Weekend 11.14

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I didn’t believe her, at first. “Scotti,” I said into the phone, “the New York Times is NOT showing that he won. I keep refresh—“ 

“Shane” she interrupted, impatiently. “The AP just called it. It’s over.”

A clanging sound started, coming through our bedroom window from the street below. Mike slid the window open and we peered out. Our neighbor, Julie, was in the street banging pots and pans together. Up and down our block windows were flung open, neighbors whooped cries of joy, cars honked as they drove by, fists raised outside of rolled-down windows.  

“LET’S GO!!!” I heard Pax’s exuberant voice yell from the window downstairs. “WHOO HOO!!!”

Last weekend was a trip. It was an almost out-of-body experience, none of us realizing quite the physical toll of last four years until it was over.  

After hanging up with my sister, I immediately called my mom. She sobbed into the phone as I held it up high, letting the sounds of celebration — of Philadelphia’s joyous relief — reach her.

We masked up and wandered the streets. Everywhere we walked, people were cheering, cars were honking, Philadelphia had come to play.

Eventually, we met up with friends. We all followed the growing crowd to city hall, a slow-moving parade. Almost everyone was masked. People tried to keep their distance, but the urge to high-five or hug was strong. Instead, strangers beamed at each other, eyes crinkling behind their masks. I remember giving a lot of thumbs-ups, for lack of anything better to do. One young woman and I made eye contact, and then, standing 6 ft apart, clapped at each other for a minute. We just stood…applauding each other from a distance. It was a strange, glorious day.

At the City Hall there was music — Pax and his besties danced, of course — they’re all ham sandwiches — and speeches and cheering and….oh shit.

COVID.

I turned to look at Linzi. Her eyes met mine, our faces tense. She gave me the nod, the silent agreement to get the eff out and we immediately starting rounding up our crew.  

Within a minute? Two? We had left.  

It’s funny, in hindsight, we must’ve have had some sort of strange premonition. I remember, very clearly, having fun one second, and then — in the very next second — the dawning realization that This Was Not OK. And indeed, on our walk home, before we had even turned back onto our block, the first text from a friend came in: a positive COVID test.

Our friend group has been, for the most part, really diligent about social distancing outside and masking. While we talked very seriously about ‘podding’ it quickly became apparent that we would be too leaky a pod, and so our social interactions have basically been limited to outside, mostly masked. 

And yet. As I type this, five people I care about currently (and suddenly!!) have tested positive for COVID. The rest of us? Are one week into our two week quarantine, and both Philadelphia (and the US at large) are setting record numbers of COVID cases. In fact, the mayor of Philly has asked that everyone who was out and about celebrating last Saturday now quarantine for two weeks. 

2020 has often felt like we were living in another reality. But I think….I think that maybe this horrid alt-reality is what is true. And while Biden’s win did make me feel like some sort of hostage crisis had ended, the swift retort of COVID was a solid reminder of how much work we have left to do.

Mike is back working COVID numbers now. The situation is as dire as it’s ever been. There are strange patterns in the data, cases rising potentially through dinner parties and board game nights.  

So for now, we are clamping down on public celebrations. Even after we finish our 14-day quarantine, we will be dialing back on gatherings, cancelling Thanksgiving plans, and continue to be diligent about masking and physical distancing. We have, I suspect, a long winter ahead of us. However, I am still hopeful for our future. A vaccine is coming. A new, science-based administration is coming. Our country has much work to do, but first we must get this virus under control.  

So for now, we do our part. 


Smells like 2020. Nordstrom just came out with their holiday gift shop and it’s so freaking good. This 2020 candle cracked me up — it purportedly smells like ‘WFH and WTF’ which sounds about right. I’m more likely to burn the ‘Apres Ski‘ candle (‘smells like evergreen and after parties’) and I’m definitely getting my dear introverted Linzi the ‘comfort zone‘ candle which smells like ‘the joy of missing out’. And after the week she’s had (scroll to the bottom, here)…I suspect A would get a kick out of the 2021 candle, which smells like ‘not soon enough’. #yup

Oh hey, they’re back! Those super-warm, faux-fur lined sneaker boots that I wore all over last winter (even in Detroit, see here) have just been restocked. The description doesn’t mention it, but I just double-checked and yes: they’re waterproof.

For Holidays at home? Thoughts on J.Crew’s tiny gemstone sweater? I think it might be fun and festive. It looks almost over-the-top, without going too far. I’d wear the the gray with a colorful smokey eye (the rebel is my fav) and big earrings.

