personal emotional reaction without being perceived as a privileged white person. Which even as I type that I recognize that is exactly what I am. Being called delusional stings, too. I understand that a black person would have been gunned down on the capital steps, certainly once inside the building. That was a whole lot of white privilege being flexed 4 days ago and it was sickening.
    So I wanted to come back to this space and let you know in addition to my initial reaction, I did click through your links, reading and hearing what you feel is important enough to bring to this space. I do not always agree with you, though I respect that this is your space and I appreciate you are true to yourself and ideals.

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