I wanted to send an email to you ladies asking for help with my daughter's wardrobe. She has never fit the girl mold – pink! princesses! glitter! – that overruns kid clothing. And frankly, I don't blame her one bit. She prefers an edgy but comfortable wardrobe.
For years we have solved our troubles by buying her a mix of girl and boy fashions. She sports an adorable rocker chic/pixie hair style. But as she's getting older – first grade and more importantly size 7/8 – she's being mistaken for a boy on the playground. I'd love to empower her with a wardrobe that makes her feel like herself and lets her look as adorable as she is without covering herself head to toe in pink glitter. The problem? I can't find cute girl clothes. Can you help?
She does not want her ears pierced and only grudgingly allows me to paint her nails if I promise to use emerald green glitter or edgy grey polish. She loves high end denim, but…seriously kid! I only indulge her when Nordstrom Rack has goodies in her size. She chooses comfort over fashion every day of the week, and refuses anything that slows her down on the playground. Her rules, as I understand them:
Would love to hear your ever fashionable and sage thoughts. Keep on keepin' on, mama!
Soooo….let me get this straight: your first grade daughter hates dresses, loves high-end denim, and gets confused for a boy on the playground? Wow. That was, exactly, me.
Allll through elementary school, I was a playground warrior: jeans only, sneakers always, and a fussy belt or shrug would NOT have been happening. My most embarrassing moment, however, was in 5th grade, when a girl asked me to be her boyfriend. GAH! I almost died of shame. That girl, however, after realizing her mistake, just shrugged it off and was all like, "Whatever. You're boy-cute now…that just means you'll be really pretty someday."
I mean. The emotional maturity and self-confidence some girls posses. I'm still in awe of her.
In any case – I can relate to your daughter's plight. So I pulled together a small wardrobe, where most things can be mixed and matched. Because she's so young (first grade!!) I stayed away from getting too edgy…if she really wants some spikes and skulls, those are awesome accessories to add to any of these outfits.
Here's what I'm thinking:
1. I discovered pink Converse hightops in 6th grade, and they changed my life. For your daughter? Not glitter Converse, not sickly sweet light pink, but a hardcore, bright, almost-neon pink. BAM.
2. Add in a few strategic pops of hot pink in outdoor accessories (I'm showing hats here, but scarves or mittens would work too).
3. Mix patterns and textures with wild abandon! You can make some seriously cool outfits just by adding in some pattern – and it doesn't need to be overly girly or glittery.
hat: Le Big Neon Hat, $22
vest: Crewcuts Quilted Vest, $88
shoes: Converse Kids Double Zip in Paradise Pink, $37
Gap Baseball Sweater, $35
hat: Gap Rainbow Stripe Hat, $17
shoes: H&M Polka Dot Sneakers, $25
Gap shirt (sold out)….love this Crewcuts crown tee but any tee would work
Stephanie, how did I do?
I know some of the Crewcuts stuff is expensive, but it does tend to last (and I suspect you can find similar pieces elsewhere).
Gosh, this was fun to put together.