Silver linings. Since we’ve been on lockdown all week, I made it my mission to freaking finish my Black Friday picks already. It’s basically a brain dump of all of the numerous lists I’ve been making in preparation for our loooong winter ahead. I’ve got categories from Cute Snowboots to Road Trip Essentials, from Whimsical PJ’s to Beauty.

A girl can drool. I’m just gonna drop rag & bone’s insanely gorgeous bag and these knit ribbed pants riiiiight here and hope for a major sale. (ps. It looks like they just brought back my favorite black-wash jeans of all time, too, soooo…)

OMG! JERSEY KNIT! My longtime favorite, Cami NYC, the brand behind the silk cami I wear almost daily…has just come out with camis in jersey knit. There’s the classic racerback, the subtle cowl, and this gorgeous lace one. I haven’t been this excited about Jersey in a long, long time.

BLM tees from a BOB. I’ve been searching for a good Black Lives Matter tee…but instead of just getting one on Amazon, I wanted to support a Black-owned business in the process. Misfit Culture is my new favorite Etsy shop. Dee’s black pride and anti-racist tees are so good, and I also ordered a custom one that says, “GET IN GOOD TROUBLE”. Yasss.

It’s been a looong week…and I’m craving some comfort food. I might give Crowded Kitchen’s Vegan Scalloped Potatoes a try. And, if I’m really on a roll, maybe a vegan green bean casserole, too.

Our favorite jeans? That’s the subject of this Sunday’s special newsletter. If you haven’t yet subscribed, sign up here.

Yeah, and I’m playing Christmas music, too. It only seemed appropriate, as I hand-picked items to feature in our Holiday Gift Shop. Hope it’s a fun browse — I loved putting it together. (Gifts for the Adventurer might be my favorite section.)

Be safe out there, Gang.

xo,

S

28 COMMENTS

  1. Shana, I Was looking forward to hearing from you about Your home state’s call for Biden/Harris. Glad you joined the celebration for awhile but also glad you cut it short. Just like you described, I am also hearing about more cases in my circle of people. Time to rethink our upcoming movements.

    I have loved all the fashion inspiration, etc. since finding TME but what I love most is your words about our world. I can tell you are passionate and you have inspired me and educated me on things I did not completely understand. Keep it Up! Your voice matters. 🤗

  2. I was glad to see that the coverage of celebrations last weekend showed people wearing masks, but they made me nervous, honestly. I am suffering from major Covid fatigue and i really need it to end. What are your (and Mike’s) thoughts on the vaccines? I can’t decide how i feel about them yet. On a lighter note, I can’t wait for the jeans article! I’m struggling finding a pair right now. Also, we’ve been listening to Christmas music all week and I think I’m decorating today. One, because it makes me happy. Two, because I’ll do anything to speed up the end of 2020!!! Thanks so much for your words. I always look forward to your weekend posts!

  3. “Hostage crisis has ended”? And suddenly you think because Pfizer waited to announce the vaccine AFTER the election that it is a result of Biden listening to science? That’s quite laughable Shana.

    Can you please stick to fashion and beauty products?

    Your political views will alienate millions and should most definitely NOT be included in your writing. Sad and disappointing.

  4. Perhaps you missed all the writing about anti racist books and understanding and Black Lives Matter that TME has been writing about for months? Personally, I enjoy well rounded blogs that do more than say “buy this”. And if a blog I liked didn’t reflect me, I might take that into consideration. The women on this blog write what they want, and they know that some readers might not like it, but again, I figure most of those readers got weeded out over the summer.

    Your conspiracy theories about Pfizer aside, clearly what Shana means is that Biden will listen to scientists when it comes to Covid and climate change in his administrative policies, as opposed to Trump listening to Fox News talking heads. And its a shame that that sentence even needed to be said. And yes, many Americans felt held hostage by the Trump administration. And the sense oof relief is palpable in those circles.

  5. The comments never fail to disappoint. Fully anticipated the author’s narrative- it was a bit on the dramatic side- “hostage crisis”, “physical toll of the last 4 years”, but again that was to be expected. While it might be hard for many to believe, there are many others that felt the exact same way when Trump was elected 4 years ago (although the “physical toll hostage crisis” was 8 years long but whatever). Fair enough.

    Everyone has their own reasons for reading whatever blogs they choose, and it’s been obvious for quite some time that this particular blog has a specific political slant. And that’s totally okay. It’s woefully evident that literally anyone can start a ‘lifestyle’ blog and put whatever other topics they want and believe into it. The freedom to do so is a wonderful thing. I appreciate the fashion and clothing tips on this blog- in spite of the political/social commentary that’s rampant on it (and everywhere else for that matter). 99.9% of the time I just want to see what’s new at Nordstrom and Anthropologie. The other stuff I can manage on my own. Thank you for the fashion and clothing updates!

