It’s been quite a week. Weeks like this – with horror and senseless violence fueled by hate – always leave me feeling….shaky. My first thought is always of the mothers. Of the crushing, inescapable sorrow. Of the gunman’s own mother – what happened to him, Mama? I stare into the open, loving faces of my two little boys and can’t imagine how any human can grow up to kill innocent people.
More hugs? That’s my personal answer when on shaky ground. More hugs and kisses and that overwhelming sense of peace that only comes when we’re all cuddled up in bed together, limbs intertwined. As my arms wrap and my feet tuck, I can literally feel the love coursing through my veins. God knows I am a flawed mom, but if I can get one thing right, it’s this: I want to openly demonstrate my unconditional love. It’s so easy to focus on accomplishments or good behavior (“you worked so hard!!” is our 2016 version of praise), but unconditional love is both more than that, and simpler, too. It’s love that will never have to be earned. It’s love that is there simply because I am their mom, they are my babies.
One of my very favorite children’s books is by Dr. Laura (of all people). Despite her, um, other issues, Why Do You Love Me? is a book the kids and I turn to when we all need a reminder of what unconditional love looks like.
“You are going to feel whatever you are feeling. Angry, sad, hurt or lonely – whatever the feeling is – it’s all right to feel it. But then take the time to remember that love is like the sun in the sky. It’s there, shining warm in your heart even on the angry, cloudy days.”
The message is beautiful. It’s pure love.
If you are looking to help in a more direct way to help, Everytown is a good place to start.
The Modern Mrs. Darcy is celebrating 16 years of marriage, and her latest article, What Makes a Relationship Strong? is a really good one (hint: Choose kindness.)
My husband has spent the last few years working on a predictive alerting and response system for severe sepsis. That system, called Penn Signals, finally went live on Monday. If anyone is interested, you can read a little about it (and more of Mike’s HIMSS talk) here.
We’ve been making this quinoa pizza crust on the regular. She adds fancy toppings, but we just add tomato sauce. It’s more like tomato pie (is that just a Philly thing??) and my kids LOVE it.
I’m thinking of reading The Circle next. Has anyone else read it? Thoughts?
J.Crew is having a sale on sale. Take an additional 40% off already reduced items. In addition to this Hatch-like dress, here are five pieces I’m considering:
Laura has her eye on Sole Society’s 50% off sale this weekend. Here are her picks:
Lastly, I’m looking for an easy, everyday dress that I can wear with a regular bra and sneakers. Is this it?
Enjoy your Father’s Day weekend! We’re heading to a ball game #GoPhillies, and on Father’s Day the boys actually have a hip-hop performance, which should be hysterical. Raines is nervous and Pax? Well…we’ll see if Pax participates. He, uh, likes to do his own thing.
Anyway, I gotta run – I’m the Fun Friday mom at school today. It’s the end of the year, you guys, so I’m just bringing in play-doh and chips, all HERE KIDS. DO YOUR THING.