Since joining The TME Insiders Facebook Group I’ve learned two things: We have a penchant for ridiculous things (ie: sequined dusters) and many of us suffer from autoimmune diseases. Despite how common they are — especially among women — they aren’t discussed. Because we feel like we’re the only one who doesn’t have the energy to get dolled up for a selfie or participate in a style challenge. Because we live in a society that rewards a stiff upper lip and not vulnerability.
I hear you. I’ve been there. I am there, currently, typing this out while I plan how to sneak an afternoon nap. Not because I want to nap; I have to nap.
See I have Hashimoto’s Hypothyroidism. I was diagnosed with plain ‘ol Hypothyroidism after having my first child and after convincing my GP that my fatigue extended well past “the newborn stage.” It took two more years, many tests, and different doctors to finally get the diagnosis of Hashimoto’s Hypothyroidism, which basically means my immune system is a confused bish who attacks my thyroid (my immune system is not a team player). That was five years ago. Since then I have been on a journey to get my condition under control and figure out what “normal” looks and feels like for me.
I spend a lot of my life playacting what I think a normal person is able to accomplish. But, it’s not uncommon for me to wake up in the morning and need an extensive nap 2 hours later. Or lack the energy to brush my hair. Or make dinner. I have to carefully schedule my days because if I overdo it, I will pay for it. There are days where a midday reprieve is not an option. Days where I can’t afford the fatigue and brain fog that plagues so many of us with autoimmune diseases. Days where sweatpants, even the stupid pants, will not cut it.
So this is my “take on the world” outfit. My “fake it till you make it” outfit. My “feel normal even when I’m definitely not” outfit. My “I can’t deal with makeup, but I can pull on a pair of jeans” outfit. An autoimmune disease is not a requirement. Everyone has “those kind of days.”
Comfy Jeans + Nice(ish) Top + Earrings = Cosplaying a Functioning Adult
My go-to jeans are my MOTHER Denim The Weekender Fray in Bazaars Adventures (find a few more sizes here). They make me feel hella cute but are stretchy enough that I don’t have to unbutton after eating #allthesnacks. My tried and true favorite “top that’s not a graphic tee or a campaign shirt” is this Soft Rayon Jersey Slouchy Pullover Top from Daily Ritual. It is slouchy, comfy, and timeless. You can dress it up or down. Paired with some fun earrings like my Garden Print ones from BR Design Co. (you can see all of my favs here) and flats (similar) and I can take on the world (armed with lots of coffee of course).
The “getting dressed so you don’t feel sleepy” is only one of my tricks. I have other things I employ on days where “I just can’t even.” This has been a trial and error process. Maybe it’ll work for you, maybe it won’t. Remember, you have a “limited number of spoons” so use them wisely. Obviously none of this is a replacement for seeing an actual doctor, which I am not. I don’t even play one on T.V. although — Shonda — if you’re looking I can send you my very impressive CV with acting credits such as “Background Actor #23523532423 in one episode of ‘Rescue Me.'”
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