  6. Thank you, PA! And thank you to The Mom Edit crew for all your work in covering fashion, commentary, etc. For those that aren’t interested in particular posts, just scroll by. Don’t we all do that on Facebook or Instagram? If you don’t agree with something or someone, do you always comment? No, Just scroll on and come back the next day. And if you’re not interested at all, that’s cool, too. The Mom Edit knows what they’re doing. I, too, felt that a huge weight has been lifted and I didn’t even know I was under it, until I teared up. And yeah, I felt like many people do 4 years ago… and got through it. The blog is even more important now as we do our best to shield ourselves from COVID during the winter. Hibernate, and shop… hang in there, all.

  7. So comment only if you agree with the sentiments and commentary expressed by the author? I don’t know what people do on Instagram and Facebook- I choose not to be a part of those ‘communities’ so I don’t know that etiquette. The Mom Edit knows what they are doing to the extent that you agree with the opinions that are posted by the contributors. And everything posted- on any topic- is an opinion. Everyone usually has one.

  8. Wow. I always checked your post because I liked it. But I have three sons, 23, 21 and 17 and my response was way different than yours to this past so called election (cheaters will not prosper..CNN). We must see things from entirely different perspectives. I appreciate that. I can listen to other perspectives, but what I do not have tolerance for is socialism. I believe that human beings can do the right thing and that we don’t need government making choices for us. I would rather have our communities and churches involved than career
    politicians in Washington (both sides). What is going on in your neck of the woods??? I just don’t get it. I am not a US citizen. I am a legal alien – permanent resident alien (green card). My family and I came to this country in many years ago, legally, My parents worked hard and we were interviewed every year up to 1980. If my parents did not have jobs, if they were not paying taxes, if they violated laws, if they were not contributing to society we could be deported. I believe in borders. I believe in coming to this country the right way. I believe in contributing to society and not receiving hand outs. We live in the best land, we are loved by God and the body of Christ connects us…..”whatever is true, whatever is noble,….whatever is pure…think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
    No regrets. Do the work yourself. Don’t rely on media, friends, anyone. Do the work.

  9. Thank you Anonymous! Thank you for so eloquently articulating your thoughts, your life experiences and ultimately what so many of us believe and hold true. It is appreciated. Thank you.

  10. Amen to team anonymous… shana, et al., you seem tone deaf to the fact that others might disagree with you and hold valid (if different) viewpoints. I get this is your “religion”/identity more than it is for many others who hold their faith at the center of their belief systems, but nonetheless, your histrionic and close minded approach to these issues leaves little room for debate or open minded discussion. Are you even interested in what the other side believes or have you made up your mind that those who do not share your opinions are a bunch of pig headed (racist, bigoted, homophobic) Neanderthals?

  11. Shana – BRAVO to you and your team for keeping this blog accountable to the major political ans social issues facing all of us. If this was simply a fashion blog I would have checked out a long time ago. Your weekly personal posts are absolutely my favorite – to the point where I like to find a small corner in the house to read it uninterrupted. Thank you for your using your platform to elevate important social issues of our day. 👏👏👏

  12. Shana, Thank you always, always, for your eloquence and for NOT just focusing on fashion and lifestyle. In fact, in midlife I am finding myself becoming less interested in shopping and more interested in showing my kids a just, equitable, sustainable way of life. I personally wish those commenters who bash you for not sticking to certain topics would leave their comments elsewhere. I mean, bringing up your fear of socialism as a response to Shana’s post? What exactly are you commenting on except your own bias?

  13. The platform of the “lifestyle blog” being used to truly elevate the important social issues of our day rings true IF the dialogue presents all sides/perspectives of the issues presented- not just that which supports the author’s agenda. Unfortunately, the vast majority of public media outlets are incredibly biased and this blog is no different. But, if it happens to match your personal/socio-political viewpoints, then it naturally becomes valid. Sadly, the options for truly unbiased information, reporting and open ended discussion on just about every topic are significantly limited.

    Bias exists everywhere, and it is apparent some do not tolerate well the expression of an opposing viewpoint that digresses from the ‘platform’ of the blog author which, very obviously, illustrates their own bias. In short, comment only if you agree with the mothership otherwise the wagons get circled. Personally, I have never felt the need or desire to rely on a lifestyle blog to inspire or influence how I think, act, or lead a socially conscious and responsible life. It really is just about the clothes and shoes. The rest I can, and do, handle independently. But, to each her/his own.

