We used to have 1 date night in a 6-month period during our first years as parents. More or less, I’m not sure. What I’m sure of is that our marriage was suffering. 

Have you taken the 5 love languages quiz? Or read the book? Well, my main love language is quality time, for Ron it’s second. As much as we’d like it to be true, crashing on the couch to “watch” Netflix “together” — aka fall asleep —  is not quality time. We’ve found that if we don’t plan quality time, we’ll let other things take its place. And it definitely has to be weekly; I’ve noticed when we don’t, we feel disconnected. 

This year on our 9th anniversary, we made a list of things we wanted to do for us:

• Have two weekends a year without kids — getaway or staycation. Should we go back to Cartagena? Our first trip ever without kids. I wish, but this year we can’t. In January we celebrated our anniversary at a spa only 30 min away from home. We enjoyed it just as much.
• Weekly date nights. We decided to alternate one week at home, the other outside. It doesn’t matter whether it’s full dinner, an appetizer and a drink, or another activity. As we’re just establishing this habit, we haven’t gotten very creative yet. Ideas are more than welcome!

My Go-To Date Night Outfit

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If you follow me on Instagram (@julietatorresd) you may have seen I wore this outfit to our past 2 date nights. Outfit recycler for sure!

My favorite date night outfits are those that don’t need a lot of work, yet, help me feel sophisticated. I almost always end up keeping on the same jeans I was wearing all day with a tee. But I LOVE to switch the top. Whether you’re in an office or caring for your kids all day, it’s important to wear a piece that helps you remember you’re more than a mom, employee or boss.

My Date Night Outfit Formula = Jeans + Sexy Top + Low Heels 

And you’ll always see me wearing something in a shade of red, the color of passion, desire and love. I believe the colors we wear show different sides of our personalities. So for date nights, I find a piece in a shade of red that flatters my skin tone. Husband always compliments me!

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Full honesty here, I spent way more than I usually do on this top. But! It was exactly the top I’d been looking for in months. The color, design and quality…everything. I’m also a big fan of Song of Style and loved her collection.  97% cotton with 3% elastane, lined in rayon – I hate when things are lined with polyester. You’ll see me wearing the heck out of it, you know…to lower that cost per wear.

Shop Red Date Night Tops

Because we all have different complexions, I’ve rounded up different shades of red. Even pink because bright red might be too harsh for some, below:

I wear these Levi’s jeans weekly. They’re comfy, look great and contrary to my rigid denim, these have some stretch, are soft and break-in super fast. Size down if between sizes. 

As per shoes, last year I took the plunge on this style of shoe. I got these from Zara to see if they’d be practical for me. A year and 1,000 wears later, I can say they are. So I’m ready to invest in better quality like these Jon Josef that look slightly sexier and I bet they’re way more comfortable. This is a timeless style to keep in your forever closet.

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Besos, Julieta

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