  14. What a preposterous comment. This is Shana’s blog, not yours, and she’s free to post her thoughts as she chooses. It’s not your place to try to censor her. She’s clearly made the calculation that being on the right side of history matters more than potentially alienating readers that might disagree with her.

  15. Michigan resident here. I can’t agree with you enough! Every single day for four years reading about Trump’s moronic statements was exhausting! And I’m not even that liberal! Let’s never forget about the “good people on both sides” of a white supremacist march, nor the “stand by” comment to Proud Boys. yeesh. Now we have a massive temper tantrum from the same man (dude, you lost). I went into his presidency with a skeptical but hopeful attitude, praying he would do well for all, and I’m leaving his presidency convinced he is a sociopath and baffled that anyone could listen to him and still vote for him. As for those of you who don’t agree, well, everyone is entitled to their own opinions and can comment accordingly. I’ll never get how anyone can like Trump, but hey whatever! Let’s just agree to keep the democracy going and be hopeful for the next president!

  16. Thank you, Alexa, for proving my point exactly. It is obviously not my blog- I never said it was- and I’m not sure where in my comment I said the author is not free to post their thoughts and they choose too? One of my points was that the author is biased- like most all of us are- and if you do not agree with her biases then your comments are, well, responded to in the manner such as yours (“preposterous comment”; “the right side of history”… so if you do not agree, you are on the wrong side?). By the way, it’s impossible for me to censor- or try to censor- the author of this blog by my comment. For your reference, the definition of censor: To “censor” is to review something and choose to remove or hide parts of it that are considered unacceptable. That’s clearly not what happened by my posting of a comment. Perhaps you simply did not like an opposing opinion? Circle those wagons…..

  17. Great post, Shana! The palpable feeling of relief was evident here, too, with people dancing in the street and relieved that our government might finally listen to science to protect us from the scourge of Covid-19, and again work to protect the soils, waters, and air that sustain us all. The mix of fashion and politics is refreshing. Keep up the good work! (And may you eventually have *millions* of followers so that you can alienate them, as Mjo warns 🙂 )

    Seems like folks who are worried about socialism should not be consuming free fashion advice, but probably investing their own labor to create their own!

  18. The millions of folks worried about socialism are busy working at real jobs. The ones consuming the free fashion advice must have lots of free time to read super important blogs like this. Oh wait- that includes you and me both. Guess we all have something in common after all.

  19. You told her to stick to fashion and beauty. In other words, to keep her political views to herself. It’s not your place to tell someone on their own blog that they shouldn’t express their relief that the current administration is finally going out the door. And it’s condescending to suggest that a woman fashion blogger can’t expand her commentary to other topics. Perhaps you’re offended that she’s not giving views like yours equal space, but it’s Shana’s blog and she doesn’t owe you anything. She’s cultivated an incredible space with diverse contributors and readers, and I for one would have found it alienating if she had taken the “safe” path that lots of influencers have followed, of just prattling on about the latest eyeshadow palette as if the world wasn’t in crisis.

  20. Excellent, BR. I’m glad you’ve identified our common ground so we can begin a thoughtful conversation. I’m curious what aspects of socialism concern you the most, and where you see them in evidence these days? What negative consequences do you see now or predict for the future?

  21. I never wrote the blog author should “stick to fashion and beauty”. Nor did I ever suggest that she couldn’t, or shouldn’t, comment on whatever she wants or express any of her personal opinions. As I said before, it is a given that it is her blog and she can write what she chooses. I said I do not rely on a blog to inspire, influence, or affirm how I lead my life- for me, it is just about the fashion (by the way, I never said beauty, but I’ve accepted there is a pattern of misrepresenting my words). I do not need the blog author to provide any alternate views or opposing commentary equal space (fashion/lifestyle blogs are not my source for that kind of information) and it most certainly would never offend me if she didn’t. That would, to a large degree, imply that I value her opinion or deem it more valid/important than my own (I don’t). But that obviously doesn’t mean she is not entitled to her opinion or that her opinion doesn’t have the same personal value. She has a right to share her opinion in whatever manner she chooses.

    My point- for the second time- is that differing opinions of the blog author are not receptively accepted by some readers of this blog (at least those, like yourself, that comment). If a reader submits a comment that contradicts the blog author’s, it is not uncommon that a fellow reader will come to the immediate ‘defense’ of the blog author, sometimes almost in a most adolescent manner. There appears to be a genuine lack of open communication and free dialogue here; if you are not on the “side” of the author, there may be consequences in the comment section or, at minimum, the ubiquitous “if you don’t like it then just scroll on” verbage. Naturally, you would have found it alienating if she took the “safe” path because you apparently support and believe in her opinions and socio-ideological platform. As such, it doesn’t appear you can truly appreciate or see any value in a divergent one.

  22. Thanks Elizabeth for asking! There is an article titled “What Americans Must Know about Socialism” on heritage.org by Dr. Lee Edwards. It is a lengthy read, but it does delineate the social, humanitarian, political and ideological aspects of socialism from both current and historical perspectives. Additionally it provides in clear detail the ‘consequences’ of socialism in context of past global crises and the current state of the socialist movement within the younger populace of America and the Democratic party.

    I think most would agree that the comments section of a fashion blog is not an appropriate, or truly viable, venue for a lengthy discussion, which is why I provided the article for your reference. That said, I suspect your interest in a “thoughtful conversation” is more rooted in satirical retribution for our exchange of sarcastic comments (which, by the way, you initiated in response to another reader’s commentary regarding Socialism), rather than a genuine interest in another’s thoughts or opinions. Perhaps not, but regardless happy (and hopefully open-minded) reading!

  23. Hi BR — I was quite serious – it’s hard to tell tone in a comments section – because I truly believe the only way forward as a country is through thoughtful dialogue.

    Thank you for the reference to the article. I will take a look after my workday is over. I am curious, though, since you say that the article is lengthy, if you would care to summarize *your* main concerns? I imagine the author lays out a range of possibilities and concerns, and I wonder which ones most affect you personally? I find that thinking concretely is more apt to lead to common ground.

    Best wishes to you!

  24. Hi again. Thank you for your sincerity. You are correct- the author does lay out several concerns and points. And, in the spirit of full disclosure (although you will see it firsthand if you have a chance to read it!), the author is a historian of American conservatism and a “distinguished fellow of conservative thought”. Just putting that out there beforehand 🙂 If you hold his points to be accurate or valid, Socialism as a form of ‘government’ has had absolutely devastating consequences in the history of our world in the past 100-200 years (not per say directly in America itself, but other countries) and ultimately has never been successful. That, in itself, is reason for concern.

    He references the ‘millennial’ generation often in the article and how the realities of Socialism (and Communism) are not fully grasped or understood by them (the article offers data points/’statistics’ to this end). One of the quotes of a millennial he references who was commenting about his own peers: “They don’t recognize that much of what they enjoy in life is a result of capitalism and would disappear if socialism were to be implemented. They haven’t seen socialism’s failures firsthand.” This lack of true awareness and fundamental knowledge of the consequences and realities of Socialism in the ‘younger’ generation (if, of course, you subscribe to his viewpoints) is, to be honest, very alarming.

    Again, it is just one person’s views, albeit a very highly educated person on the topic (I’m not saying his opinions are any more, or less, valid then anyone else’s though!). Hope you have the chance to check it out. Take care 🙂

  25. Hi BR, Who knows if anyone is checking this thread anymore, but I can’t resist one more weigh-in after reading your last post. What you need to understand, BR, is that when people like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez or Bernie Sanders use the word “socialism,” they are referring to what in most other parts of the world would simply be known as “social democracy.” This is not “socialism” in the USSR sense of government taking over private industry. It means, rather, an expansion of the “social safety net” in the sense of things like Medicare, Social Security, etc. Having a National Health Service like Britain or Canada would fall into this category. In Europe this is considered a fairly moderate, not far-left, position. The right in the US, however, calls it all “socialism” in an attempt to whip up fear in voters like yourself who then become worried that liberals want to turn the US into a version of the USSR. Of course, to some extent politicians on the left also use the term to reassure their own far left. But the main point is, if you look at these politicians’ actual policies, they are not “socialist” in the sense to which your article refers. The irony is most Americans are very attached to social programs like Social Security and Medicare that, when first proposed by FDR, met the same cries of socialism that Medicare for All does today.
    Here is a quick read explaining what I’ve said here:
    https://qz.com/1805692/bernie-sanders-isnt-a-democratic-socialist-he-is-a-social-democrat/
    Oh and P.S., The really funny part of all this is that Biden isn’t even a social democrat, let alone a socialist! He’s a very centrist, moderate Democrat who ran against a very extremist Republican. (The fact that someone like George W. Bush routinely critiques Trump is proof of the latter characterization.)

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